How do you decide if your /s can have a release

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Hey all.
My D/ is curious how other Dominants decide when/if their /s can have an orgasm and which type of orgasm (e.g., full PIV orgasm, half hand job orgasm). So the question to you, how do you as D/ decide when the /s can have an orgasm and which type? What is the underlying reasoning?

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My Goddess informed me at the beginning of the year that she doesn’t need PIV and I’m better behaved without orgasms! She is serious as we just had a ten day holiday and all I was allowed to was to worship her feet under strict instructions not to cum!

It’s going to be a long year but I still thank her for keeping me caged and for not allowing me any orgasms!

Of course my Goddess does/ has whatever she pleases…….
 
My Goddess informed me at the beginning of the year that she doesn’t need PIV and I’m better behaved without orgasms! She is serious as we just had a ten day holiday and all I was allowed to was to worship her feet under strict instructions not to cum!

It’s going to be a long year but I still thank her for keeping me caged and for not allowing me any orgasms!

Of course my Goddess does/ has whatever she pleases…….
Cool! How did she decide on that? In the end, is she a hotwife? If not, how did she decide that she doesn't need PIV and orgasms?
 
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Cool! How did she decide on that? In the end, is she a hotwife? If not, how did she decide that she doesn't need PIV and orgasms?
My Goddess definitely enjoys controlling me and she enjoys herself too
Cool! How did she decide on that? In the end, is she a hotwife? If not, how did she decide that she doesn't need PIV and orgasms?
I didn’t she she doesn’t like or have orgasms, my Goddess decides on when and how if the mood takes her which is quite frequent, I’m the one who doesn’t get them and bizarrely the longer it goes the more I’m keen to keep it going for her amusement!
 
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Hey all.
My D/ is curious how other Dominants decide when/if their /s can have an orgasm and which type of orgasm (e.g., full PIV orgasm, half hand job orgasm). So the question to you, how do you as D/ decide when the /s can have an orgasm and which type? What is the underlying reasoning?
When we have sex, I cum (with rare exception). She likes it that way.
 
My Wife just decides when she’s ready to grant me a ruin or a full, sometimes she makes me go weeks and sometimes she’ll make me cum 2-3 times over a few day span. No rhyme or reason really.
When we first started playing with a cage, we tried many different things, waiting X amount of days in between like 7 days or 10 days, and then tried going longer but I’d know when it was going to happen. Then we tried every couple weeks I’d get a full.
We’d discuss different goals, but after the first couple years she started weaning me down on all orgasms, especially the last three years they’ve been cut down significantly, not compared to some longer term guys, but for me personally it’s been big drops. She never makes me go too long without a ruin though, I’ve had stints of 50-60 days in between full orgasms, but I think my longest without any orgasms at all is only like 50 days.
I don’t know if she plans anything out or not, I believe she’s just winging it and when she wants to make me cum, she does.
 
I Have No Idea.

My girlfriend and I are still early in our FLR journey—we only started exploring it around September last year. She knows I’ve always been interested in chastity, but a few months ago, I took it a step further and offered her complete authority over my orgasms. I told her that while I craved it, I didn’t want to feel like I was topping from the bottom or pressuring her into something she didn’t truly want. But she did want it. She accepted control, and since then, my release has never been up for discussion or negotiation—it simply belongs to her.

Because we live apart, I always have access to the key. I’m working to extend my lock-up times, but I struggle to wear a cage for more than 36 hours without a break. That said, I have promised her that I won’t touch myself unless it’s for hygiene or maintenance. Whether I’m caged or not, my pleasure is hers to dictate.

When we’re together, she often allows me to remove my cage, and I’m permitted to get hard—even if she isn’t touching me. Sometimes, when we’re naked, and I’m pleasuring her, my arousal is undeniable, yet there is never an expectation that I will be allowed to cum. She enjoys teasing me, holding me on the edge, knowing that my need for release grows with each denied orgasm.

She likes me to “give her my seed,” so I know orgasms will happen eventually—I just don’t know when. And that lack of certainty is intoxicating. I find myself craving her even more, thinking about her control at all hours, knowing my pleasure is entirely in her hands.

Am I frustrated? Desperately. Do I want an orgasm? More than anything. But would knowing a scheduled release date make it better or worse? I’m honestly not sure. The idea of her setting a date, with the authority to delay it for misbehavior, is incredibly hot—but it might also take away the beautiful, torturous unpredictability of it all.

Ultimately, I don’t think she has any firm plan for when I’ll be allowed to cum—it will just happen when it pleases her. And that’s both maddening and utterly perfect.