Should I wear my cage on a first date?

Wear it. You will get to know her better if sex is off the table.
That was my answer, too. But I reread the OP, and is "experimenting" for a couple weeks really long enough for chastity to be intregal to a person's lifestyle?

I would think not wear it, and get used to one new thing at a time: her or chastity.

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Not if you don’t have some mutually understood foundation for doing so with the other person.
 
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Not if you don’t have some mutually understood foundation for doing so with the other person.
So does that go for his date? should she not wear sexy underwear without this foundation? Does it change things if she wants to wear latex?

What if he has zero intention of getting intimate on the first date?

If you get turned on by the thought of wearing your device at work, should you have a foundational understanding with all of your co-workers before wearing it?

Now for the bonus question should anyone wear a chastity device in public on the off chance they become unconscious due to illness or injury? At this point an emergency services responder and medical services provider will be non- consensually exposed to your device.
 
So does that go for his date? should she not wear sexy underwear without this foundation? Does it change things if she wants to wear latex?

What if he has zero intention of getting intimate on the first date?

If you get turned on by the thought of wearing your device at work, should you have a foundational understanding with all of your co-workers before wearing it?

Now for the bonus question should anyone wear a chastity device in public on the off chance they become unconscious due to illness or injury? At this point an emergency services responder and medical services provider will be non- consensually exposed to your device.
These are honestly kind of ridiculous counter points. Dressing nice or sexy isn't a sex toy on your privates, and is normal for a date. If one can't control themselves without said sex toy then there's far bigger issues. He's admittedly new to wearing one so it will in fact be a distraction. When focus should be on her. He's not on a date or romantically pursuing his co workers. Lastly medical professionals have seen it all and accidents or emergencies are unavoidable. Wearing it knowing it will be discovered by doctor or tsa etc is a whole other story.
 
No, of course you shouldn't wear a toy on a date!
Thank god the internet exists for second opinions - if only it was around to curtail the retarded ideas that popped into my head as a teenager 🙃

A basic level of maturity requires you to put your Reddit gooner brain on the back burner for five minutes.
She's looking for someone compatible, funny, interesting, competent (and rich + 6 foot... 😭 )
What gets you off (or not) isn't in her top ten things to discover on a first date.

I kinda suspect a bit of your head is trying to sabotage this relationship before it begins?
(oh noes, she "discovered" my kink and is flustered, I failed to woo the fantasy unicorn pictured above - dating
isn't for me, the wimmins are all meanies 😔)
 
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These are honestly kind of ridiculous counter points. Dressing nice or sexy isn't a sex toy on your privates, and is normal for a date. If one can't control themselves without said sex toy then there's far bigger issues. He's admittedly new to wearing one so it will in fact be a distraction. When focus should be on her. He's not on a date or romantically pursuing his co workers. Lastly medical professionals have seen it all and accidents or emergencies are unavoidable. Wearing it knowing it will be discovered by doctor or tsa etc is a whole other story.
Chill out. Two people have leaned in on it being a “consent violation” it’s not even close. Wear it, don’t wear it, it matters not!
 
So does that go for his date? should she not wear sexy underwear without this foundation? Does it change things if she wants to wear latex?

What if he has zero intention of getting intimate on the first date?

If you get turned on by the thought of wearing your device at work, should you have a foundational understanding with all of your co-workers before wearing it?

Now for the bonus question should anyone wear a chastity device in public on the off chance they become unconscious due to illness or injury? At this point an emergency services responder and medical services provider will be non- consensually exposed to your device.
These are honestly kind of ridiculous counter points. Dressing nice or sexy isn't a sex toy on your privates, and is normal for a date. If one can't control themselves without said sex toy then there's far bigger issues. He's admittedly new to wearing one so it will in fact be a distraction. When focus should be on her. He's not on a date or romantically pursuing his co workers. Lastly medical professionals have seen it all and accidents or emergencies are unavoidable. Wearing it knowing it will be discovered by doctor or tsa etc is a whole other story.
Too sensible
So does that go for his date? should she not wear sexy underwear without this foundation? Does it change things if she wants to wear latex?

What if he has zero intention of getting intimate on the first date?

If you get turned on by the thought of wearing your device at work, should you have a foundational understanding with all of your co-workers before wearing it?

Now for the bonus question should anyone wear a chastity device in public on the off chance they become unconscious due to illness or injury? At this point an emergency services responder and medical services provider will be non- consensually exposed to your device.
🙄
 
These are honestly kind of ridiculous counter points. Dressing nice or sexy isn't a sex toy on your privates, and is normal for a date. If one can't control themselves without said sex toy then there's far bigger issues. He's admittedly new to wearing one so it will in fact be a distraction. When focus should be on her. He's not on a date or romantically pursuing his co workers. Lastly medical professionals have seen it all and accidents or emergencies are unavoidable. Wearing it knowing it will be discovered by doctor or tsa etc is a whole other story.
🫵🏻too sensible. Don helmet and flak jacket Prepare for incoming
 
@anchorsawayme Did you wear it? I absolutely would have worn it. You Don't need her consent. You don't need to involve her in anything. if the conversations happens to do that direction (doubtful it would), you can be honest and tell her things that you're into. You're not involving her. You're getting to know her.

I think all these people saying you absolutely can't do it because she doesn't know are dead wrong.
 
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@anchorsawayme Did you wear it? I absolutely would have worn it. You Don't need her consent. You don't need to involve her in anything. if the conversations happens to do that direction (doubtful it would), you can be honest and tell her things that you're into. You're not involving her. You're getting to know her.

I think all these people saying you absolutely can't do it because she doesn't know are dead wrong.
Says the person that hopes tsa see's their cage and makes it a point they do. Speaking of dead wrong.
 
Says the person that hopes tsa see's their cage and makes it a point they do. Speaking of dead wrong.
But they are different scenarios. I understand the argument against my svenario more. But we aren't talking about my scenario. We are talking about his.

What is wrong with someone wearing a chastity cage on a date? He's not saying he's going to show her, being it up in conversation, ask her about it, etc. Just wearing it. What could possibly be wrong with that? Is he not supposed to wear it anywhere? Not the office or a meeting or going to grocery store or anything at all? Would he be somehow involving all of those people in his lifestyle if he does?
 
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But they are different scenarios. I understand the argument against my svenario more. But we aren't talking about my scenario. We are talking about his.

What is wrong with someone wearing a chastity cage on a date? He's not saying he's going to show her, being it up in conversation, ask her about it, etc. Just wearing it. What could possibly be wrong with that? Is he not supposed to wear it anywhere? Not the office or a meeting or going to grocery store or anything at all? Would he be somehow involving all of those people in his lifestyle if he does?
No your stance is perfectly clear. The world and people in it simply exist to serve a humiliation fetish of some sort. Rather it be doctors, tsa or anyone to fill that need. Its not ok to use others just trying to do their jobs to fulfill some personal fetish. Its this behavior that reflects on everybody that wears a cage. Even those of us with some sense.
 
No your stance is perfectly clear. The world and people in it simply exist to serve a humiliation fetish of some sort. Rather it be doctors, tsa or anyone to fill that need. Its not ok to use others just trying to do their jobs to fulfill some personal fetish. Its this behavior that reflects on everybody that wears a cage. Even those of us with some sense.
You're right. My apologies. Have a great rest of of the week. 🙂
 
I agree with this. Unless you're sure beyond all doubt that your date is into chastity, then you're taking a serious risk by staying locked. Better safe than sorry, especially with relationships.
Because she won’t want to date him again because he wouldn’t let her touch his crotch on the first date?
 
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Why make it weird on the first date. Unless it is just something he can’t live without for awhile.
Some people take chastity a lot more serious than others.
It’s not life or death.
It’s a fun kink.😀
 
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