I have been playing with cages for years, holding my own key. My wife and have experimented together with chastity the last several months until she decided she didn't want to play anymore (all my fault as realized in my intro post in the foyer). We have had a few good discussions since and she is willing to start back in with short term lockups. I'm estatic that she is willing not only willing, but excited to participate. After thinking about our conversations she has told me she will hold my keys, but not until she's ready.. or wants to play. Until then I am not to wear the cage and it is to remain in the drawer. I started to protest and saw her face light up with a smile as she said "leave it there or I'm not playing". Call me crazy, but this is kind of tough. After all of those years wearing on my own I got used to it and miss not wearing it. I hope she wants to play soon, I'm missing my cage. I think it's very obvious to her I want to explore this with her badly and she's having fun playing keep away. For being all vanilla and stuff she sure seems like a natural at denying me what I want and controlling the situation.