Mistaken disclosure in vanilla

[outsideleft]

i mistakenly outed myself into a vanilla relationship as desiring a Female-led service role...citing D/s & BDSM as metaphors...i was around day-14 of a chastity detox from online porn...i was all over the place with powerful swirls all over and all through my carcass...and over-shared via my metaphors...

Everything i said was interpreted as me being a so out of order as to be stereotyped as a 'creep' - i was only outlining my preferences and not seeking any connection with the person i spoke too...

I been on an emotional roller-horror-coaster since being informed by Her and a friend of how 'out of order' i was...

i agree my disclosure was well over-done and a grave mistake...

Talkin here of the emotional after-math - sadness, shame, frustration, fear, guilt, anxiety...all the while maintaining my chastity commitment...

Temptations to breach this agreement to distract from these emotions are flaring persistently.

 

[true42]

I been on an emotional roller-horror-coaster since being informed by Her and a friend of how 'out of order' i was accused of being...

i agree my disclosure was well over-done and a grave mistake...

Talkin here of the emotional after-math - sadness, shame, frustration, fear, guilt, anxiety...

We all make mistakes. Yours is super embarrassing, but you didn't hurt anyone, so that's really a good thing, and you'll be fine, even if it doesn't feel that way right now.

 

[outsideleft]

We all make mistakes. Yours is super embarrassing, but you didn't hurt anyone, so that's really a good thing, and you'll be fine, even if it doesn't feel that way right now.

Thanks - She said She was 'upset' that i'd brought up this subject, so She was hurt...

This is the worst of it for me - i do not so much mind people know i desire to serve Women - but how vanilla's interpret this is the problem...and my referencing bdsm added fuel to the problematic interpretation's fire...

& yes, my feelings will pass - i posted today to blow some of the emotional pressure off...

 

[remyruff]

People that judge others harshly usually have issues that they wouldn't share in fears of being ridiculed themselves.

Generally shallow people do this.

 

[Xileh]

We don’t know who you were talking to, but don’t be surprised if at some future date, you might be pulled aside to address some budding curiosity.

Nothing to lose now, lean into it.

It has been noticed by other women that my wife never complains about her husband. Her yard and house are perfect, and car is spotless. Her husband does not watch endless TV and is fit. He also cooks! Women are noticing something is different.

Be proud.

 

[Mrs and mr]

People that judge others harshly usually have issues that they wouldn't share in fears of being ridiculed themselves.

Generally shallow people do this.

It’s interesting how my kinks are weird but their kinks are normal.