Is it better to know or not

[Lockedpeanut]

I'm only unlocked when wife either wants to use me or feels I have earned a orgasm any way she feels fit
I have absolutely no say on the matter or the length of time between unlocks
We settled of this many years ago
Personally I love the uncertainty of not knowing and she loves the control

I know a lot of you are in the same position while some are given set dates or length of lock ups
Guessing I'm just interested is how others enjoy there chastity journey

 

[starflyer]

I'm same as you

 

[JaySaysYes]

I dunno, I'm insanely horny either way.

 

[Mr_anonymous]

Can't say. My schedule is pretty much set. Grass is always greener thing probably.

 

[Chaste J.]

No schedule for me at all. Mrs Chaste prefers her strap on anyway, so I only get inside her once a year if I'm lucky. Plenty of teasing and occasionally a "leak'" as Mrs Chaste calls it. But it all depends on her particular whims.

 

[herluckyboi]

Same as you. We found early on if She told me the release date, I would eagerly look forward to it and would be upset if it got changed for any reason.

 

[newplay]

if she ever takes control of the key I would like it more to be a surprise more than a specific date

 

[Thomas Gangman]

She will release me most every weekend, if not usually no longer than 14 days. My wife still enjoys sex, but any schedule we have is hers alone.

 

[xcitedsisssy]

I am the same as you Locked peanut. In the beginning I had a release date or a target so to speak to have a release. As time went on and the control she realized she had, things changed. Nowadays it is if, when, where, and however she sees fit. It's all up to her and I wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[Chastity2024]

I definitely don’t want to know. My KH seems to unlock me when she wants. We have never really had a time frame. She definitely talks about unlock dates but never seems to actually unlock me on those dates. I love the guessing game.

 

[denied_one]

if she ever takes control of the key I would like it more to be a surprise more than a specific date

That's how @MrsLockNkey is doing it from here on out for us. No more dates at all

 

[denied_one]

I am the same as you Locked peanut. In the beginning I had a release date or a target so to speak to have a release. As time went on and the control she realized she had, things changed. Nowadays it is if, when, where, and however she sees fit. It's all up to her and I wouldn't have it any other way.

A "target date" was what my Wife/KH preferred too. A date that was ALLOWABLE for Her to allow me to cum, but not necessarily on that date, but anytime AFTER that date

 

[Elfman]

Uncertainty is more "fun" but sometimes anxiety gets the better of me and can lead to bad things. It's a trade off.

 

[denied_one]

Uncertainty is more "fun" but sometimes anxiety gets the better of me and can lead to bad things. It's a trade off.

Saaaame how do you deal with the anxiety?!

 

[latexbound]

The unknown is far more interesting than the known.....

 

[Jail Bird]

Like you. I never know. Not allowed PIV sex so, it's never for that. The only date she ever gives me is, if I piss her off, she'll say, "you just got yourself another month"

 

[HouseboyForHer]

I have never, ever known. I don't think my situation would work for many people, though it does work for me. Basically, my Wife is struggling with zero libido and I am way too hung up to force myself on Her or even pressure Her for "help". But masturbation was one of my bad behaviors that was driving us apart. So I just promised to my Wife not to masturbate and asked Her to hold the key.

When your sex life is broken but you're too hung up to fix it, but you still love each other more than anything, you can end up sacrificing orgasms. I have sacrificed mine - saving my orgasms for "us" is more important to me. She teases me enough and I get enough sexual titillation out of my denied state of affairs that I can carry on. Being nearly 60 helps, I'm sure.

My Wife will, when reminded, say things like "sometime soon I should make you come" -- at which point I sort of become stupid and inarticulate. WTF? After three years I honestly don't know what I want.

Every time I try to write about this, I fuck it up somehow and people get critical and judgmental. So please be gentle, or simply ignore it.

Peace!

 

[Queens servant73]

I get a mix of both, but it’s mostly just whenever my Wife decides to make me orgasm. Right now I know I’m denied until the last weekend in August for our 33rd anniversary trip. But I still don’t know which day or if she’ll only grant a ruin or what. For all I know she’ll decide to make me cum each day or nothing at all. It’ll be roughly 7 weeks between orgasms at that point, it was supposed to be a few weeks longer, but a couple weeks ago she randomly told me to cum when we were having piv. So I never truly know even when she’s given me a timeline. It’s her property and I obey, I’m just going along with her desires

 

[denied_one]

@MrsLockNkey

 

[Lockedpeanut]

Cheers everyone for the honest responses
It seems I'm not alone in never knowing when the next unlock will come along and the uncertainty plays a big part in a lot of people's chastity journeys

 

[Locked_Koala]

Surprise and uncertainty would be my preference. Based solely and if and when she wants it unlocked.

 

[JamesD]

Yes, not knowing when you will be released makes you much more on edge than knowing the unlock date. Conversely when you know how long, eventually you resign yourself to your fate and accept it. When you don't know when you'll be unlocked, your mind will constantly be interrupted with hopes that it might be sooner, worries it might be later, or wondering what you might do to convince your partner to unlock you early.

 

[Locked_Koala]

Yes, not knowing when you will be released makes you much more on edge than knowing the unlock date. Conversely when you know how long, eventually you resign yourself to your fate and accept it. When you don't know when you'll be unlocked, your mind will constantly be interrupted with hopes that it might be sooner, worries it might be later, or wondering what you might do to convince your partner to unlock you early.

such a glorious mind fuck.

 

[JamesD]

such a glorious mind fuck.

Yes, my former keyholder would send me the unlock code. I'd get sooo excited, only to find that it was the wrong code. That crushed me!

 

[HouseboyForHer]

such a glorious mind fuck.

My mind fuck is more like, "I wonder if I've already had the final orgasm of my life...?"

My Wife would NEVER accept that, and yet, I still have to wonder.