It all started with a podcast

You have also caused me a bit of a quandary. My daughter is looking for work, and your post giving advice about how to approach this as someone who is trans gave me a lot of ideas to share with her. One problem. You gave the advice on a forum dedicated to male chastity!

“So, I read this forum post about how to approach finding a job when you are trans, lots of really good advice and ideas.”
“Where did you read that dad? Can you share it with me?”
😳

“Ummmmmm…..”

😂
Definitely a pickle.

“Really, Dad? The hoe from the chastity website gives good advice?”

Life can be so funny.
 
108

“If your wife had been completely transparent up front and told you what she had in mind for you, before the FLR started, would you have agreed to it?”

This question was asked of me recently, and I thought it was really great. The short answer is no.

And here’s why…

If my wife had laid everything out on the table in the beginning - what she truly envisioned for our FLR and the path she planned to take - I don’t think I could have handled it. It would have felt crazy-insane, overwhelming, intimidating, and just... too much, too fast. I needed time. Time to feel safe, time to understand what it meant to submit, and time to build trust.

As a submissive, I know we often ask ourselves, “What’s next?” There’s excitement in the unknown. But had she revealed the full journey to this point, right from the start, I would’ve panicked. I would’ve said, “There’s no way I can do that.” And yet, here I am… feminine, fulfilled, cherished, and deeply grateful for the life we’ve created.

It happened through the softest, smallest steps. Firm guidance. Loving encouragement. The occasional push. A quiet confidence in her voice when she said, “try these on.” I said yes to little things. A pair of panties. Lingerie. Lipstick. A playful moment in our bedroom. The teasing promise of a reward. No judgment. Just the two of us, exploring together.

At first, it all felt awkward. But it also felt warm. Intimate. Submissive. And slowly, what once would have seemed impossible became part of our rhythm. Each new experience came with a mix of reassurance and Dominant pressure. I was never pushed off a ledge, rather I was led by a firm hand, each step building on the last.

Had she insisted on everything on Day One, I would have pushed back hard. As I’ve written about, even with the small steps she was making me take, I still pushed back. “This” is a lot. I wasn’t ready. I couldn’t have been ready. And trying to force it would have destroyed the tender magic that’s grown between us.

We’ve had the most incredible three years. Full of closeness, joy, laughter, and erotic connection that I never dreamed possible. None of that would’ve happened if she laid it out from the beginning. I clearly needed her to lead me slowly, under her firm, hard, uncompromising hand, but also with patience and love. And she did.

So no, I wouldn’t have agreed if I’d known it all upfront. But now? I wouldn’t trade what we have for anything.
 
But perhaps it was also a journey for her? Maybe she didn't have it all planed but after the start, she saw how you adapted and liked and enjoyed what was happening as did she and so she went on to the next step and the step after that?
What comes through is the enjoyment you have both got form this journey, experience.
 
So no, I wouldn’t have agreed if I’d known it all upfront. But now? I wouldn’t trade what we have for anything.
Sometimes the like button simply isn’t enough. What a perfect answer. To take what was probably meant as a gotcha and instead of ignoring it or giving an angry reply taking the time to think about a response that is honest and insightful.

Bravo, Alexandra.

It mirrors my experience, although my FLR isn’t as intense as yours. The success of my relationship with Elle and the changes to it from the traditional marriage we had lived in previously is completely due to my wife taking small steps, introducing things at her own pace and when she felt comfortable doing so. There is no way I would be able to cope with what we do now had it all happened back in 2015.
 
At first, it all felt awkward. But it also felt warm. Intimate. Submissive. And slowly, what once would have seemed impossible became part of our rhythm. Each new experience came with a mix of reassurance and Dominant pressure. I was never pushed off a ledge, rather I was led by a firm hand, each step building on the last.
Thank you, as ever, Alexandra, for expressing so many things so quietly and with recognition for the ways (scripted and more importantly unscripted) that complicated erotic dynamics can take a long time to come to fruition. Yes--that unquantifiable mix of "reassurance and Dominant pressure." Yes--understood! Your journey (in the plural, for both of you) is simply so moving and (for this reader at least) so empowering. Encore merci!
 
  • Like
Reactions: HouseboyForHer
Sometimes the like button simply isn’t enough. What a perfect answer. To take what was probably meant as a gotcha and instead of ignoring it or giving an angry reply taking the time to think about a response that is honest and insightful.

Bravo, Alexandra.

It mirrors my experience, although my FLR isn’t as intense as yours. The success of my relationship with Elle and the changes to it from the traditional marriage we had lived in previously is completely due to my wife taking small steps, introducing things at her own pace and when she felt comfortable doing so. There is no way I would be able to cope with what we do now had it all happened back in 2015.
Thanks. I never took it as a "gotcha." I thought it was a great question. It just unfortunately took a hypothetical conversation to get to the chewy center.

Rock star question though. I'd thought a lot about it, obviously, over the last few years. It was interesting to dive into it more. :love:
 
109.

As March turned to April, the stubborn chill in New England finally began to ease. The air warmed, the days stretched longer and with it came a persistent urge in her to shake off the stillness of winter.

Spring was blooming, and so was I. There was a definite “I am woman” mindset inside me that had taken root. “Spring cleaning” became a quiet ritual; not just new lists of work to be done, tidying and chores, but releasing the last fragments of who I used to be. Even my old sweatshirts - soft with wear and sentiment - ended up on the curb with Wednesday’s trash. In their place came new things: mostly pink, definitely snug.

“I don’t know if these even fit,” I said to her in the bedroom while tugging at the hem of a shoulder-season pullover. Women’s mediums.

She looked up from the bed; a queen inspecting her consort. “Your body’s changing,” she said. “It’s beautiful to watch.”

She had picked out the clothes herself. I was technically a large, but she had chosen mediums - and it wasn’t by mistake.

She was right. My body was changing. Hormones had started slow, like whispers beneath the surface, but once I switched from patches to injections, everything accelerated. My waist was softening. My hips were blooming. Even my face was changing. Hormones are painstakingly slow, until they aren’t.

“You want to highlight those curves,” she said with a knowing smile. “But keep your tummy tight.”

“Are you saying I’m getting chubby?” I asked. It was a playful question escaping from a conflicted, complicated and sometimes painful headspace. Hormones add weight. They round and soften edges. I had successfully beaten back the weight gain, but it remained an ongoing, daily battle. I welcomed the round and the soft, but one spec of overage would be an unwanted guest. The best Barbies have all the curves, but none of the excess. It’s an incredibly difficult standard.

Her smirk deepened, teasing but deliberate. “No. I’m saying it’s easy to get chubby. And that’s not acceptable.”

“I’m not going to get fat!" I blurted, instinctively defensive.

Horrible timing. She was pushing buttons at the exact moment I was in a dark place with the same topic. I had warned myself and repeated the mantra countless times – “measure every response” - but life doesn’t always work that way. Emotions betray even the strictest submissive discipline.

Wrong Move.

Her eyes narrowed. A quiet warning.

“I’m sorry, Mistress,” I said quickly.

“For?”

“For speaking out of turn.”

“And?”

“My tone.”

Her gaze stayed on me, heavy with expectation. “Present.”

Damn it.

I dropped to my knees, hands behind my back, palms open, eyes lowered. A heartbeat later, I felt her move. She stepped off the bed and came toward me, cupping my chin. She was gentle with me, but I sensed the dragon just below the surface. Then she crouched, her fingers seeking and finding the softness at my side.

“This,” she said, gently pinching a bit of plush flesh, “won’t do.”

It wasn’t painful. But I winced anyway.

“Yes, Mistress,” I said. I could feel the warmth of shame on my cheeks.

“And what are you going to do about it?”

“More corset time. Work out harder. Eat better,” I answered.

She tapped my cheek lightly. “Good girl. Come to me with an updated routine by the end of the day.”

“Yes Mistress,” I said.

“And keep the pullovers,” she said. “You’ll make them fit … won’t you, my love?”
 
110.

"There’s a better way forward," she said.

She had heard me. I felt valued. Cherished even. Yet, despite this, something inside me felt off. At times, I couldn’t shake the feeling of guilt, like I was somehow denying her. In this world we shared, there were moments when it seemed like she never denied me anything, but then I’d catch myself wondering if I was insane. Her control over me was all about denial. It was the bedrock of our relationship and the ultimate power dynamic. She wanted for nothing. Everything seemed available to her. I cooked. I cleaned. I worshipped. I knelt before her, affirming my love, devotion and sexual servitude to her twice daily. I would never cheat. Never lie. Never leave.

The thought of her seeing other people was something that weighed heavily on my mind. It felt selfish – for her to want it, for me to not – and I couldn’t help but feel uncertain.

The rewards for her were easy to grasp on the surface – no-strings sexual gratification, a strengthening of her Dominance, a deeper level of my submission. Below the surface was more complicated. The fear of losing her was massive. But this was my own selfishness talking, I knew that. If she were to leave me, some no-strings fling wasn’t going to be the reason. She would leave because her needs and her Dominant instincts were no longer fulfilled.

Most days, my mind and body were occupied by plugs, toys and training sessions. Hers weren’t, and she had made it clear that certain rules would remain in place. The “no thrusting” one had been in effect for what felt like an eternity with no end in sight.

So, while I found pleasure in serving her and worshiping her body, I knew I was providing a different kind of satisfaction. Butterfly kisses and a vibrator are “lovely,” as she put it. But they weren’t the same as satiating the need for something deep and hard, the way a woman craves sometimes, and I couldn’t help but see that.

She had said, "There’s a better way forward," but I couldn’t understand what she meant. Was it a way that excluded others from our world? Or was it something else entirely? She never brought it up again, and that left me in the dark, wondering about her true intentions.

Then there were the whispers.

Four mornings a week I had my dildo training sessions: 30 minutes of intense, supervised deep fucking that left me a quivering, shaking mess. My uniform was always to be ready the night before: thigh highs, heels, a hair tie, her chosen training dildo, and lube. It was a routine, one that I never questioned outwardly, even though a part of me wondered if there was more behind the scenes. Still, even as I wondered, very little had changed, so there were no clues where it was all leading, if anywhere. She saw it as a submissive exercise and took perverse pleasure watching me struggle to cum, verbally teasing me when I couldn’t quite get over the edge, leaving a pathetic puddle of submissive chastity tears below my tiny cage. A long while ago, she had increased my penetration time from 20 to 30 minutes. Other than that, the only changes were the daily hypnotic videos she’d send to me to watch while I grinded away; with rare exception, a mixture of sexual heaven and hellish frustration.

The Wednesday morning following her “better way forward” comment, I found the nipple clamps placed on top of my thigh highs. I didn’t question it at first and obediently applied the alligator clips, tugging them gently to ensure they were secure before my session and biting my lip as I got used to the pain. But as I lowered myself onto the waiting dildo and pressed “play” on the videos, it was clear something was different. Everything she had curated for me were all cuckold themed, focusing heavily on the hotwife’s pleasure with occasional nods to the submissive.

These modifications were not an accident; they were deliberate.

There is no training for me on Thursdays. But it happened again on Friday and Saturday too – self-application of the tormenting clamps and 30 minutes of cuckolding videos.

I didn’t fully understand what she meant by a “better way forward,” but it was becoming clearer with each passing day. Sometimes, the whispers are the loudest.
 
But perhaps it was also a journey for her? Maybe she didn't have it all planed but after the start, she saw how you adapted and liked and enjoyed what was happening as did she and so she went on to the next step and the step after that?
What comes through is the enjoyment you have both got form this journey, experience.
Thank you. This is something we've talked about a lot. It's a cycle, right? One dominant move or push receives a positive result. That leads to more. More leads to a deepening of all of it. It takes two. I've reached a point in present day where I feel I am a worthy submissive, finally. As we know, subs don't just follow, they play an active role. I wouldn't have said that until recently. But I'm confident in my submission; how I process, handle, obey. I'm getting good at it.
 
111.

Melancholy. It comes in waves.

I found myself caught in it - a deep, dragging kind. The kind where thoughts don’t just whisper, they linger and haunt. Whispers became noise. Choices became paralysis. My thoughts spiraled and tangled until I couldn’t see which thread to pull first, so I ultimately pulled none. Not my finest hour.

It was spring, which meant things needed tending. The garden. The yard. The house. Myself. Calls to return. Appointments to schedule. Shit to do.
Tasks stacking, training expected, care demanded - of her and myself. My body needed more movement, more sculpting, more obedience. And always, her eyes. Watching me. Measuring me.

That Saturday came with an assignment: a trip to the store to fetch paint for her office. A simple errand, delegated to me because she had plans for a renovation and I was expected to execute them. Obediently, I went. In the car, I queued up an interview of my favorite band, Ghost, and let myself indulge. Not just in the music – they’re hard rock ABBA – or the discussion, but the comfort of familiarity. The banter, the rhythm. My band. My goofy little devil band. I adore Ghost.

On the way home, the interview wasn’t quite over. I wanted to hear the end, so I pulled into a quiet park just down the street from our house. Just for a few minutes. To cling to the illusion of choice.

My phone lit up. Her picture. Her name. Her voice.

“Why are you just sitting there?”

I swallowed.

“I’m just finishing up a Ghost thing.”

“You know you can do that here.”

“Yes, Mistress.”

Of course, I couldn’t. Not really. Not just sit and listen. There was no place in our home for stillness unless it served her. If it wasn’t done while folding laundry or sweeping or sorting something, it was indulgent and unacceptable.

I put the car in drive.

Motion. The dragon demands motion. Demands that I earn my stillness, and even then, only when necessary.

My body is too soft. My routine is too unstructured. My days are never full enough.

By now, her presence surrounded me, an invisible current that drove every decision. A current that led straight to the deep, to the depths of a submissive existence I never could have fathomed.

I’m completely hers. Even then I was. It thrilled me. And it terrified me.

Because the shift - the one that happened slowly, then all at once - was no longer temporary. I could feel it in every command she gave, in every silence she held me in. The power shifted and we could never go back. I wouldn’t even know how.

I remember thinking and being afraid of how powerful she had become. And equally afraid of what I was becoming.
 
LOL. So let me ask you - if the noblest art is that of making someone else feel good, can you reconcile your comment with my journal?
Of course not. Your journal is a case study of abuse. You are the typical spouse who gets involved with an abusive partner and just gets deeper and deeper into the rabbit hole. And all the onlookers say "how can they stay with that abusive spouse, why don't they leave, how could they go back to them after what was done". You are the living case study for it. And we can only go by your own words, for all we know your wife is an angel. But here you have portrayed her as a true demon. In this world, violation of consent is the thermonuclear end. Death penalty. No go there. Whatever phrase you need it to be Period. And she didn't just violate it, she permanently disfigured you for using it. She should be in prison by your own words. And if you hate me for saying it, so be it- but maybe someone else in the same type of abusive relationship will read this 2, 5 or 10 years from now and maybe clear that fog they are under.
 
112.

“Time,” she said.

I stopped riding and lifted my body off the dildo, the second-largest one in the arsenal; long, thick, lifelike, imposing. I know this because she uses the biggest one as a rare challenge. It had been stretching me and taking me to the edge of orgasmic bliss for the last half hour. My legs were shaking as I eased off of it and onto all fours. A droplet of sweat rolled into my eye, the salt stinging.

“Present,” she ordered.

I wanted to stretch my arms, shoulders and back in a long downward-dog position. But I knew better than to delay. I rocked my body backwards in an attempt to follow the command. As I did, I encountered the dildo, still suctioned in place, just behind me. I knew better than to move it out of the way and instead pushed it back inside me, it’s size still warm. When I present, my legs are splayed in a frog position, my arms behind my back, palms up, my eyes lowered … and my ass on the floor. I pushed against the dildo and took the nine inches to the hilt, getting as low as I could, the massive, lifelike balls – easily four times the size of mine now – impeding me. It was as low as I could go.

My legs began to shake again as the submissive sweetness leaked from my cage.

It was early morning, barely past 6:30am, but the dragon was wide awake. She stood over me, her bare toes lifting the underside of my tiny, pink cage. She fondled me momentarily like that. The hormone payload had long ago put an end to any masculine rigidity, but I could feel the slight swell of excitement and I longed for any manual pleasure she chose to provide.

She crouched in front of me, one hand cupping my tiny sac, the other tugging at the clamps. I winced as they held firm, my breasts and nipples extending as she pulled.

Her hand on me, teasing just past the chastity ring, rubbing at my perineum. My eyes rolled back. I felt her fingers on my lips. They were slick from the lube and she pressed them into my mouth.

“Do you feel powerful?” she asked.

Given my current state, I felt anything but. I was a shaking, horny mess. At times, her presence could be intimidating. This was one of those times. Worse, it felt like she had just asked me a question where any answer I provided resulted in punishment. She liked a rigged game and had proved it countless times.

However, I had learned that “yes” was frequently the right answer and the rigged game quite transparent when it wasn’t.

“Yes,” I replied.

She looked deep into me, considering.

“You’re not being truthful,” she said calmly. This clearly was not one of those times.

I looked away, now caught in a trap between a lie and an admission over a question I was helpless in finding the motivation behind and too intimidated to answer honestly.

“No,” I said.

“No what?”

“No, Mistress. I do not feel powerful.”

“Why would you say you did?” she asked.

I wanted to come clean. To say I had begun searching for the answers she desired out of fear of saying something she didn’t. Speaking out of turn meant punishment. The wrong tone meant punishment. The wrong word meant punishment. I was boxed in.

“Because I know how important it is that I see my power,” I said.

She sat down in the makeup chair, crossed her legs and leaned forward.

“Honey, it is important,” she said. “But if you don’t see it, then you don’t see it.”

“I don’t see it, Mistress.” How could I? She lorded over everything.

“And yet, you control everything,” she said. “You control this relationship. You control me; what I can and cannot do.”

I smiled. “Do I?”

“Yes,” she said. “You do.”

“And how is that?” I wondered aloud.

“Because I’d like to go on a date with James,” she said. “But only if you’ll let me.”
 
113.

I’d lost track of how we used to talk. “How it used to be” and “how it was” had blurred to a place where I couldn’t remember what it was like to sit and discuss things on equal footing. The best way to explain it is to use my speaking voice as an example. Somewhere inside me is the old tone and cadence I used to have. I know it’s in there somewhere, but I can’t find it (I’ve tried).

Our conversations were like that. We used to sit and talk and I could probably tell her she was wrong or that I didn’t like a particular something or give some flippant answer, but I’d lost the ability to recall what that was like.

Alas, we had a date with James to “discuss” and apparently the only thing stopping her from going was me. Now, mind you, I am not in the position to stop her from doing anything she chooses and that was true of our situation even then. It’s more cemented now I guess, but it was essentially the same thing at that time. She is in charge; I am the submissive “channel” for her desires and we both like it better this way.

The blindsiding aspect of her date with Michael was upsetting. She treated me like an object, a pathetic one in many ways. My submission was put on display, an unexpected power move by her that shook me deeply.

“Why did it bother you?” she asked.

“You brought him into our world and immediately made it seem as if the power structure went you, him and then me. It was humiliating.”

“It may have seemed that way, but that’s not what it was.”

“You made me beg him.”

“I know I did. You asked me to.” She took a long pause, going so far as to put a finger up – wait – while she collected her thoughts. “You’re not getting it. And it’s gone on long enough. I’m struggling terribly to make you see that in a dynamic like that, all of the power is yours.”

“How?”

“Well, for starters, if you didn’t allow it, it wouldn’t have happened. Two, if you said ‘stop’ in the middle I would have stopped. Three, what you still don’t seem to grasp is that you have tremendous power in this relationship. Everything I do, all of the structure, the punishments, the whole dominant aspect of what I do, is done for you. With you. Because of you.”

“It doesn’t feel that way.”

“Good. It shouldn’t feel that way. It means I’m doing it right. My ‘job’ - for lack of a better word - is not to make you do something you don’t want to do. It’s to put you – to put us – in a place to discover the things you never imagined you’d love.”

Her words hung there … and slowly sank in.

I hadn’t considered any of this. So much of what I had learned as a submissive had temporarily gone out the window. It led to me feeling melancholy, wondering if this was ‘it’ – if I was confined to a life of servitude without any growth, for myself and for our marriage. That was what it came down to. The “negative, melancholy me” felt as if I stopped growing as a submissive. And all the lessons I had learned – including many I have written about – were right there in front of me, but I didn’t see them: measuring progress, plateaus, the gifts of submission.

The truth is, I was growing. In fact, I was thriving. But I couldn’t see it. I think I was too close to it all. I saw myself on my knees, a hard cock inches from my face and I stopped there, like some sort of mental block I couldn’t get past. And yet, now as we talked, I was suddenly racing beyond the blockage … and realizing I should have embraced it. I should have seen that cock was so hard because of the intensity of a situation I was the star of.

It began to come into focus.

A lot of people have a fling in a hotel room. A rare few put their partner on display and crank the sexual electricity into overload. I should have seen that she put on a masterclass of dominance that excited me to no end. It was one of the hottest nights of my life. And she did that for me. Because of me.

She had brought another person into our dynamic and put me on display and I loved it. She had opened a door to more. An open door that I stupidly missed. Through that door was everything I craved – kinkier, harder, deeper and all with the one person who chose to take this journey with me and is so perfectly suited to me that it takes my breath away. I need her.

And she needs me.

None of this works without me.


This realization was a massive breakthrough. A legitimate triumph and moment of growth that propelled our relationship forward by leaps and bounds. For the first time I really understood it. For the first time in a long time, I felt powerful and in control. For the first time in a long time, I spoke to my wife as my partner.

“We should see James,” I said.

There was a better way forward.
 
114.

May 27, 2025

Oh my gosh does it feel good to be journaling in the present! As the timeline catches up (I’m still 11-12 months behind, but getting closer!) it’s less of a leap between where we were a year ago and where we are now. I’m beginning to recognize our relationship when I read my journal now. For the longest time it felt like a different world and it was hard to get in that headspace.

I’m writing in present day for a moment because Memorial Day Monday (May 27, 2025 if you’re not in the United States) was an amazing day and if I don’t capture this now, I’ll lose some of it. And I don’t want that to happen, because it was decadent.

For context, my world is a “no days off” existence. Discipline and structure wrap around me like silk corset laces. But Memorial Day was different. She gave me the day. The whole thing. No tasks. No rules. Just whispered indulgence.

And baby, I felt it.

I was up like a shot at 5:30am, the way I always am, the way my internal clock ticks. The realization I had nothing to do felt foreign. She slept peacefully next to me. There were no chores to do, no training to do. Nothing to do but fall back asleep. It was hard for me, like one of those dreams where you’re late for a test. I felt some anxiety about it honestly. I was out of place and I tossed and turned for a long while. And then sleep finally took me again.

The moment I opened my eyes - late, luxuriously late - my body began to hum. I stretched in bed, my skin bare beneath soft sheets, every inch of me allowed to just … linger.

No alarms. No requests. Just a delicious hush.

When I finally padded into the kitchen, my wife had breakfast ready - for me. A rare, intimate reversal. It was a little tricky because long ago we began to often eat different meals out of necessity. The anal demands in my life and my commitment to my figure put lots of foods on the “no bueno” list. So, it wasn’t exactly eggs benedict and bacon; it was a small scoop of oatmeal, two slices of banana and one apple slice. Such is life. These are my choices. It didn’t matter. She had made it with her hands. Her care. Her eyes met mine and I swear I felt it in my thighs.

After breakfast I had designs on laying in the sun, but the warmth of the day hadn’t arrived yet, so I was a bit lost. As I recently wrote, I’m used to motion and it took everything in me to not set about my daily tasks. I wondered how they were going to get done. Would she do them? Turns out, she would. For instance, after we had breakfast, she got up from the table and cleared my plate from in front of me, rinsed it and put it in the dishwasher. It was a sight to behold.

“Want to help me wash the cars?” I asked. One of my Saturday tasks is to wash and detail both cars, but it rained so I couldn’t do it. Given the Memorial Day holiday I had asked her if I could push the chore to Monday and she agreed, both of us forgetting it was my “special day off.”

“Of course,” she said.

Washing the cars together turned into foreplay. She sprayed me with the hose - sassy, wild, grinning - the water soaking through my shirt, clinging to my hardening nipples, the fabric sheer and teasing in the morning light. I hope the neighbors liked the show.

I saved my shower for later, because self-care was the foreplay to my day. I tweezed my brows slowly, deliberately. Painted my nails a powdery pink, soft and feminine. Braided my hair over one shoulder and stepped into the sun to tan. I felt relaxed. Sexy. Curvy and golden, I stretched out on the chaise, feeling confident in my body and my ability to give pleasure.

My wife joined me about 30 minutes later. We held hands. We dozed. We talked; our voices low, flirtatious and sometimes very, very naughty. The sexual ease that exists between us is one of my great joys. We are fucking whores … with all the X-Rated, fun-loving moments that come with it.

I could have laid there all day with her just talking and laughing, but around 3pm I figured it was best to call it quits. With only one day to do anything I wanted, I felt this urgency to cram everything into it that I could.

When I finally slipped into the shower, it was mine. No rush, no Dominant privilege claiming the hot water first. Just me, wine glass in hand, dancing to a sultry country playlist while the steam kissed my body. I shaved a couple of stray hairs, conditioned, caressed and … danced. Some people sing in the shower. I dance. I’ve got moves too.

It was wild to be able to just linger. I sat in the makeup chair and tweezed a stray hair from one of my toes. I looked at my pink pedicure and sat and admired how precise the painting was done. I examined my body in front of the mirror for a long time, slowly turning this way and that to see every angle and evaluate every curve. I moisturized from head to toe, allowing extra time for it to all soak in. I use a moisturizing bronzer because I prefer myself looking tan and it often stains my clothes because I don’t have enough time to let it all properly dry before I need to get dressed and keep moving. But for one day, I got to let it completely soak in before getting dressed. Heavenly. And the tanner smells great too.

I pushed my plug in and reveled in its fullness. I love-love-love butt plugs. I wear them just about every day. Normally I have to lube, push and go, but this time there was no rush. Just that exquisite fullness that makes me moan under my breath and bite my lip.

I dressed slowly, savoring the tease. Black leggings—tight, glossy, contouring every inch of my ass and thighs. Tiny, thin panties, the hip-rise in them pulled up just over the waist of the leggings, one of my favorite feminine teases. I slipped into three-inch black pumps to add more sex appeal, arching my back as I slid them on. On top? A pink camisole, no bra, nipples peeking through with casual confidence. The kind of look that whispers “come closer.”

She handed me another glass of wine.

“What’s the plan?” she asked.

“I propose a firepit,” I smiled.

“Love it.”

We lit the fire and moved a couple of Sonos speakers onto the deck. She even let me play DJ. We sat close. Her fingertips traced circles on my wrist while I sipped rosé and thanked the heavens for sending me the Dominant fire that was my wife.

We talked about her job and mine. We talked about her classes – my wife is back in school getting her master’s degree in Psychology – and her homework. I read the first few pages of a paper she is writing. We talked about my upcoming breast augmentation surgery, vacation plans for us after it and even a little about Chastity Mansion. All the while our glasses remained full as the wine bottles stacked up. First one. Then a second. We danced, my camisole slipping low on one shoulder. She pulled me close, her hand flat on the small of my back and kissed me like I was the only thing keeping her upright.

The hot tub steamed. We slid in. Wet skin on wet skin. Laughter. Kisses. Desire building. She brushed the hair from my face. “You’re glowing,” she whispered. And I was. I am.

When we finally stumbled into bed, the scent of campfire in our hair and rose on our tongues, I little-spoon curled into her. Spent. Saturated. Satisfied. Owned.
 
When we finally stumbled into bed, the scent of campfire in our hair and rose on our tongues, I little-spoon curled into her. Spent. Saturated. Satisfied. Owned.
Due to my wife’s wishes to take our FLR in a more distinct D/s direction I have been doing some research into just what that means, what options are available and why would we want to do this to an already well established relationship. One theme in my research keeps popping up, about how D/s relationships can be far more intense, rewarding and respectful for all participants. What you just wrote was a beautiful example of this concept.

Take away your descriptions of how the day of indulgences unbalanced you due to your normal submissive routine, put it into the context of an ‘normal’ vanilla marriage and the day seems like a very nice day. Put it in the context of how it made you feel because of your usual D/s routine and it takes on a whole deeper and more intense aspect.

You were given a day to indulge yourself and you chose to spend that day with your wife. Beautiful.
 
But perhaps it was also a journey for her? Maybe she didn't have it all planed but after the start, she saw how you adapted and liked and enjoyed what was happening as did she and so she went on to the next step and the step after that?
What comes through is the enjoyment you have both got form this journey, experience.
I wanted to make sure I acknowledged this @MSDB321 because her journey is as important as mine and her growth has been awe inspiring to see. I plan to discuss it more soon. #Confidence #Dominance #Domfidence
 
115.

I was naked and exposed, my miniskirt bunched around my waist, my thigh highs and heels simply window dressing, further highlighting the feminine submissive I had become. I was on my knees and watching him take her - deep and hard, the way she liked it.

He was on top, her legs wrapped around his midsection, her spike heels banging against his back with each hard thrust. She had one arm around his neck and every so often the other would slap against the bed, involuntarily reacting to the sexual pleasure she was experiencing.

James was one of two guys we had been in the process of scheduling for her when we pushed the pause button on her seeing other people. Now, with my wife and I together and “comfortable” with the path forward, we pushed “play” and began reengaging with both.

My comfort with all of it ebbed and flowed. It’s difficult to be comfortable when a man is inside my wife, pleasuring her in ways I’m no longer capable of.

It had taken a couple of weeks for this to come together with James. He was away when I initially reached back out, but glad to hear from us and our communication with him had been consistent since. One false start had occurred when we had to cancel due to her period. Now, it was a week later and very clear that the delay had only ramped the anticipation higher.

I liked James. He was easy to talk to. I think I was so nervous the first time I couldn’t really enjoy Michael’s company. Michael was a good guy. James was too, and very funny.

We had essentially “run” the same play with James as we had with Michael before. Saturday night. Same hotel. Same order: drinks first, as a “get to know you,” and then assuming there was chemistry my wife would make the call to go upstairs.

There were two changes:

1) The way we “handled” me. With Michael, we had it made it clear I would be there and I would watch but I would not participate. That was it. We didn’t think we needed to go into it more. And had she not put me on display, that probably would have sufficed. But she did and we both realized we should have been more direct so any potential lover knew what they were signing up for. This time we made it clear I would be there, I would watch, I would not physically be involved, but I would absolutely be a part of it. As she said to James on the phone: “She’s my partner in this. This is about her as much as it’s about you and me. So, I will 'scene' her with you there and it’s important you know it going in.”

She then went on to provide a bit of guidance on what her definition of “scene-ing” was, giving a couple of examples, but stopping short of disclosing to either of us exactly what might happen. James was good with it. No surprise there. My wife’s pussy has a way of getting what it wants and I think he would have agreed to pretty much anything.

2) My wife and I were both more comfortable. Having drinks with James was fun. I was highly involved in the conversation and his sense of humor is sarcastic like mine. We laughed a lot.

As it turned out, the scene played out a lot like the last time. With her sitting on the bed and a half-naked James standing next to her, she slowly rubbed his hardening cock as she put me through my submissive paces. Off went my blouse, then my bra, then my panties, and then she ordered me to hike up my miniskirt. I blushed as I did it, but there no stopping the freight-train energy of it all. I just did what she commanded.

Exposing my cage to James was an intoxicating cocktail of submission, degradation and lust. An admission that once was will never be again. I was shaking as I lifted my skirt. Some of it out of nerves, some out of anticipation. A craving to show him that I am a slut for her and to my desires - incapable of saying “no” to her and incapable of penetration - but incredibly capable of satisfying any of all of her dominant tastes.

She had put me on my knees in the present pose four feet from the foot of the bed where she was sitting and stroking him. Then she took him in her mouth and James and I both audibly moaned. It’s such a powerful dynamic watching her give head. Blowjobs can be submissive or Dominant depending on the person giving them. Hers are overwhelmingly Dominant now. She’s in control. There’s a lot of teasing. It’s at her pace and chosen depth. I love watching the unbelievable control she has over a man.

Eventually they got to the main event. Let me just say: it is surreal watching your wife get railed by someone else. It’s emotional, raw, sexy, and humiliating. Her wetness. And mine. I remember being there on my knees; watching, listening, longing … leaking. This time she had put the condom on me when we got upstairs and told James to take note of how full it would get. It was such a degradation lever and my head spun when she pulled it. She has these incredibly Dominant flourishes that she adds. I don’t know how many are planned and how many are organic. I suppose it’s a bit of both. They’re diabolically erotic. With each one, the silk knots of my submission get tighter.

When they were finished, she repeated the command of having me take the used, full condom from James. This time I was OK with it – I figured it was coming - and smiled and thanked him when he gave it to me.

I discarded it and when I returned she was getting up from the bed, disappearing into the bathroom shortly after and closing the door. I was alone with James. I felt my nerves return and it was clear he felt uncomfortable too. I tried to diffuse:

“That was hot,” I said to him, smiling.

He smiled and blew air through his pursed lips … wow that was good.

I’m certain it was. My wife … fucks.

We all hung for a time, both of them in bathrobes on the bed, me in the same exposed state, but allowed to sit in the chair. I refreshed drinks and we all made small talk. I did my best to tuck my cage and cross my legs, hiding it. I felt self-conscious when it was just resting its tiny pink head on my thighs. I preferred looking down and seeing nothing at all. At one point she asked me to straighten the bed and I loved the dominance of this command. I could feel his eyes on me as I tidied up. She noticed it too.

“My baby always plugs that beautiful ass, doesn’t she?” she teased.

“For you,” I replied.

It thrilled me that he knew.

She gestured to me. “Come here, love.”

I walked over. She touched her index fingers and her thumbs together and slid them over my cage, pushing her fingers against my pubic bone and her thumbs under my chastity ring. The root of so much of my submission was now on display; locked, tiny, impotent.

“I find it so beautiful,” she said to James. She gently blew on my cage and patted it softly. “So delicate.” She cupped my tiny sac. “And so desperate,” she said, gesturing to the filling condom.

The plug, the cage, the endless teasing and denial, the energy of the scene, there was no way my body could withstand it all. I had already felt some leaking earlier. When I looked down – we all looked at it, including James – my feminine submission had already filled the top of the condom by half an inch.

“She tried to tell me once she didn’t like it,” she smirked. “But your flower knows better, doesn’t it love?”

“Yes, Mistress,” I whispered.

It was humiliating and erotic and such a reminder of the control she has over me. I loved it, even as I struggled with the inadequacy of it all. Whatever spec of male pride remained was overwhelmed by the futility of the situation. That battle had already been lost. She just hadn’t declared it over, because it was more degrading like this.

Embrace what you are. It’s better this way.

Eventually they went for round two, a longer session with more positions and a switch in the middle where she took off his condom, handed it to me to discard and then worked him orally for about five minutes before re-wrapping him for the finish.

The cuckold experience is so incredibly electric and degrading. Far beyond anything else in many ways. I feel sexual shame and I enjoy it, which is something I plan to unpack, since I don’t know if shame is the right word. It’s exhilarating and dirty and … more on that later.

To open a condom for my wife and obediently hand it to her … so she can roll it down a man’s hard shaft … so he can fuck her … in front of me … is breathtaking.

When they were done, I wondered what, if anything, was next. Would there be a round three? Turns out there would not be. Shortly after they caught their breath, she laid down next to him and they talked for a little while. I couldn’t hear what they were saying, which was unsettling, but hoped with the seeming success of the night that she would tell me at the appropriate time.

“OK, baby girl,” she said as she got up from the bed. “It is time for us to leave lovely James now.”

That was that. I got up from the chair, pulled down my skirt and then put my panties, bra and blouse back on. I helped gather up her things and then got our overnight bag sorted. With that, James gave me a hug and my wife a short kiss and she and I left.

As we walked down the hall, she took my hand. “You OK?”

“Yes,” I said.

As I pushed the “down” arrow on the elevator, she walked over, threw her arms around my neck and kissed me deeply.

“I cannot wait to get you home,” she said.
 
While I could never pull off the feminization the way you have Alexandra, I would love to be in a cuckold relationship like this.
So glad to see you living your best life.
 
116.

“What did you like best?” she asked, as I slid up her naked body. We had returned home and I had just finished pleasuring her. When she told me to, I realized this command was an extension of her time with James. Her night with him wouldn’t end until I took my rightful place between her legs and worshipped her to completion. Aside from giving the order, she was quiet. I think she preferred to let the experience dominate our thoughts in whichever direction they took us. For me, it was the idea he had just been inside her. She looked different, smelled different and tasted different.

You’re just going to have to get used to it. It’s better this way.

I considered her question for a bit and realized I had a lot of potential answers. I loved the sexual energy in the room. I loved my submission being put on display. There was something so erotic and exciting about being viewed by others as an open, sexual channel. Like I was taboo.

(There was a look James had given me after they had had sex for the first time that was just this searching acknowledgement of the life I led. Like he knew his fleeting involvement in it was barely scratching the surface and he was trying to process my steps from A to B. I think he realized the complexity of the math equation and that he had no chance in solving it. But it was fascinating to see his wheels turning over the depths of my submission.)

I loved watching her. She’s just so sexy. She talks sexy. She moves sexy. She fucks sexy.

And the guys? It’s one thing to watch a video online and see a man with a big dick. It truly is another thing entirely to see one for real and have it pleasuring your wife. Mind you, James and Michael were/are well endowed – it’s one of the reasons she picked them – but they’re not “super-porn cock” big. They’re virile men. And they filled her so fully it’s unfathomable that their parts are/were technically the same as mine. (I’ve since stopped viewing it this way.) Seeing that happen and seeing her cum all over them was wild. She was louder with James when she orgasmed and both times she did, he was hammering into her. She clearly likes it rough. Even before all of “this,” I was incapable of providing anything close to how to she obviously needs it.

“I loved watching you. I loved watching you cum,” I said.

“This one was better than the first one.”

“I agree,” I said.

“He wanted us to stay.”

“Is that what you were whispering about?”

“Yes. But I wanted to get you home.”

I miss a lot of what is right in front of me. This journal is a testament to it. But I didn’t miss the significance of that statement. It meant everything to me, because it validated everything she had said leading up to it: This is about us.