How I discovered chastity was a complete fluke. I was browsing a certain ‘adult art’ website associated with a domestic rodent pet. I saw a ‘hidden camera’ video of a woman in a hotel room getting ready for an evening. Then in walked a man, naked except for a cage (I now know to be a type of CB6000). I thought nothing else of it.
Some time later, I was looking up FLR, for a family friend. FLR as in Further Leave to Remain ( An immigration term). You can imagine my surprise when ‘Female Led Relationship’ came up in the search on my work computer.
I went home and looked up this FLR and very soon found a video on the same website called ‘Domestic chastity’. In it a man appears to be tied to a bed and filming the scene with a headcam. She removes his underwear, unlocks him, and washes him. She moisturises him then returns him to the cage with a kiss. This fascinated me and I started looking up more, not just that site but other forums including this one.
Coincidentally, my wife was suffering from a loss of libido as a result of depression. This led to frustration for me, and an increase in masturbation. The trouble with that, as many of you know, the more masturbation, the less you actually want sex when she does actually want it. That in turn affected her more, as it appeared that I wasn’t aroused by her. Which was completely wrong. I also found that as I got older, I could not maintain an erection without direct stimulation, which again left me thinking that she would think that I wasn’t aroused by her.
Eventually I plucked up the courage to ask her. He response was “Do you think you need it?”I explained as well as I could at the time that I would like to try.
We bought a silicone CB6000. On reflection this was a bad choice because even if I couldn’t bend the sheath to get my penis out, I could just remove the pins. So as exciting as it was, it was a bit of an anticlimax.
We tried a plastic version, but this caused chafing due to the H cross section of the base ring and with a foreskin, not the best for cleaning either.
As she didn’t want any part of something that was hurting me, the chastity ‘adventure’ died a death, barring the occasional ‘treat’ or sex play.
In the ensuing years she improved her depression but developed Lichen sclerosus. It's an infection that makes penetrative sex uncomfortable for her during a flare up. She also admitted that she was also embarrassed about having to tell me that she was having a flare up.
In the early days I'd gone as far as buying her a lockable jewellery case and a combination padlock to keep the key in. I also bought her a 'lock & key' anklet so at least I have a visual reminder even if it's not the real key.
Out of the blue on the evening of 16th August she said to me, “I've been thinking. If you want, I would like to give chastity another try; on my terms". She had read an article from a poster at LoveHoney and one from neocities called ‘The Secret to a Happy Marriage’.
As a surprise she ordered me a cage from LTC UK. A 'birdcage' style that comes with three base rings and plenty of space for hygiene. It was obviously too big for me, but as it was too late to send it back, I started using it as a practice cage until the smaller one arrives. Slowly building up time in the cage until it was time to hand over the key and let her click the padlock shut; 8am on Sunday 1st September. She dropped the key into the jewelry box and spun the combination lock. Luckily, I’m working from home so there are less chances of the large bulge being seen.
I have the spare key in an emergency fob secured by a numbered tab She hasn’t said how long the ‘experiment’ will last, but I am looking forward to it.
Some time later, I was looking up FLR, for a family friend. FLR as in Further Leave to Remain ( An immigration term). You can imagine my surprise when ‘Female Led Relationship’ came up in the search on my work computer.
I went home and looked up this FLR and very soon found a video on the same website called ‘Domestic chastity’. In it a man appears to be tied to a bed and filming the scene with a headcam. She removes his underwear, unlocks him, and washes him. She moisturises him then returns him to the cage with a kiss. This fascinated me and I started looking up more, not just that site but other forums including this one.
Coincidentally, my wife was suffering from a loss of libido as a result of depression. This led to frustration for me, and an increase in masturbation. The trouble with that, as many of you know, the more masturbation, the less you actually want sex when she does actually want it. That in turn affected her more, as it appeared that I wasn’t aroused by her. Which was completely wrong. I also found that as I got older, I could not maintain an erection without direct stimulation, which again left me thinking that she would think that I wasn’t aroused by her.
Eventually I plucked up the courage to ask her. He response was “Do you think you need it?”I explained as well as I could at the time that I would like to try.
We bought a silicone CB6000. On reflection this was a bad choice because even if I couldn’t bend the sheath to get my penis out, I could just remove the pins. So as exciting as it was, it was a bit of an anticlimax.
We tried a plastic version, but this caused chafing due to the H cross section of the base ring and with a foreskin, not the best for cleaning either.
As she didn’t want any part of something that was hurting me, the chastity ‘adventure’ died a death, barring the occasional ‘treat’ or sex play.
In the ensuing years she improved her depression but developed Lichen sclerosus. It's an infection that makes penetrative sex uncomfortable for her during a flare up. She also admitted that she was also embarrassed about having to tell me that she was having a flare up.
In the early days I'd gone as far as buying her a lockable jewellery case and a combination padlock to keep the key in. I also bought her a 'lock & key' anklet so at least I have a visual reminder even if it's not the real key.
Out of the blue on the evening of 16th August she said to me, “I've been thinking. If you want, I would like to give chastity another try; on my terms". She had read an article from a poster at LoveHoney and one from neocities called ‘The Secret to a Happy Marriage’.
As a surprise she ordered me a cage from LTC UK. A 'birdcage' style that comes with three base rings and plenty of space for hygiene. It was obviously too big for me, but as it was too late to send it back, I started using it as a practice cage until the smaller one arrives. Slowly building up time in the cage until it was time to hand over the key and let her click the padlock shut; 8am on Sunday 1st September. She dropped the key into the jewelry box and spun the combination lock. Luckily, I’m working from home so there are less chances of the large bulge being seen.
I have the spare key in an emergency fob secured by a numbered tab She hasn’t said how long the ‘experiment’ will last, but I am looking forward to it.
