Permanent (?) denial

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    My wife and I have been practicing chastity and orgasm denial for almost two years and have really been enjoying the benefits. Initially she was uncomfortable with saying “no orgasms” but she has gradually grown to enjoy the rush she experiences when she denies me. We’ve gotten to the point where she always says no and I’m to a point that I want to hear “no” more than actually getting an orgasm. My last orgasm was on New Years Eve and we both agree that my denial may just end up being permanent or ultra-long term (measured in years).

    I’m just curious about others experiences with permanent or long-term denial. Was it a gradual process that just kind of happened? Was it purposely decided on? Who’s idea?
     
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    I can see my Wife's enjoyment and desire to keep me for longer and longer periods without an orgasm growing. But, it has taken the better part of 2 years for Her to not feel guilty and understand the benefits of being stricter. There has been somewhat of a learning curve on my end as well. I wouldn't rule permanent out of the question, although I would need to discuss that with Her and see how She feels to. Thankfully I trust Her judgement, to say the least.
     
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    My wife and I have gone down the same road as you although may be a bit further lol she also got stricter and stricter and It has been a year and a half since I had an orgasm from using my penis
    All my orgasms are now from anal stimulation which I come to enjoy far more than the old way and it has been so long that is the only way I like now
    As you said the longer you go the less you want penile stimulation
    Very happly married couple who should have taken on chastity decades ago rather than years ago lol
     
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    Its the same with us. The longer I'm left the more I enjoy it! Mrs Chaste has also got a lot stricter and I don't even get ruined orgasms at the moment! Nothing at all so far in 2018. Did try a prostate massager once but didn't know what to make of it really! Wouldn't mind trying again at some point. Think I'll put a post on the site about it. We are a funny lot us chaste blokes, desperate to cum but hoping she won't let us. I've been threatened with maybe a whole year without an orgasm (my stomach does somersaults at the thought). I say "You wouldn't really do that" (dare!) "You don't know what I'll do, it maybe less.... or perhaps more!" That makes me stir in my cage for sure. We are indeed lucky chaps!
     
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    We're nearing the same junction. Beautiful used to feel bad by denying me an orgasm and saying, "No." Now, after 2 years of chastity, she won't even consider less than a month and she has expressed desire for me to never orgasm again. I don't know what I would want if it was my choice (which it isn't). Never is exciting but an orgasms after a month of denial feels so damn good. I'm sure she will make the right decision for us.

    -the footman
     
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    My Wife/Kh has already told me that its not coming off anymore. In fact she has switched my cage from plastic to steel with the magic lock on it. She said that there was a chance that I could cut through the plastic to remove it. She is right cause the thought has crossed my mind.
    I was the one who originally locked myself up and then confessed to my Wife about my habitual masturbation and felt guilty about it. I gave her the keys and she threw away all the spares and kept one key to my cage, I mean her cage.
    After 45 days I wanted it removed but she has made it clear that that isnt an option anymore. Its now day 121. Dont get me wrong I have come use to it and dont mind as much about being locked up, but there are days that I cant stand it and want it off.
    I have a doctors appointment in 5 days for a physical , Im trying to figure out what to tell him about my manhood being caged. My wife told me to tell him the truth and face it like a man.
    Guess I will have no choice really.
     
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    It happens. My beautiful wife/KH told me a few months back that I was done with PIV. I would be allowed orgasms occasionally, but not inside her vagina. I now average cumming once a month for so-usually I am allowed to jerk off while she watches, (she gets a kick out of that) but she will on occasion blow me or jerk me herself. We are both happy with this arrangement. Since the beginning of 2018, I've been unlocked and allowed to cum on 1/8 and 2/14. Nothing in March so far, but I'm hoping.
     
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    Once a month! She's spoiling you! So how many orgasms does your wife get in a month? And letting you bring yourself off! You can control that to get the most enjoyment out of it. Hmmm. Someone should have a word with her you know, I think she's being far to nice to you.:).
     
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    for many, this seems like the obvious conclusion to the great adventure.
     
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    My last orgasm was November 22.....and my next is in 15 days time.....if she lets me! I initially felt frustrated ( I was a chronic masturbator)....but for most of the time I feel better for not having one....my mistress is a long distance relationship.....so I could orgasm and mot tell her....but I don't want to....whats the point? No now I feel more energy, more concentration, a better husband....and proud because i don't jerk off every night to porn....I now feel disgusted at the thought! I do miss the feeling just before ejaculation.....certainly not the down I got afterwards. I would love to learn to orgasm like a woman....and feel what a woman feels.....more men should try chastity.....I can't think of anything negative....once you get a cage that fits nice!
     
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    LOL!, yep, I guess I'm spoiled! Although, in my defense, I pleasure her almost every night, so she has 25 or more orgasms for every one of mine. Another great line she used when she got out the strap on and decided on no more PIV for me: "After 6 kids, it's about time I did all the fucking from now on, and you can be the one getting fucked." She turns me on so much!
     
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    i am a firm believer in permanent denial. Especially for those of us that also practice Femdom. jack's alpha ways would often return after release and there would be a marked difference in his devotion and worship. Sex is all about me know and my needs. I like it that and will never return to life before when we had equal sex rights.
     
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    I couldn’t cope with permanent, never having an orgasm. The thrill comes in not knowing how long the denials are going to be.
     
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    My wife loves ruined orgasms, so I know I will always get those. I don't know when I will get another full blown orgasm, I just need to know that I will get one sooner or later.
     
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    I have a doctors appointment in 5 days for a physical , Im trying to figure out what to tell him about my manhood being caged. My wife told me to tell him the truth and face it like a man.

    I had a funny rash on my leg and asked if I could take the cage off when I went to the doctors office. She just said, "No" with a smile. My regular Dr wasn't in that day so I ended up with a female doctor close to my age. I was so nervous... she asked some questions then just said, "Well drop your pants and lets see it." I dropped my pants but not underwear. She looked at my leg closely and for several seconds. I like to think she didn't notice the cage.
     
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    But in the end its not your decision is it! How scary is that thought? :eek:
     
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    Mrs Chaste is of the opinion that I enjoy ruined orgasms to much, so has decided to curtail those as well. Seems to have the effect she wants, I'm desperate to cum! Love it!
     
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    We're not on the path to permanent denial. She occasionally loves to completely overwhelm me, and wipe me out. That's becoming far more rare with time. She skipped September and October entirely, but made up for it in November and December. And now I'm back to one a month this year.

    She seems to prefer me always wanting. She wants to keep me yearning, tantalized and writhing.

    Even when I do get that single full orgasm in a month, I'm ready for more very soon. So there's no much of a downside for her. I've managed to keep my composure and demeanor pleasing.

    Though I will admit that last Spring, after she edged almost daily, and denied me an orgasm for 10 weeks last year, she regretted finally letting me orgasm. I was wiped out and brainless the whole weekend. I was just unresponsive and not nearly as fun. She said she should have let me wait even longer to cum.

    The longer I go, the less we both want me to "crash".
    There's really no negative emotions about keeping me constantly aroused and desirious.

    She's been teasing me - three separate times now - about losing or destroying the key after locking me up. I think she's just trying to get into my head and mess with me, to be honest. But in the moment, I'm at rapt attention and completely shocked.

    But to answer your question.
    She's the one who first sent me a femdom/chastity story about a man being locked up for a year, then (spoiler alert) permanently soldered into his chastity belt. She started this. I had never even heard of male chastity until then.

    Then I got infatuated with the idea. After many many years lost, we finally started down this path in 2014. Since 2014, I haven't stroked myself alone or "stolen" an orgasm. That's the year we took the plunge and got me pierced, and then locked in custom steel chastity.

    So other than last year's agreement to make this orgasm-control indefinite (permanent?), we haven't moved to locking me away forever.
     
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    Our arrangement places all of the control squarely with my Keyholder. Being collared and under contract, i am prepared for the possibility of my custom device never being removed and effectively being in a permanent state of denial. my pleasure comes from servicing Her and submitting to Her power. However, if She wishes to grant me a traditional orgasm, it is my duty to accept it and to thank Her for the privilege.
     
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    I'm glad my wife hasn't gone that far yet, she likes to keep me horny and on edge, and does not notice any down time with a ruined orgasm. I think she also likes it when I do my clean up duty.

    My blog https://imhersubmissivehusband.wordpress.com/
     
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    I can assure you that your doctor did notice!!.
    The first time is always a very nervous affair.
    Our Doctor is also female, The first time I knew she saw it under my underpants but said nothing.
    6 Months later at another appointment, She actually said I see you are still wearing a chastity device. An how is that going?
    My answer was very short with embarrassment. But she said its more common than you think and not something that I haven't seen before.
    She then said to make sure we do a prostate check each and every time I have an appointment, and that was many prostate checks ago. During these procedures I have to take my underpants off and be fully exposed. Not sure if thats a normal procedure but it is now.
    Our doctor is also a social friend and often have dinners and bbq's but at no time has the matter ever come up or even been insinuated.
     
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    But, don’t your kh want to have sex?
     
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    My KH loves sex way to much to keep me denied and I could never turn her down. She likes that I am always ready for her when she unlocks things.
     
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    I would be very happy to be permanently denied, but I think it is important that our KHs make this decision for us and that they do not tell us that this is the ultimate intention. Instead they should give us hope that we will have an orgasm one day, and maybe we are edged and ruined so it seems like we have a chance, even if it never finally happens.
    As John Cleese says in the film Clockwise, "It's not the despair, it's the hope."
     
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    My orgasm diet is as follows:
    January to june, monthly anal orgasms
    July to september, denied 100%
    October, birthday handjob
    November, wedding aniversary and only vaginal orgasm, a ritual to renew votes
    December, Christmas handjob
    I'm never allowed to completly forget what I can't get !
     
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