Wondering how many people out there regret getting into chastity. Like if you are locked now, but wish you never went down this path, I'd be interested to hear from you.
How Many Regret Getting into Chastity?
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I think I might be in that category (I'm not in chastity now). I think the chastity might have mesed with me psychologically so that now that I have need of erections, I'm having trouble sustaining them.
Maybe it's age related hormone depletion (my test was very low normal) but I notice that I can still get hard when chastity and FLR and femdom imagery is viewed or read about.
I am not absolutely sure what is going on with me. I can get erections but can't quite stay hard enough for penetration - even with a drop dead gorgeous ENM partner. I use viagra and I'm on test replacement - which is good for other issues I'm having - and I am working out to improve blood flow and muscle tone in the nether regions, but I still wonder if chastity, femdom, and humiliation have emasculated me so much that I'm never going to be able to reliably satisfy my lover.
I was able to give her an excellent time last date we had, however it was with help from viagra and I would have been able to perform like a champion in the past.
Is it age? Is it conditioning? I don't know.
On the other hand, if my partner expressed interest in locking me up and cuckolding or sissifying me etc, I would be down....but she isn't. SHe wants the D as the kids say.
Not for a minute.
I love being locked and only 28 days away from 2 years locked 24/7, 365 and fully denied.
No erections, no orgasms and no sexual interaction.
She loves that she is not 'pestered' for sex and that I am so well behaved.
I love the power she holds over me.
I would feel weird without a cage, being smooth and not wearing panties.
So any regrets; absolutely none.....
I love being locked and only 28 days away from 2 years locked 24/7, 365 and fully denied.
No erections, no orgasms and no sexual interaction.
She loves that she is not 'pestered' for sex and that I am so well behaved.
I love the power she holds over me.
I would feel weird without a cage, being smooth and not wearing panties.
So any regrets; absolutely none.....
I have no going back for myself even self locked I feel this has been something I have needed for a long time
its so nice to feel this on me and to strain inside of it when I can. love to try to tease it myself
its so nice to feel this on me and to strain inside of it when I can. love to try to tease it myself
Kind of.
It's a bit like any sexual fascination really - whatever childhood experience promoted the fixation to take root, inevitably impinges upon what you need from a relationship. And it becomes more of a psychological need as time goes on.
So you'd either get lucky with finding someone you are both attracted to and who is willing to embrace that part of you.
Or you'll get the 99% experience where they don't like it, don't understand it and don't care.
This leads to which aspects of your identity you are willing to forgo just to have a normal life, while the abandoned ones sit there like a cold void.
Being a normie looks so dull, but god their lives are simpler...
It's also a bit of an attention sink, sometimes being more engaging to think about than the dozens of more productive hobbies. But other people's experiences and lives are very interesting.
It's a bit like any sexual fascination really - whatever childhood experience promoted the fixation to take root, inevitably impinges upon what you need from a relationship. And it becomes more of a psychological need as time goes on.
So you'd either get lucky with finding someone you are both attracted to and who is willing to embrace that part of you.
Or you'll get the 99% experience where they don't like it, don't understand it and don't care.
This leads to which aspects of your identity you are willing to forgo just to have a normal life, while the abandoned ones sit there like a cold void.
Being a normie looks so dull, but god their lives are simpler...
It's also a bit of an attention sink, sometimes being more engaging to think about than the dozens of more productive hobbies. But other people's experiences and lives are very interesting.
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Looking back almost three years since I first stumbled upon chastity, I can honestly say I don't regret it, even when being self-locked. Yes, it gave our lives a good shake, but it has brought us even closer together.
Do I regret chastity? No. It fits with who I am.
Do I regret opening that door of honesty and openness and sculpting a dynamic that truly fits us? That’s another story!
Blowjobs three times a week, intercourse more so, to have a wife that would take any position and do nearly anything… to give that up is hard. To have pangs of needing those moments even in the knowledge that they add nothing to us in the long term.
Knowing that my wife is happier controlling our sex life. Knowing she controls that and it spills out positively to the rest of our existence. Knowing that she is happy to never let me inside her again, that it wouldn’t be for her benefit, just for me…
Somethings are just hard to let go. Living in ignorant blissfulness had it’s positives.
The worst part is, I couldn’t even make a case to revert back to how we were. She knows exactly who I am now and is fully aware of her responsibilities. To herself, as much as me.
Shes happier saying no, she gets off on it. I can’t say I don’t either.
Do I regret opening that door of honesty and openness and sculpting a dynamic that truly fits us? That’s another story!
Blowjobs three times a week, intercourse more so, to have a wife that would take any position and do nearly anything… to give that up is hard. To have pangs of needing those moments even in the knowledge that they add nothing to us in the long term.
Knowing that my wife is happier controlling our sex life. Knowing she controls that and it spills out positively to the rest of our existence. Knowing that she is happy to never let me inside her again, that it wouldn’t be for her benefit, just for me…
Somethings are just hard to let go. Living in ignorant blissfulness had it’s positives.
The worst part is, I couldn’t even make a case to revert back to how we were. She knows exactly who I am now and is fully aware of her responsibilities. To herself, as much as me.
Shes happier saying no, she gets off on it. I can’t say I don’t either.
I love being in chastity. It feels very comfortable when I am wearing one and I hate to be out of it. It’s kind of like Linus’ blanket. I’ll do anything to stay in it.
Unsure. I miss having erections and penis stimulation but love the control my wife has over me. I love giving her oral and she typically comes multiple times during our sessions.
We started chastity to get my masturbation under control. It wasn’t healthy, made me short tempered and not interested in sex.
I’m done with masturbation now, and am allowed to come ever 3 to 6 weeks. Without regular stroking and teasing, I have no stamina and come in under a minute when free, and within 3 minutes whilst locked.
Do I regret starting chastity? Probably not. It’s definitely improved our intimacy but feel somewhat neglected without erections and direct hands-on teasing.
We started chastity to get my masturbation under control. It wasn’t healthy, made me short tempered and not interested in sex.
I’m done with masturbation now, and am allowed to come ever 3 to 6 weeks. Without regular stroking and teasing, I have no stamina and come in under a minute when free, and within 3 minutes whilst locked.
Do I regret starting chastity? Probably not. It’s definitely improved our intimacy but feel somewhat neglected without erections and direct hands-on teasing.
Absolutely not. The fact that i am locked up day and night is the ultimate symbol of my surrender to my Lady—a state of voluntary unfreedom. The constant, mild arousal that accompanies this ensures that i remain perpetually focused on Her needs and desires. And... it makes me a better person, because my Lady knows what is best for me in this life. i am a happy man.
sometimes i look down at my cage and think “how did i get here?”
I definitely struggle sometimes. Used to have a lot of fun with my little guy. My marriage has been a lot more fun though so I guess it’s always a trade off
we only regret not finding it sooner.
The people that regret getting into chastity probably aren't on this site anymore.
Not at all, but the misses isin’t strict about locking me up!
I would never regret the road we choose. I begged her to be my Goddess and asked for complete control over me. In the beginning it was sexual, but turned into a full femdom relationship. 25 years later, I might be frustrated and horny almost daily, but I wouldn’t trade Chasity and orgasm denial for anything. It’s made me a better human, and giving pleasure to my Goddess is priceless.
I am not in chastity full time but I am getting there but when I am with my beautiful wife I am always in a chastity cage and I don’t regret it for a minute.
before chastity there were always the understanding that when we were in bed naked it was a given that I was going to get an orgasm and I could feel the tension between us but now that is gone and it is replaced by something much more deeper, for now she is not expecting that I am going to get an orgasm now we could stay like this for ever and when I give her a hug now there is not an erect penis getting on the way and I do believe that is has improved our marriage overall.
My only regret is that we didn’t start this thirty years ago.
before chastity there were always the understanding that when we were in bed naked it was a given that I was going to get an orgasm and I could feel the tension between us but now that is gone and it is replaced by something much more deeper, for now she is not expecting that I am going to get an orgasm now we could stay like this for ever and when I give her a hug now there is not an erect penis getting on the way and I do believe that is has improved our marriage overall.
My only regret is that we didn’t start this thirty years ago.
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Viewed rationally, I am well aware that Chastity is the best solution for our relationship.
From the point of view of libido, it’s no wonder that there is a fundamental contradiction here; that should require no further explanation.
Emotionally, there is a remarkable divergence with some decisive influencing factors. On the one hand, it is my partner’s behaviour – something she has experienced herself. On the other hand, it is simply the duration of my locking. Whilst chastity seems nonsensical to me at the start, this changes completely after two weeks into acceptance and affection.
From the point of view of libido, it’s no wonder that there is a fundamental contradiction here; that should require no further explanation.
Emotionally, there is a remarkable divergence with some decisive influencing factors. On the one hand, it is my partner’s behaviour – something she has experienced herself. On the other hand, it is simply the duration of my locking. Whilst chastity seems nonsensical to me at the start, this changes completely after two weeks into acceptance and affection.
My wallets no doubt regret that I was into chastity. So many devices over near 2 decades
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Don't unlock me or I'll cum!
I don't regret it at all... I used to be a party animal, but being locked up and constantly teased, aroused and not getting any relief or reprieve gives me a much bigger high than any "substance" ever did. I used to be not be able to go a single day without jerking off, but now I go weeks, even whole months without any release and I enjoy being horny and pent up alot more than getting relief and crashing afterward. I'm committed to permanent chastity and my KH-GF is going to personally see that I keep that commitment and she makes it even more fun & thrilling than I could by myself.
Short answer is I don't know yet.
I always intended to get into chastity when I was no longer any good for sex. But truthfully, I'm having the best sex of my life (aged 39) and having it more consistently than ever.
So I feel like my partner's enthusiasm for chastity has maybe come to me a little sooner than I'd like. And she's so sadistic and she's loving how much it destroys me. So I know that if I let her run away with this, I am probably going to regret it at some stage.
But I'm also pretty interested in finding out just how bad it's going to be.
If your resistance to her seems weak now, imagine what it will be like later on in her relationship with you.
My keyholder Wife doesn't miss a chance to tell me how fucked I am.
We've been doing chastity on and off for 17 years and recently she started successfully cuckholding me I am looking at the high likelihood of permanent lock up. I knew this would eventually happen. She is a natural flirt and dominant with no restraint to get her way.
Resistance is pointless, chastity is a powerful tool in the right hands it will rewrite your future.
My keyholder Wife doesn't miss a chance to tell me how fucked I am.
We've been doing chastity on and off for 17 years and recently she started successfully cuckholding me I am looking at the high likelihood of permanent lock up. I knew this would eventually happen. She is a natural flirt and dominant with no restraint to get her way.
Resistance is pointless, chastity is a powerful tool in the right hands it will rewrite your future.