Punishment

[SubDee]

We don’t do maintenance sessions but spankings are now a big part of our WLM.
I work an absolutely ridiculous job with regards to hours and stress but I still strive to make sure it is easy for Her at home.
I come up short occasionally and She reminds me where my primary focus should be with spankings.
It works as She always seems far more pleased with my behavior and attentiveness to Her needs after a punishment. Picture is current, needless to say, I am on top of my duties this week.
This is in addition to the MM cross-cut punishment pin which She generously just removed after 4 days.
It is not always easy, but She is worth it

 

[Shaznste]

Do you have a punishment dynamic as part of your relationship?

We think there is a benefit that tends to get overlooked. It allows both of you to get past the problem relatively quickly.

For example, if you act thoughtlessly and truly hurt her feeling, you could end up with having conversations over several days. She stays with hurt feelings, you keep beating yourself up. Alternatively she can choose and administer an appropriate punishment you suffer the consequences and it’s over, done, move on.

Does this work similarly for any of you?

Yes it works well for us. A regular beating then some in between

 

[Shaznste]

We don’t do maintenance sessions but spankings are now a big part of our WLM.
I work an absolutely ridiculous job with regards to hours and stress but I still strive to make sure it is easy for Her at home.
I come up short occasionally and She reminds me where my primary focus should be with spankings.
It works as She always seems far more pleased with my behavior and attentiveness to Her needs after a punishment. Picture is current, needless to say, I am on top of my duties this week.
This is in addition to the MM cross-cut punishment pin which She generously just removed after 4 days.
It is not always easy, but She is worth it

Wow that’s very nice work. Well done both of you

 

[madams-sissysub]

We have punishments as part of our FLR, but there not always corporal punishments, madam will use mundane every day tasks as punishments.

 

[Steel-caged]

Absolutely, the degree of the punishment is strictly my wife’s decision, they all start with a no nonsense hairbrush spanking and go from there.

For me it’s all about anxiety and anticipation.

 

[Kat9s toy]

Mistress prefers not to use physical pain as a punishment, as she wants to develop my masochistic tendencies.

Instead punishment may involve a good scolding, extra tasks, being ignored, financial penalties, revoking or postponing masturbation & release privileges (when I still had them), etc. Having said that, I am sure there have been some intense caning or whipping sessions where punishment was a factor.

 

[Caged for life]

Do you have a punishment dynamic as part of your relationship?

We think there is a benefit that tends to get overlooked. It allows both of you to get past the problem relatively quickly.

For example, if you act thoughtlessly and truly hurt her feeling, you could end up with having conversations over several days. She stays with hurt feelings, you keep beating yourself up. Alternatively she can choose and administer an appropriate punishment you suffer the consequences and it’s over, done, move on.

Does this work similarly for any of you?

My only punishment would be that I was left locked in the cage, no other forms of punishment

 

[JuniorLeon]

Love having my wife warming my ass with riding crop, really activates my precum

 

[Queens servant73]

Maintenance spankings have been there since we started this a few years ago, the impromptu punishments are a work in progress for my Wife. She tells me all the time that she really has almost nothing to complain about and I do everything she expects, so even the maintenance spankings are just for keeping my headspace in a great submissive way.
There are times I feel that I’ve fallen short though, so I am going to start letting her know about these instances when they occur if appropriate or when we retire to the bedroom. Then she can decide if action is needed or not.
She’s grown so much in her confidence and power over me especially this last year, but there are aspects that are still evolving.
She definitely has enjoyed putting red stripes across my ass every week and each time her swings gain strength lol, so I’m sure some day I’ll regret asking her to correct things she doesn’t like about my behavior!

 

[Calibob]

I am in great company with the majority of responders to this thread. We do practice domestic discipline in our home. Punishment spankings are not something I look forward to, but accept them each and every time as the act of physically punishing me has actually reinforced her self confidence in leading.

We review each week my actions, positive and negative, along with her approach to leading our marriage. After which I recieve a maintenance spanking, or possibly a much more severe punishment spanking. Maintenance is important to both of us. Important to her for the reinforcement of her leadership and me for reminding me to live with humility. We both miss it when life gets in the way.

The severity of maintenance and punishment has increase with her confidence level. She reserves a bath brush solely for punishment purposes,. It sits on the our dresser for both of us to see multiple times a day. She tells me she loves to see it laying their in the open, as it reminds her of the control she now has over me and our marriage. When I see it, I am reminded that I asked her for this relationship, for the boundaries and rules she imposes and the consequences that come if I disobey them. I have never been happier.

 

[cogman]

I get the paddle every now and then but not as punishment. If I do something to upset her the last thing in the world she will do is entertain that sort of thing or anything else to do with Chastity and FLR other than not let me out of the cage.

She just wont talk to me, that is the worst punishment there is.

 

[Miss Amandas boy]

I am spanked with her hand or hairbrush, usually across her lap. Sometimes she uses a cane but that is quite rare. She will take down my trousers and underpants and order me to go across her lap.

I do not enjoy punishments, she is not afraid to spank hard, but I love the fact that she will not hesitate to spank me when she decides it has been deserved.

 

[Elizabeth_keyholder]

Punishments are necessary in flr according to me I like to open there cage then cane them purple edge them a bit then cruelly lock them again

 

[Jail Bird]

Punishments are necessary in flr according to me I like to open there cage then cane them purple edge them a bit then cruelly lock them again

It's how we learn

 

[Lockedup79]

Nipple twist is one she likes to use on me and it certainly works on me

 

[Angel 1973]

I think guys need punishment !

 

[DonnaSue]

In our FLR, Mistress calls it "behavior modification" and is meted out as soon as possible after my infraction, thereby preventing any follow on feelings or thoughts. Over the years, such modification has become more infrequent and less physical. Such instructions may be as simple as being required to wear male underwear for a day or knelling on rice on our hardwood floors or polishing our KTB, just as a reminder of the actions that She has at Her disposal.

 

[jemima]

i think that punishment is ok if its fair. i dont like it if its done and i have not done nothing wrong. its a lot better than Mistress being angry for ages and ages with me.

 

[Now Alexandra]

I think punishments are crucial to the development of the FLR. They deepen the submissive headspace and elevate the Dominant one. To me, that makes them an important accelerant of relationship growth.

As already mentioned by others, they also swiftly resolve issues.

Plus, they can be fun!

 

[Angel 1973]

In our FLR, Mistress calls it "behavior modification" and is meted out as soon as possible after my infraction, thereby preventing any follow on feelings or thoughts. Over the years, such modification has become more infrequent and less physical. Such instructions may be as simple as being required to wear male underwear for a day or knelling on rice on our hardwood floors or polishing our KTB, just as a reminder of the actions that She has at Her disposal.

You are right it’s totally behavior modification which I think they deserve !

 

[Angel 1973]

You are right but guys definitely need behavior modification for sure and punishment goes a long way also .

 

[Angel 1973]

In our FLR, Mistress calls it "behavior modification" and is meted out as soon as possible after my infraction, thereby preventing any follow on feelings or thoughts. Over the years, such modification has become more infrequent and less physical. Such instructions may be as simple as being required to wear male underwear for a day or knelling on rice on our hardwood floors or polishing our KTB, just as a reminder of the actions that She has at Her disposal.

I love keeping some one in there place !

 

[Angel 1973]

I love keeping someone in there place 1

 

[Boy in chastity]

Yes, our D/s relationship is mainly based on controlling me and discipline. It was like that from the very beginning, only later was chastity introduced (the initiative came from my side).

As a boy under the firm and strict hand of the Governess (this is our style of D/s relationship), I have an obligation to stick to the mutually established rules of behavior, and she, controlling me, requires me to follow them and properly perform them. The exception, where only her rules, imposed by her and to which I could not submit my comments or objections, prevail is her home, where we meet every weekend if possible.

In any case, if I break any rule or behave in a way that she does not tolerate, I have to submit to punishment, which is very painful at her hands.

Of course, the punishment does not end with a spanking. Additionally, I have to perform punishment tasks invented by her, which I have to perform with great care, as well as various types of grounding or deferral of certain privileges, which can be very restrictive and which I really miss. But that's my position in our relationship and I enjoy living under her control and dyscypline.

 

[alexandrasweetbox]

Well, living close to the hugely popular "Kastellet BDSM club" in Landskrona, Sweden, I have seen and experienced a lot of "punishment", but always consensual. I like the club because everything happens openly, all rooms have large windows and are truly well equipped. So, I have experienced several couples who have the Mistress-slave dynamic and it always starts very, very slowly, the slave starting to protest and the Mistress becomes more and more dominating. Eventually the slave finds himself in chastity, being slapped and whipped (in public, always, as soon as slaps and yelps are heard the patrons gather) and continuously asked if he will succumb to his Mistress's will. The happens over a period of 2-4 hours, in the beginning nothing shows the Mistress-slave dynamic, quite the opposite. If you guys would like to have a night out at the club (flat entrance fee 20 GBP) take a flight over to Copenhagen. I have ample space for crashing and would love company. Observe, there are no paid for mistresses there, paying for sexual services is illegal in Sweden (not in Denmark, though).