Looking for that sweet spot for lockup times...

[PornAddict103]

I'm trying once again to go a whole month without cumming... I did once but was locked 24/7 the entire time and it literally drove me insane. But I think I can do it again without losing my mind this time. I want find a perfect orgasm frequency that's not often enough to calm my constant horniness, but also not long enough to get used to not cumming after a while.

What is your sweet spot for orgasm frequency?

 

[Mr. TAG]

I’m older in my 50s but five days after orgasm I feel the horniness returning so I would think for me every 10 to 12 days.
Also, if the wife Girlfriend is involved, that could shorten the time,

 

[JaySaysYes]

There are at least two things and you seem to have conflated them;

1. being locked
2. not orgasming (which includes ejaculating, in my view)

You can be locked and still orgasm and ejaculate as much as you like.

You can be free of a cage and not orgasm.

If you want the latter then you'll find it a lot easier without a sex toy attached to you all the time.

My experience, having just reached a year without orgasm or ejaculation, suggests longer is better.

I'll also add that, in my experience, it is far easier to go without orgasms without the cage. Sure, it requires self-control, which for a lot of men nowadays is a superpower, but even with a cage, it ultimately boils down to self-control.

 

[PornAddict103]

The self-control part is what I have a problem with... That's why I got into chastity in the first place. But I really love how it feels when I really need to cum and can't. It's an awesome feeling that gives me a definite high. What about you, my friend, what gives you an ultimate thrill?

 

[JaySaysYes]

The self-control part is what I have a problem with... That's why I got into chastity in the first place. But I really love how it feels when I really need to cum and can't. It's an awesome feeling that gives me a definite high. What about you, my friend, what gives you an ultimate thrill?

I don't really know how to answer your question as I don't seek thrills and while I am insanely horny and I would love an orgasm, I also don't want one because something else has replaced the relentless and endless cycle of craving->orgasm->craving->orgasm...

I turned down the volume on all my dopamine inputs some time ago and now I feel pure joy by waking up and hearing the cacophany of birds in the morning, or seeing a ringlet of hair on my girlfriends neck, or seeing the buds of spring appearing, or just simply stopping what I am doing and being in the moment and feeling the rush of cold air enter my nostrils and the warm moist air leaving.

Gotta say, long term semen retention changed my perspecive on what joy and pleasure are.

 

[PornAddict103]

I don't seek thrills and while I am insanely horny and I would love an orgasm, I also don't want one because something else has replaced the relentless and endless cycle of craving->orgasm->craving->orgasm...

Well, it's kinda hard-wired into me... When I go more than 2 full weeks without cumming then my body gives me these sudden physical (and very intense) urges, whether I want them or not and next thing I know, I'm riding the edge of a spontaneous orgasm. I was able to fight it off during my last lockup session, but before then I would get a spontaneous orgasm usually in the 15 to 25 days range.

 

[JaySaysYes]

Well, it's kinda hard-wired into me... When I go more than 2 full weeks without cumming then my body gives me these sudden physical (and very intense) urges, whether I want them or not and next thing I know, I'm riding the edge of a spontaneous orgasm. I was able to fight it off during my last lockup session, but before then I would get a spontaneous orgasm usually in the 15 to 25 days range.

Sounds like a real challenge, probably like walking was, or talking, learning to read and write, drive a car, etc.

Still, it's not for everyone since it is hard work and does require immense amounts of self-control and focus.

 

[PornAddict103]

You have no idea man... In fact, just today I accidentally shot my load just from trying on my Vice with my chastity strap. I put the strap on my ring and put the cage shaft on. That alone seriously aroused me and it was a warning I ignored... I put on the anti-pullout and started throbbing from it, then snapping the lock closed pushed me over the edge right then. It was 18 days since I had my last orgasm before this happened.

 

[Mr_anonymous]

I average 10 to 15 day lockups. Not usually more then 20 days or so. Depends on what's going on we plan around that. Just did 10 days got a day out then back in for another 10 till our hotel room/night out. Then start another month I suppose.

 

[PornAddict103]

I really want to be able to hold my load in chastity longer than just a few weeks, but thus far I was only able to do it once... I know constantly watching porn all the time while locked up (hence my username ) makes it that much harder... Pun intended , but that's what makes it fun and makes me wanna just keep going.

Ever hear the term "Thrills & Chills"? Well, for me it's more like "Thrills & Spills" LOL!

 

[Mr_anonymous]

Watching porn seems counterproductive to your goal if we're being honest here.

 

[PornAddict103]

I know it does, but if you know my past addictions, then you’ll understand why I do it.

 

[Mr_anonymous]

Just seems what gets in your way of reaching your goals is watching porn and not staying caged. Do it your way, not a judgement but change those two things you can almost certainly reach those goals if they're important to you. I'll tell you what I tell my wife with good intentions. Though you'll hate it just like she does. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting a different result.

 

[PornAddict103]

I am slowly reducing my time watching porn but I can’t just cut it off all at once. It’ll take time.

Also, I confess I’m addicted to T&D from watching porn because I love needing to cum badly and not being able to. That’s something else that I find very difficult to kick. I picked it up upon locking myself in my first cage and I been hooked on it ever since.

 

[Mr_anonymous]

Do it your way, there is no one way. Also it's entirely up to you being you self lock. If you are serious about certain goals though recognizing what's stopping you from reaching them is important.

 

[PornAddict103]

Do it your way, there is no one way. Also it's entirely up to you being you self lock. If you are serious about certain goals though recognizing what's stopping you from reaching them is important.

Yeah, I realized just yesterday that it's not a good idea to swap cages in the middle of the day because I'm very physically sensitive, so avoiding that will take one such obstacle away. May not sound like much but I feel it's a step in the right direction.

 

[Mr_anonymous]

Yeah, I realized just yesterday that it's not a good idea to swap cages in the middle of the day because I'm very physically sensitive, so avoiding that will take one such obstacle away. May not sound like much but I feel it's a step in the right direction.

I stay caged so it's a non issue for me. If I'm doing 15 days whatever it's entirely with cage on. Then I generally get a day to get off all I want then it's back on before bed. If I'm really lucky I'm given the choice to sleep without it.

 

[PornAddict103]

That's what I'm doing right now. I'm only taking it off for showerings and sometimes at night when I really need to sleep and can't risk staying up because of a monster erection at night. Yesterday, I was trying a new combo with my Vice and chastity strap to see how well it works for me... That's where I screwed up. Lesson learned, so I won't be swapping out cages mid-day anymore.

 

[Mr_anonymous]

You find the right cage won't need to take it off at all to shower or sleep. The vice enclosed cages don't seem ideal for cleaning. Anything not stainless or closed I tend to avoid so it doesn't have to come off at all for long periods

 

[PornAddict103]

I'm currently locked in my Cage of Shame, which I've worn for long term attempts and it's best for me. As I mentioned, I was just trying a new combo to see how it felt.

 

[Mr_anonymous]

That shocking cage on way is a resin/plastic cb knockoff but that will only be short term wear. I don't think short of custom you ever find a perfect fit. You get really close to it and get used to the little aspects you don't like.

 

[PornAddict103]

That shocking cage on way is a resin/plastic cb knockoff but that will only be short term wear. I don't think short of custom you ever find a perfect fit. You get really close to it and get used to the little aspects you don't like.

I don't use plastic cages for long term... Only when I want to "play". My steel Cage of Shame is for long term.

 

[Mr_anonymous]

I don't use plastic cages for long term... Only when I want to "play". My steel Cage of Shame is for long term.

I'm in the jailers cage off there now. Have been for awhile. Besides being a bit narrow it's about perfect for my needs.

 

[PornAddict103]

I'm in the jailers cage off there now. Have been for awhile. Besides being a bit narrow it's about perfect for my needs.

Got a link to it?

 

[Mr_anonymous]

Got a link to it?

It's on lock the cock where cage of shame is