What is your consent model

[enslavedbyc]

Examples of consent models to assist in answering the poll:

Irrevocable Blanket Consent: you are educated as to the risk(s) you are taking and have consented fully and irrevocably to activities that to no exceed your established limits.

Vanilla Examples:

Sky diving – once you’ve left the airplay your consent cannot be revoked.

• Free Climbing – In many cases you can go up or you can go down but anchoring to the rock and waiting for rescue is not an option.

BDSM Examples:

• Self-Bondage (that rely solely on timers to achieve release).
• Corporal Punishment (where you have waived your safe word).

Revocable Blanket Consent with Consequences: you are educated as to the risk(s) you are taking and have consented fully and irrevocably to activities that to no exceed your established limits. You may revoke your consent but understand that there will be consequences of known or unknown nature.

Vanilla Examples:

• Airline travel: once the door closes you have consented to follow all the flight crews rules for the flight duration. You can demand to be let off the plane, but short of a legitimate health emergency, there will be consequences.

BDSM Examples:

• Collar or chastity device removal: my partner has made it clear that removal, will create damage (or major changes) within the relationship.

Fully Revocable blanket consent: You have give consent to all activities not exceeding your established limits but, will suffer no consequences if you revoke consent e.g. using a safeword.

Your consent must be given on an activity-by-activity basis: regardless of whether you like the activity or not and revocable without consequence.

Enthusiastic consent model: Your partner checks-in continually to assure that your consent is enthusiastically maintained throughout all chastity and / or BDSM activities.


My wife and I have a Consequential Revocable Blanket Consent agreement.

 

[Jay Sub]

I voted other - Blankets must be Enthusiastically given on a Blanket by Blanket Basis whether consensual or not, or there will be consequences!

 

[Mr_anonymous]

As previously said we only dabble in bdsm. Mainly spreader bar, thigh/wrist cuffs nothing crazy. Not sure how to vote as it's not all one category. If it's something we've done a 1000 times like a whipping and she knows I can take it. There is no safe word but two clenched fists means something is terribly wrong. In which case no consequences. If it's something new which is rare and we've found we what like mostly. There's a safeword and she tends to take it easier on me. If I just tap out and she knows I can take it though there would be consequences of some sort I'm fairly certain. Hasn't happened yet to know.

 

[Tamed again]

With my wife, she had irrevocable blanket consent with a very clear written agreement that made it clear that no other relationship was possible. It was written out slowly over time so she could be sure I knew what I was consenting to, and it became irrevocable on the day we got married when we signed a final version that stated that the agreement was the basis of our marriage, and that I was no longer allowed to discuss the rules without permission and although any changes would still need be agreed to by both of us, only she could propose changes.

The KH I'm now in discussion with wants a mixture. The overall agreement will be irrevocable, but within it, I"ll be able to opt out of things but with consequences.