The Three Months thing - Who has actually done it

[cogman]

I saw it come up in another thread the other day and went and re read the website, its still an interesting read.

https://happy-marriage.neocities.org/introduction

Most of us have read it, probably most of us have fantasied about it, the break in period of 3 months, with no release of any kind and no unlock (except for supervised cleaning). Imagining their suddenly horny partners teasing and denying them.

It has been around for as long as I can remember being into chastity. Its nice that its been updated and is more realistic, I am impressed with the number of couples pictures that look real enough to me.

But how many of us have actually done it? or at least tried and failed. Is it real or bullshit, is it really worth doing.

I know there are some hard core people that would scoff at three months but well I have been into chastity for almost 2 decades and have still never gone that long, while my partner and I have talked about it and it still turns me on to think about it.....the longest I have gone without orgasm is 5 weeks ...that was actually easier than I expected cuz I was still getting regular sex. I am not sure if I ever will or if my partner will ever decide she wants me be locked for that long.

I am curious though just how many people have really done it and if it was worth it so decided to poll. Please comment on your experiences and if it was worth the journey. If you failed will you try again.

 

[Pronto Guy]

It Is too bad there are not any responses here. It would be good to know the answers and thoughts.

 

[Mr_anonymous]

Three months to start sounds like a nightmare. I of course read it like many of us did. Failed to tell my wife about it purposely. Three months even now wouldn't be easy.

 

[Dobolinus]

I’ll share my experience since we have done 3-months straight. We played for over a year with shorter periods and it was light and fun. My keyholder became very interested in having more control and wanting my behavior and attitude towards her to improve. To keep this short I’ll touch on the outcomes and changes we both experienced. My keyholder got everything she expected with my behavior and attention to her completely changing, my focus shifting solely to her. I experienced ebbs and flows of regret, complete dedication, and what’s best described as moments of extreme horniness that border on an anxiety attack. Long term, it made both of us realize that there isn’t any going back. The drive for locking up has gone from my urging to her desire. It made me see the joy I can bring my keyholder and so I’m now in for the long haul. My keyholder is dedicated to building a FLR with me mostly locked and almost orgasm free to keep my focus where it belongs. Hope this helps.

 

[cogman]

My keyholder is dedicated to building a FLR with me mostly locked and almost orgasm free to keep my focus where it belongs. Hope this helps.

What a great reply thank you. I cant see us ever going back to me being unlocked for any length of time either

 

[Claud_Bear]

Would like to try sometime but i have my doubts my Queen would wait that long for PIV.

 

[Sirtofawn]

97 days locked and chaste. 62 days porn free so my focus is solely on my Goddess. It's worth it if your partner and you are on the same page and focused on a true FLR.

 

[Chastity2024]

My wife was scared at the thought of 3 months without PIV when reading. I had to let her know I wasn’t interested either. We only go about a week as that’s her choice.

 

[OrdinaryGuy]

I can't imagine my wife would ever not want access to me for 3 months straight. She this PIV immensely. So I don't see that happening ever. However, she seems very intrigued on longer and longer denial periods. So I may end up going that long without an O. If things keep going the way they are now.

 

[denied_one]

and what’s best described as moments of extreme horniness that border on an anxiety attack.

Man..I've been close to this too. I'm afraid to be there again, but it's close very often

 

[denied_one]

Wife was interested in it. We started it but quickly compromised because She also likes PIV and we did decided to do just a 30 day lock up with me being able to come out of the cage as She saw fit. Midway through that, it was going very well, about 4 weeks ago and She decided She wanted to try for the 90 days same as this, with Her taking me out as She wants, but no O for me at all. With the caveat the month we were just wrapping up wouldn't "count towards the 90" and would be considered as "practice" to see if we could go for a longer time. My longest previous had been 16 days

I am currently on day 47 in total of what will be minimum of 120 days with no O. I get lots of everything else though, teasing, PIV, more teasing and mind fucks, so that's a huge plus

 

[Tom Allen]

Back in the early years, my wife had no problem keeping me locked for weeks or monthis at a time, allowing me out for sex, but no coming for me.

After we discovered "foxing," ie, my wearing a strapon for her, three months was usually the minimum locked period for me; it was usually four to six, and no unlockings for anything sexual.

After a while, she totally lost any feelings of guilt that had her unlocking me because she felt sorry for me. Currently, I've been locked for well over six years - and it's some of the best sex we've ever had.

 

[IB-Chaste]

Not in this place for us just yet. We tried 3 months… made it to 2. Nearly broke our relationship, let alone our positive feelings towards chastity.

Maybe as we build the positive relationship with the cage again and my wife becomes more accepting of less sex things will change. Right now, she’s comfortable doing it when she wants but once a month is enough for her as minimum. It’s much better for me when I’ve been caged so I don’t mind either way.

It wasn’t actually the length of time, more that we hadn’t prepared in how we maintain each others satisfaction.

 

[Pronto Guy]

Many have view this post, few have done the survey...can we have more complete this survey?

 

[Her_LM]

Yes, 3 months has been acheived, but not as an option above though. My k/h took me all the way, didn't let me have an orgasm, but i was unlocked for cleaning, shaving briefly every week or so. I was under supervision, so not allowed to gert hard or any teasing. The teasing & play only ever happened once i was fully locked back up.

After the 3 month period was up, we planned to go to a nice hotel, i was still locked though, after having spent the evening talking about it, i thought she'd at least unlock me now, she didn't. The next day we woke up, went for breakfast and then had a stroll arond the hotel grounds, it's time to unlock you she then told me, todays the day.
Got back to the hotel room she then decided to give me a viagra, i was still locked though!
She then told me she was going to visit the pool, but i could'nt go, i was soon going to be suffering the effects of her viagra, gosh, i was feeling so turned on, but also so frustrated.

She got changed into her swimwear, put on a robe, told me to just relax and she'll be back in about 45 mins or so. As she left the room, she turned and told me the key was in her washbag and i was to unlock myself, get undressed and just wait on the bed for her return. I was instructed NOT to even touch myself, which made it feel even more frustrating.

I did as she said, unlocked myself, showered and just lay there, my small cock was still all shrivalled up, covered in bar marks. Half an hour later, i can feel the viagra starting to work, i'm still not touching myself, (my self control is pretty amazing now). I hear the door start to open, in she walks, robe on, before she even has time to close the door, she's dropped her robe, shes completly naked under it, the doors still half open, she's so bloody sexy, and confident. By now my cock was getting hard, she commented she was dissapointed, she thought i'd be rock hard.....

She then told my stand by the side of the bed, as she climbed on it, laying on her back, she then told me now was the time i was to get hours of unlocked pleasure, everything i wanted she said, i could'nt believe what i was hearing.
I was now hard, still had'nt touched myself, now had she. I want you to have sex with me right now, she said, to start with.
She lent forward, grabbed my now hard, little 5' cock and pulled it towrds her pussy, she was soaking wet, she rubbed the head all over her wet lips, i'm ready, she said, push your little cock in now. As i did, she then started telling me she could'nt even feel me, thrust harder she said, i started to thrust, she suddenly then said i was absolutley rubbish, she could'nt feel me, she then commented on how big a guy she wanted to feel inside her, she said she once had a guy who was about 8" long, and rock hard, thats what she wanted, with that she then pushed me out and said she'd had enough. As i slid out my cock was sticking straight out, covered in her wetness, she looked down at it and then said it looked all useless, at that exact moment, i just started coming, i, or she was not even touching it, i was just involunetry having an orgasm, she was just laughing at me, telling me not to touch myself, it just kept bobbing around and shooting out cum, it was an unbeliable experience. Not once did i touch my self, nor did she, it was amazing, but so frustrating too. As soon as i stopped, she told me to go take a shower and calm down, to which i did. On the return to the room she was sat on the bed with her cage in her hand, best lock that little useless thing up she said, to which she did. All my fun was over, i did'nt even last about 2 minutes......

She then decided she needed to cum, i was made to just watch while she did.

So that's what happened to me at 3 months, it sure was a long time, it really was worth the wait though, really worth the wait, the journey to it was so mega horny, best ever.

Just for your info, she's wantiing to take it even further now, i'm almost 3 & 1/2 months without an orgasm, not sure when my next will be, it might be 4 months, it might be 6 months she tells me. I'm just so extrtemely lucky to have a wife k/h that is willing to play/ enjoy this lifestyle we have.

I havn't had and orgasm in months, (wife has lots) but we're having the best sex ever....

Sorry it was so long and detailed, it's just thats how much it still turns me on.

3 months, go for it my wife says........

 

[cuckgimp]

I self lock and I usually milk myself every 3 months, I find it’s the sweet spot for me. Anything shorter and I’m not as desperate. Any longer and the frustration kind of tails off, like it’s still there but it doesn’t increase.

 

[Rectrix]

I didn't vote bc none of the choices fit me. We did not start with that article, or with its three months recommendation. About two weeks after I first was locked she went for one solid month and learned how to manage me. After that, she decided on lockup periods. Some were 2-4 weeks, others 2-6 months.

 

[Deleted member 120846]

I voted. I don't have releases so 90 is not a stretch. Not a brag because you guys get out for fun and it don't.

See my tom allen matrix score that is it least a 9, 10.

I am good though. But kept " permanently" locked for good reason.

 

[JaySaysYes]

We'd done it, and 4 months, a couple of times. No orgasms,ejaculations,or using the key.

Asothers have said; Yes it was worth it.

I haven't hada full orgasm since March 2023, and it feels great.

Being locked for long periods certainly drives me crazy. Not being able to get erect or to feel her hands on me is pretty mindbending. I think erection denial is more difficult than orgasm denial.

We did start a long lock on NYE, which she said would be a minimum of six months but I think she wanted to do a full year. But, life got in the way and the cage had to come off after around 105 days.

 

[amvetsb]

Been a while since I looked at that site.. Honestly, that site or one like it prompted me to entertain the 'break-in period', specifically to get past the sleepless nights where being locked could and would become something that didn't need interruptions. The break-in was a healthy and strictly progressive adventure that didn't take very long to get from playing around with the concept of physical chastity to setting and reaching new duration goals.. Using the experience for I'd say the first year of perpetually being locked to learn limits and really discover the benefits of chastity. During that year I don't think 3 months was accomplished. 47 days was the first 'sink or swim'... After that, there have been many stints far beyond 3 months. Prior to COVID, I was in an open-ended 'session' that was over 3 months in and likely to end at or near 4 months, and that turned into 'until the end of the pandemic'..... Yea, um, no... 494 days later, we gave in, and if for no better reason, 'started over'.
I think that to get used to anything new or different, 30 days is a fairly good 'number'. Chastity is a thing of it's own, though, and perhaps 3 months is a better judge of success. Everyone is different, though! I've said it before and it's worth repeating... For the benefit of the new-comer and even those with more experience... Taking chastity beyond playing with a sex toy does require a break-in, physically and mentally, and getting past the 30-day point is a great way to discover if it's for you at all, or not, and if you can or should go further, or not.. Again, though, perhaps 3 months is a more appropriate goal, but, it's not for everyone.. Certainly not something to go from never being locked to suddenly 'sink-or-swim' and go 90 days.. That would be silly! Get into it, get used to it, then see where it goes...

 

[herluckyboi]

We did the initial 90 day and it was to Her liking. We have settled in to a pattern, where I am locked for 90, unlocked for a quick full orgasm and quickly relocked for another 90 days. During the initial 90 days I did not get any type of release but now I get in cage ruins and prostate orgasms from pegging.

 

[Peter Rabbit]

1. I spent nearly three months in MaleChastityNow PA-secured chastity in 2019. I wore the Contender and the GlansArmor. But I got a heat rash at a festival and took the cage off the week before an urology surgeon consult and exam. I did not want to be examined with a skin problem. I was shaken by the kind nonjudgmental support and assurance that my long term orgasm denial was not harming me. My aching balls would not burst. My wife was pleased with this professional confirmation of her own opinion, and that I had begun to start pouring out of my cage spontaneously
2. In 2020 my wife chose to hold me keys and keep me caged for 93 days. I survived. She enjoyed it and realized she could keep me caged forever
3. In 2021 we never got to three months but 60 days then 81 days then 69 days. I was pressed to expect permanence. We took a break after I cracked.
4. In 2023 I stayed in a custom MaleChastityNow GlansArmor2 for just shy of 6 months without a moment unlocked.

It is possible. I’ve done it. The goal should be a state of mind, not a duration. This is what my wife tried to tell me… Though I was focused on counting days instead of learning to live the rest of my life in this heady state where I was easy to tease.

I think we’ve both learned that I am better off kept denied a full orgasm. Ruins are more fun and memorable.

I definitely recommend a jewelry grade stainless steel open design cage. My MaleChastityNow devices were the first I could wear 24h x 7days… and I showed I could be kept healthy clean and secure for months on end. I did need extra cage bars added, as my sensitivity rose. MCN provided that, and I can keep tingling and drooling precum. It’s good.

 

[SergioUK]

I've gone over four months and while it seemed daunting at the outset, after six weeks the frustration rather evaporated (although had I been teased regularly that might have been different). I've gone two weeks many times, three weeks several times and five weeks on one occasion, and the third week is always the worst.

 

[Chloe420]

Lol, no disrespect to those that have achieved it, but I find it amusing that all this break in period stuff (and the bulk of that entire website posted in the OP) comes from the alterboy fictional stories.

It's sociologically and anthropologically fascinating to be able to witness a community organically grow from fiction into active adherence, almost ritualistically. One could draw parallels to the way religions evolve.

 

[wastlander2002]

it took us almost 2 years the first couple times did not go well.....maybe the 4 time was about a month and a half the final time we made it all 90 days and I have to admit by the end it was very comfortable and I hardly knew i was wearing it....afterwards about a week later we put the cage back on and my body fought it tooth and nail which is weird cause I had just worn it for 90 days either way that was the longest lock up ever for me the longest since then without taking it off has been 3 weeks i no am in in every day it may or may not stay on over night but at least a full work day 8hours +