"I like that you can't cum"
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My wife enjoys her full control and that there is no porn, no masturbation and very few sinful lusting
I found it best to totally give it up. If it happens again it's just a bonus. The point is to let go of expectations. Expectations can lead to confusion, conflict, resentment. Otherwise you are waiting for something you're not in control of and in danger of controlling her, something you don't want.
Since my wife restricted my orgasms. she's remarked how nice and how cooperative I've become. What I've posted in the past is true, and my wife is so happy with our chastity and orgasm control and denial play she really would work me up to denying me any orgasms at all provided it were safe from a health perspective and practical. "I like that you can't cum" is something I've heard. That's why I've tried to be the model husband, and its been fun for us too.
Would it be appropriate to suggest to her all the different ways there are to restrict, tease, minimize orgasms and all the fun ways to play before seriously ending them? My wife is happy with once a week (Fridays). Although this morning I said to her that I was down in the dumps yesterday and she said, "Yes. It's always on Friday" and she gave me a look that said, you and your bothersome squirts. I think giving up that one jerk off squirt, as quick and alone and infrequent as it is, would be difficult for me to sacrifice. I guess deep down I'm still hanging on to a sense of my penis' usefulness (besides regulating my hormones and turning me to jelly).
I got to thinking about giving up orgasms, and wrote about it in my blog:
"Would it be appropriate to suggest to her all the different ways there are to restrict, tease, minimize orgasms and all the fun ways to play before seriously ending them?"
I don't actually think my wife will end my orgasms but they are restricted after playing on and off chastity since our 40s. My wife seriously frets about me getting sick from lack of releases, as there is much vanilla left in us both. But 4 full orgasms this year (next in July and one at the end of the year) supplemented with ruined Os and some prostate massage is pretty hardcore restriction for the both of us. At my age and given medications and whatever chastity does as far as erections, my erections are often soft now. We don't have PIV anymore so it's ok. She enjoys teasing me on a schedule of sorts, and the turn on for her ois having the power to deny. But more sacrifices for me would be tough. On the other hand, my wife is happy and has a willing partner. Thus the sacrifices have been beneficial. If orgasms were to end it would be when I'm a senior. My wife's already warns that she expects I'll wear a cage well into my 70s, which is a turn on.
If you're not into it, stop!! She shouldn't be doing anything against your will!!
My situation has evolved. She used to think me cumming defined proper sex. Now, she's comfortable with having us stop once she's cum a couple of times whether or not I've cum myself. Seeing as she goes quicker than I, sex doesn't end when I cum, but when she cums. She's kind of a spiritual person. And she believes now that a male orgasm is undesirable and unnecessary.
It's the old you don't know what you don't know. I kind of knew that I'd get a bit depressed after cumming. But she didn't. Until I pointed it out. Then she'd started to pay attention. She started realizing I was a happier guy if I didn't cum. So you could say I convinced her, or she figure it out
If I may say, I agree about being happy about not cumming. I don’t want orgasms to completely end, but I’m happier with the tight restrictions on them. I think in the days when I could orgasm whenever I want I was not happy. I preferred that edge from dominance and denial. And I cheated occasionally by masturbation. When we began serious chastity play that came to a screeching end.
In such case I tell my woman carefully that I want serve her and being controlled by her. She said it's crazy, because she loves when I cum. But she agreed the rules how I must to cum and how I must not:
- I must not cum in her body (exactly, in her mouth too)
- I must not cum on her body (or face)
- I must not cum jerking
- I must not jerking at all
- I must ask her may I have sex or not
- I must ask her may I cum in final part of our coitus also
- The only way I ought to cum is cum to condom
- If I cum, I must ask her forgiveness for that dirty sticky liquid which I produce again and then move it to thrash box.
I feel myself better with these rules.
- I must not cum in her body (exactly, in her mouth too)
- I must not cum on her body (or face)
- I must not cum jerking
- I must not jerking at all
- I must ask her may I have sex or not
- I must ask her may I cum in final part of our coitus also
- The only way I ought to cum is cum to condom
- If I cum, I must ask her forgiveness for that dirty sticky liquid which I produce again and then move it to thrash box.
I feel myself better with these rules.
First off, thanks for your concern bro. I'd imagine all kinds of crazy sh!t makes itself evident on bdsm sites and I class this as one due to the crossover with male chastity and femdom. Don't worry, I have the coolest gf who has gone down this path with me. It is extreme, I need to explore that part of myself, but always consensual. Sometimes non consensual consensual or however it's phrased. I trust her completely.
I was at the wedding of a friend with a smoking hot chick. A few of us had a cigar outside. I told the story of a tinder date who's boiler had broken down. She would come to mine once a week absolutely stinking, we'd make out then she'd get a hot shower before bed. When we both knew we were going to get intimate after a few dates we got into my bed BEFORE she showered. She had massive flaps which I love but when I went down on her it she tasted like week-old pee EVERYWHERE. I didn't want to hurt her feelings so I liked her very hairy minge clean to get rid of the smell so I could give her proper cunnilingus. We didn't last very long although I miss her meaty flaps.
The groom with the smoking hot bride said he didn't like licking. I can't remember why I started this but there is no point in going into chastity if u don't like licking pussy.
If she said its crazy try cumming up her nose while she's asleep.
Ejaculating into nose or ear has always been a hard stop for me.... no matter how much they want it.
They don't, they're asleep. Then you you get put in chastity. If you have any friends who are into ear cream pies pls dm me. Oh wait... I'm in chastity.
Yes min. It's that nonchalant attitude that's authentic. Now when I go for a pee she says, "can you pee for me too?". I have to drink her stinking pee and then it's only me going for a pee break. She is good at controlling her flow.
It would be interesting to know if that smoking hot wife has changed things in that marriage and if her husband is still the head of the house.
I met the girl who would become my wife in college. She was the prettiest I dated but also the most confident and dominant of the few girlfriends I had gone out with. She ended up being a key holder. Some of the others and maybe all would probably not have gone there at all imo.
That hot looking wife might get orally pleasured fairly frequently. When PIV became too uncomfortable for my wife she ended it and now says she actually realizes she prefers oral of PIV. I think she would have probably prohibited it far sooner had I brought up the idea of orgasm control and denial games to her sooner.
I suggested being unlocked as a gamble over the board game carcassonne. Whatever strokes her score was if she won or i won we just play again if i win. I lost 118 nil. She latched a dog lead onto my cage. Most strikes with the paddle were on the balls. she pulled hard on the lead and my willy came out. She caned me on the head of my penis and used the wooden panel. She took the cage off then put tape over everything. She made me lick her ass then poured hot wax over me. She made me beg to be caged up again which of course I did. I spent a long time after that cleaning her feet while she whipped my back. I don't know what would have happened if I won.