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PerfectDeparture

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Hello,

I'm pretty new to this. My cage was an impulse buy, mainly because I had too high of a sex drive (masturbating 2-3 times a day) and I was out of options to control it. Also, I've read several testimonials about how an orgasm after a period of abstinence is much more enjoyable.

I need help finding erotica about chastity. Stories about FemDom and sissification are total boner killers for me. Even milder versions (like the gentle-femdom subreddit) isn't my cup of tea. I want to be a strong masculine man, the big spoon in a cuddle, whose dick just happens to be locked up. So.... I'm hoping I can find stories where the partners are on equal footing. Or there are at least some "switch" scenes.

That said, is there anyone with similar interests to me? I would love to hear more about your experiences.
 
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I think you may have a misunderstanding of the kink if you think that people here aren't masculine men.
 
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I think you may have a misunderstanding of the kink if you think that people here aren't masculine men.
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No, he doesn't have a misconception. He's simply pointing out that he is turned off by stories about sissification, humiliation, and where the man is subjugated or emasculated by his keyholder. A lot of stories contain those elements.

PerfectDeparture said:
Hello,

. I'm hoping I can find stories where the partners are on equal footing. Or there are at least some "switch" scenes.
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Hello! I'll suggest one of my own stories. It's somewhat equal footing... https://chastityforums.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=64046
 
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No, he doesn't have a misconception. He's simply pointing out that he is turned off by stories about sissification, humiliation, and where the man is subjugated or emasculated by his keyholder. A lot of stories contain those elements.



Hello! I'll suggest one of my own stories. It's somewhat equal footing... https://chastityforums.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=64046
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That story was amazing! I hope it's not out of line to say it literally had me leaking in my cage.
 
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That is a special kind of relationship, certainly not common. But there are all sorts of stories out there. Do you have a scenario in mind? I find writing my own stories is better than reading what others have written, as i can craft them to fit my own special interests. Might work for you. Good luck and enjoy.
 
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PerfectDeparture said:
Hello,

I'm pretty new to this. My cage was an impulse buy, mainly because I had too high of a sex drive (masturbating 2-3 times a day) and I was out of options to control it. Also, I've read several testimonials about how an orgasm after a period of abstinence is much more enjoyable.

I need help finding erotica about chastity. Stories about FemDom and sissification are total boner killers for me. Even milder versions (like the gentle-femdom subreddit) isn't my cup of tea. I want to be a strong masculine man, the big spoon in a cuddle, whose dick just happens to be locked up. So.... I'm hoping I can find stories where the partners are on equal footing. Or there are at least some "switch" scenes.

That said, is there anyone with similar interests to me? I would love to hear more about your experiences.
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Your situation sounds very similar to mine. My wife has kept me locked for the past three years 24/7 except when she wants sex. Nothing has really changed in our roles and I am not a sub. We would both hate that role. Being locked definitely makes my orgasms more intense and my wife said the improvement in my performance is incredible. Unfortunately most things I have seen do not fit the norm for erotic stories. I think many people would find it boring.
 
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PerfectDeparture said:
Hello,

I'm pretty new to this. My cage was an impulse buy, mainly because I had too high of a sex drive (masturbating 2-3 times a day) and I was out of options to control it. Also, I've read several testimonials about how an orgasm after a period of abstinence is much more enjoyable.

I need help finding erotica about chastity. Stories about FemDom and sissification are total boner killers for me. Even milder versions (like the gentle-femdom subreddit) isn't my cup of tea. I want to be a strong masculine man, the big spoon in a cuddle, whose dick just happens to be locked up. So.... I'm hoping I can find stories where the partners are on equal footing. Or there are at least some "switch" scenes.

That said, is there anyone with similar interests to me? I would love to hear more about your experiences.
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You can't have chastity without a tid bit of femdom at least. Unless it is a man who is locking you up. I'm sorry to break the news to you but if your spouse has you locked up....you are not on equal footing with her.
 
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https://www.chastitymansion.com/for...e-future-of-chastity.43069/page-2#post-486788

I posted earlier on another thread about being a locked alpha.

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I have to disagree, from my heterosexual point of view. I am a strong willed Alpha male type. I like submitting to my wife, and saving myself for her because it makes her happy. Locked 24/7 unless needed. I know this isn't everyone's view, but there are many of us.

I enjoy sex on a different level of intensity than most so called "Alpha" males, because denial makes my cock so sensitive, and coming is not an everyday event like before when I had free reign.

Do they feel like they've spent the last 19 days in constant (on and off) foreplay? No

Have they thanked their wife's for denying them daily? No they complain and bitch about not getting it when they want.

Will they ever experience the delightful frustratisfying feeling of being told "No" when they have a raging hardon they can do nothing about? I doubt it.

A smart Alpha male, who realises that he can improve his marriage to his wife by channeling his high libido into something more positive, and provide his wife the warmth and security that no pressure to have sex on his terms can bring, would be an idiot not to ask his wife to lock him up.

I can't speak for homosexual relationships. Do any of you do chastity because of mismatched libido? or both of you do it to increase the intensity of your intercourse? Or because one of you can't stop masturbating?
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So, if you can get a copy of "Be Careful What You Wish For" by Sarah Jameson, that definitely removes the concept of femdom of orgasm denial. Similarly, any fiction inspired by "Devotional Sex" would be similar: despite many interested parties trying to categorize his concepts as "kinky" or "femdom", the creator insists that it isn't.
 
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winstonmacgregor said:
You can't have chastity without a tid bit of femdom at least. Unless it is a man who is locking you up. I'm sorry to break the news to you but if your spouse has you locked up....you are not on equal footing with her.
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Hmm. Not sure I agree with that. In the case of a couple who mutually agree that their relationship is better with him locked, I'm not sure that there's any element of domination there. It's not about 'control' or anything. It may be 'enforced', but it's happening with his full consent and agreement, and doesn't necessarily mean he has any less standing or footing.

In my relationship, my wife controls the key, because I feel I'm a better person when she does, and she likes some of the behavioral changes that result. I don't see her as being 'dominant' in any way, or that I'm not on equal footing with her in an way.

That said, I'd also like to find more stories/literature/writing that doesn't assume a femdom relationship, where the couple is exploring what it means to them... but I think that would be, like @Drews said, probably pretty boring...
 
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Hmm. Not sure I agree with that. In the case of a couple who mutually agree that their relationship is better with him locked, I'm not sure that there's any element of domination there. It's not about 'control' or anything. It may be 'enforced', but it's happening with his full consent and agreement, and doesn't necessarily mean he has any less standing or footing.

In my relationship, my wife controls the key, because I feel I'm a better person when she does, and she likes some of the behavioral changes that result. I don't see her as being 'dominant' in any way, or that I'm not on equal footing with her in an way.

That said, I'd also like to find more stories/literature/writing that doesn't assume a femdom relationship, where the couple is exploring what it means to them... but I think that would be, like @Drews said, probably pretty boring...
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This is it though. You voluntarily giving her the ability to lock you up because it will make you a better person is establishing that she is better than you in one or more ways and you are giving her the authority to mold you in to a better person. If chastity is causing better behavioral changes from you as a result, then that means she is the one in a dominant position because her vision of what she hopes you to be is being crafted by her position of superiority even if it was given to her by you voluntarily.
 
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This is it though. You voluntarily giving her the ability to lock you up because it will make you a better person is establishing that she is better than you in one or more ways and you are giving her the authority to mold you in to a better person. If chastity is causing better behavioral changes from you as a result, then that means she is the one in a dominant position because her vision of what she hopes you to be is being crafted by her position of superiority even if it was given to her by you voluntarily.
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I think you are missing the point about that only the woman wants the guy to be the better person. As noted above and in my relationship we both equally like how I am when I am locked. My wife holding my key keeps me from masturbating which in then makes me focus on her, which we both like. Asking my wife to help me be a better person does not make her dominant to me. I manage all our finances because I am better at it, we both agree. In your scenario that would make her submissive to me because I control the money, which is totally false. If I told her I know longer wanted the cage she would reluctantly give me the keys.
 
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I think you are missing the point about that only the woman wants the guy to be the better person. As noted above and in my relationship we both equally like how I am when I am locked. My wife holding my key keeps me from masturbating which in then makes me focus on her, which we both like. Asking my wife to help me be a better person does not make her dominant to me. I manage all our finances because I am better at it, we both agree. In your scenario that would make her submissive to me because I control the money, which is totally false. If I told her I know longer wanted the cage she would reluctantly give me the keys.
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What is the point of chastity though if you are able to request the key whenever you want?
 
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What is the point of chastity though if you are able to request the key whenever you want?
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The point is I cannot take it off or have any access without my wives knowledge. If I asked to take it off she would ask why? If there is not a problem she would be very disappointed which is why I never ask. If I just told her I was horney and want to masturbate. She would not take it off. We both decided that will never happen again.
 
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What is the point of chastity though if you are able to request the key whenever you want?
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Accountability. To myself, in particular.

I know that if I don't masturbate, our relationship is better in several ways that are important to me. Without enforcement, though, at some point it's too easy for me to slip and just have a quickie in the shower, or whatever. I can have all the good intentions I want, but at some point history says I'll slip. Without any enforcement hurdle to jump, "Just once" becomes "one more time" becomes "I might as well..." and then pretty soon the negative relationship factors start to come into play.

I'm usually locked these days. Perpetually locked, as I said in a blog post. When I'm locked, there's no ability to "just have a quickie" with myself, and so the 'slips' don't happen. I can ask for the key to bike ride, or clean, or for what ever good reason comes up, but she knows when I'm unlocked. I know that she knows that I'm unlocked. I know that she expects me to lock back up as soon as it makes sense, and I'll catch gentle flak until she knows I'm locked again. She's providing the accountability oversight. I don't see that as 'dominance' at all.

She can also unlock me whenever she wants for intimacy, and the benefit is that I'm always ready and oh-so-willing. The fact that she knows I'll be ready and willing is what makes her interested, and in turn I know that she'll be interested often enough that not masturbating when I'm unlocked is worth it.
 
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PerfectDeparture said:
Hello,

I'm pretty new to this. My cage was an impulse buy, mainly because I had too high of a sex drive (masturbating 2-3 times a day) and I was out of options to control it. Also, I've read several testimonials about how an orgasm after a period of abstinence is much more enjoyable.

I need help finding erotica about chastity. Stories about FemDom and sissification are total boner killers for me. Even milder versions (like the gentle-femdom subreddit) isn't my cup of tea. I want to be a strong masculine man, the big spoon in a cuddle, whose dick just happens to be locked up. So.... I'm hoping I can find stories where the partners are on equal footing. Or there are at least some "switch" scenes.

That said, is there anyone with similar interests to me? I would love to hear more about your experiences.
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6 and sit down again :)

Chastity, femdom and co. often occur in combination, but do not have to.

My wife and I also do not lead a 100% femdom / malesub relationship. In bed, yes there maybe, otherwise no.

You would never notice if you talk to us so that we do.

If she just wears her key open, you might suspect it, but maybe it's someone else's key?

No it does not have to be with femdom, but it harmonizes just often and rarely the combination of married couples and simply loving couples is written down.

Because then the "marketing" argmuement of fetish clothing, toys and wicked dungeons, which drive up the sales or the number of readers, disappears.

Therefore, yes there is. But whether you find that in text form is such a question and if only in probably few works.
 
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No, he doesn't have a misconception. He's simply pointing out that he is turned off by stories about sissification, humiliation, and where the man is subjugated or emasculated by his keyholder. A lot of stories contain those elements.



Hello! I'll suggest one of my own stories. It's somewhat equal footing... https://chastityforums.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=64046
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Awesome story. Would love to see more like this.
 
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