It takes time and she needs to come to her own understanding of the benefits of your chastity to her. You cannot make her feel positive about your chastity. All you can do is become a better, less demanding and more attentive partner. Women like a holistic approach to a relationship so it is also not just about the times you get to be naked together. You help around the house, you sit with her in the evenings, you paint her nails and massage her neck. You spend your time trying to please her non sexually as much as you do sexually.
Then, over time, she will see for herself how your denial makes you putty at her fingertips. The slightest touch and you are responsive to her. You start to concentrate on her much more. Not looking at porn makes her more confident that you find her sexy, that you are not masturbating to some unobtainable sexual standard that she could never achieve.
It isn't about becoming less of a man. It is about becoming more of a man. Not being scared to do things society has somehow come to see as women's work. Don't ask her to micromanage you as that will annoy most women. Don't wait to be told what to do, find out what she likes and offer to do them. Make her a drink when she gets in from work, offer to massage her feet, talk with her and actually listen to what she says.
This is what I did with my Wife and she is becoming a most amazing Mistress. She is happier, more in control, more assertive and more relaxed than ever before. She tells people how good a husband I am and how happy we are together. Most of our friends are happy for us but you can see that some are jealous of what we have. If only they knew how easy it was to get this for themselves.
