Hello everyone,
First of all.. it's so cool to see a community dedicated to chastity. When i first started out I thought this was a pretty niche kink but I have since learned that I'm far from the only one that likes living locked.
I have been experimenting with being chaste since early 2018. I started out with a cheap metal cage with hinged rings. That was the first time my wife locked me up. We almost quit chastity entirely because the cage was chafing and pinching about everywhere. Though we still really liked the idea. Since then we tried out some different models. Some were more succesful then others. Sometimes I self-locked, sometimes she locked me but usually no more than a few days on end.
My wife is not really a dom, but she embraced the idea of intimacy not revolving around sex (or the penis).
This year my wife and I had a conversation about chastity again and I proposed getting a more expensive cage. Since then I am getting locked for more extensive periods of time ranging from 10 days to about three weeks. This really impacted chastity play for the better. My wife was not worried about my jewels being 'hurt' by playing anymore and she loved that we introduced more female led relationship aspects into chastity play. She really likes getting massages or kissing and cuddling without the part of sex. I really like being more focussed on her instead of 'getting off'.
SInce we started playing more and more I have been encouraging her to tell me she doesn't want to unlock me yet. This is my absolute favorite part of teasing and gets me hornier than ever.
I feel like i'm pretty lucky my wife has been so open minded about exporing this kink together.
Anyway, I really enjoy reading your experiences here. It makes for some good tips on the lifestyle and makes me feel like this kink is not that weird.
Tom
First of all.. it's so cool to see a community dedicated to chastity. When i first started out I thought this was a pretty niche kink but I have since learned that I'm far from the only one that likes living locked.
I have been experimenting with being chaste since early 2018. I started out with a cheap metal cage with hinged rings. That was the first time my wife locked me up. We almost quit chastity entirely because the cage was chafing and pinching about everywhere. Though we still really liked the idea. Since then we tried out some different models. Some were more succesful then others. Sometimes I self-locked, sometimes she locked me but usually no more than a few days on end.
My wife is not really a dom, but she embraced the idea of intimacy not revolving around sex (or the penis).
This year my wife and I had a conversation about chastity again and I proposed getting a more expensive cage. Since then I am getting locked for more extensive periods of time ranging from 10 days to about three weeks. This really impacted chastity play for the better. My wife was not worried about my jewels being 'hurt' by playing anymore and she loved that we introduced more female led relationship aspects into chastity play. She really likes getting massages or kissing and cuddling without the part of sex. I really like being more focussed on her instead of 'getting off'.
SInce we started playing more and more I have been encouraging her to tell me she doesn't want to unlock me yet. This is my absolute favorite part of teasing and gets me hornier than ever.
I feel like i'm pretty lucky my wife has been so open minded about exporing this kink together.
Anyway, I really enjoy reading your experiences here. It makes for some good tips on the lifestyle and makes me feel like this kink is not that weird.
Tom
