Chastity = slow feminization / turning to bisexual.

[Little Boy Lost]

It may sound a bit weird, lol.

I have never been excited to penetrate a woman. Maybe because I couldn't keep it hard for long, or cumming too fast, or maybe that was because I wasn't into penetration.... Now, of course, there is Viagra and all the numbing cremes, so the fucking process goes much better. But that was like a job, not enjoyment... Anyways.. I chose to wear a cage, I am wearing it.

I am still into women, I think, like to serve them, to eat them and all. Love to be humiliated by them. I like them to peg me, to cum from pegging. But I also dream of sucking a cock. Not getting fucked by a cock, since I am used to big dildos. Too big, lol. But sucking a cock, make a man cum - that excites me, yes. I never tried with a man, just some fantasies.

So, does chastity make you gay, bisexual? Or is it just the manifestation of my nature? A way to deal with my real tendencies.?

Anyways, thank you for listening! good site, some great people, I am enjoying my time here. Will start uploading pics once I get some more courage.

 

[TangoSub]

First, welcome to CM. I would say Chastity doesnt "make" you anything you weren't already somewhat predisposed too/towards. Chastity can be many things and different things for different individuals.

Explore the Mansion and read through many posting and journals here. You will find a vast number of perspectives and experiences with chastity from all parties and persuasions .

Good luck in your journey and again Welcome.

 

[CuriousAndy]

Yep, sexual orientation, kinks and fantasies are all seperate things. But can be combined and explored if we choose in lots of fun ways.

Personally my Wife/Mistress and I have been into chastity for a long time. I've always obsessed about women and their bodies. I find it really hard to understand why women find men attractive, never mind me finding men attractive

 

[Little Boy Lost]

Yep, sexual orientation, kinks and fantasies are all seperate things. But can be combined and explored if we choose in lots of fun ways.

Personally my Wife/Mistress and I have been into chastity for a long time. I've always obsessed about women and their bodies. I find it really hard to understand why women find men attractive, never mind me finding men attractive

I find it hard to understand why would a woman become a key holder? Some kind of motherly instinct? Love

 

[Shepherdsflock]

Chastity didn't do any of that to me.

 

[LesterBallard]

Chastity allows you to explore whatever your subconscious is interested in. For you it's cocksucking. For others it may be feet, punishment, whatever. It's all good.

 

[Annemarie]

I have been crossdressing long before chastity, so I am aware of my feminine side and feelings. But when caged it enhances this feelings and I found out that I even fantasize about pleasing cock, cum swallowing and being pounded. I am not attracted to men, these thoughts seem to get stronger after a period of locking. Might be something that was already part of my subconscious like LesterBallard said.

 

[Rimmer69]

My wife and I have been practicing chastity for a good few years now, and always had a kinky lifestyle, which includes alsorts of toys, anal, oral bdsm, pegging etc, but she has never wanted to swing or have a bull.
Myself I've always had thoughts of having sex with men, and I love looking at pictures of the male body and watching male porn.
A few years ago I joined a male only contact site, and met up with a few men and had sex with them orally and anally, as both a top and bottom and I loved the experiences, especially the oral side of it and the tasting of cum, the only thing was the wife was oblivious of my goings on, and I got a guilty consciousness of doing it and stopped it after several months.
When I get pegged now or suck on her dildo, I still get thoughts of my bi encounters, and I think now she has an inclination that I would to try a real cock but not said anything, she just knows I love being her anal slave.
I hope all goes well for you, and you Enjoy being here at the Mansion and being an active member of the community.

 

[Mr_anonymous]

Never had an interest in men or being feminine before being caged. Been caged awhile now still zero interest in these things so no.

 

[JaySaysYes]

It sounds like you are gay already, maybe you just need to accept and explore it more.

 

[Betrlocked8]

I've been into chastity for 20 years or so now. I know for some sissification or feminization is part of the fun. As for me, I am not interested in that kind of stuff. What excites me is knowing I'm controlled by a strong female (now two strong females) . My most masculine part, my penis is locked to where I can't even get an erection without one of them allowing me. Every day and every minute I am reminded that what many men brag about is completely inaccessible to me and no longer really mine.

 

[DonnaSue]

I agree @CS2 ! I always had an interest in lingerie from my childhood, but it wasn't fully manifested until I was caged many year later in life.

 

[Little Boy Lost]

It sounds like you are gay already, maybe you just need to accept and explore it more.

I don't think so. Dealing with other male bodies and overall the dynamics between two men scares me. The cock is different though

 

[CuriousAndy]

I find it hard to understand why would a woman become a key holder? Some kind of motherly instinct? Love

I can answer that one.

My better half loves my obedience. Strictly speaking you don't need to be caged for that but we made orgasm control part of a FLR.

She also loves that sexual activity is purely when she's in the mood and what she's in the mood for. Her sex drive is lower than mine, apparently my cock can be annoying

 

[ChazTD]

I don't think so. Dealing with other male bodies and overall the dynamics between two men scares me. The cock is different though

Just embrace your bisexuality. So you want to suck a dick just do it. The cage didn't make you that way. You are who you are and that's why you are into chastity and dick sucking. nothing to be ashamed of.

 

[JamesD]

I guess extended chastity will make you more able to communicate your feelings, do the washing and cook your partner nice food, so from that perspective alone it will take you closer to the archetypal female.

 

[BavarianWoman]

We use the same dawer of panies meanwhile, but make.up is just for me.

 

[Byrdie]

It sounds like you are gay already, maybe you just need to accept and explore it more.

Based on your original post:

I have never been excited to penetrate a woman.

(... SNIP ...)

But I also dream of sucking a cock.

This sounds like an interest that predates chastity for you.

 

[Little Boy Lost]

Based on your original post:



This sounds like an interest that predates chastity for you.

Now, what do I do with that, lol?

Thank you!

 

[Byrdie]

Now, what do I do with that, lol?

Accept that chastity is not the reason behind your desires, or lack thereof.

If your marriage is monogamous, then just continue on with that knowledge. Maybe experiment with very realistic dildos given your claim that you’re not interested in any other part of a man.

If your marriage is a bit more open, perhaps now is the time to sit down with your wife about what would be acceptable ways for you to explore further, how, and safer sex practices.

 

[jemima]

i think really that it only makes you fem if you want it to. i seen a lot of men in chastity cages thats proper men that wud never change to a girl.

 

[Rectrix]

For me, long-term chastity, knowing that masturbation and PIV were off the table, and the increased horniness, had the effect of opening my mind previously unthinkable alternatives. When I'm stewing in my unreleased juices my mind goes other places. The cage is quite freeing in that way.

 

[JaySaysYes]

It's had the opposite effect on me. I my deepened, I bought a chainsaw, I sleep naked, upside-down, chained to a waterfall...

 

[Betrlocked8]

For me, long-term chastity, knowing that masturbation and PIV were off the table, and the increased horniness, had the effect of opening my mind previously unthinkable alternatives. When I'm stewing in my unreleased juices my mind goes other places. The cage is quite freeing in that way.

Absolutely the truth.

 

[Now Alexandra]

I'm responding to this as an overall topic rather than the single OP.

In my opinion, it's not as easy as "you are what you are," meaning if you were interested in guys before and had some bi inclinations then it isn't the chastity making you feel this way - you already felt this way. While this is undeniably true, I know in my case chastity + FLR has definitely resulted in me considering sex with a man as a positive experience. While this hasn't happened yet, that desire never existed prior to being in this lifestyle the last 2.5 years.

My wife has made it very clear that being inside her is not an option. She's also made it clear that my feminization is critical to our happiness. I resisted this idea for some time and that slowed the process. After about a year I relented and stopped fighting what was explained as inevitable. This naturally sped the process.

Two years of ever-expanding sessions, extensive communication between us, reading about femininity and the path, writing about it in my journal, watching videos, endless hypno, daily affirmations, casual and teased out "admissions", rewards, punishments ... I am immersed in a feminine world. I didn't choose it. I don't begrudge it, but it wasn't my idea or direction. However, it's better for us this way. It makes her happy and that makes me happy. Through it we have found a deeper connection.

I suppose to sum up - if you're in a Female Led Relationship and your "leader" wants something, she is ultimately going to get it.