When does a spanking become true punishment?

[pathetic_ gooner]

When it regular? When it's hard? When it's non-consensual?
My former lover had no safewords when she spanked me but she stopped if the neighbors were home and it got too loud.

 

[Boypaul]

My wife of 4 years now decides that. Usually it is punishment, for me there is no fun in it. She takes joy in my discipline. She likes having others see me get it

 

[Vance]

I have never experienced non consensual punishment but when my misses has a paddle or cane it become excruciating very quickly.

 

[Painslut567]

to me, once it is no longer pleasurable any more, when I lose count of the strikes and have a hard time not screaming. We are hardcore S/M so it takes quite a while to get to that point but it does. She likes an audience too or being two against one.

 

[Lancerexford]

My wife of 4 years now decides that. Usually it is punishment, for me there is no fun in it. She takes joy in my discipline. She likes having others see me get it

I would love to watch you get it.

 

[Lancerexford]

For me it would be true punishment if I did something wrong and was getting whacked for it. Otherwise the whackings are just about pleasure... hers.

 

[Disciplined Boyfriend]

As soon as you want it to stop.

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[Mr_anonymous]

When there's no warm up and its more upper leg then butt. She doesn't use spanking as a punishment she just does that if she wants it to hurt more.

 

[Jail Bird]

No warm up for me ever. My wife targets my sit spot so I feel it when I sit down. Spankings now are now whippings. As far as noise screams etc. I'm gagged for mine every time. I use to have to count before the gag.

 

[SissyLeighanne]

My wife wears golf gloves to spank me so she does not hurt her hand. She likes to spank very hard and long. We always agree she will decide when I have had enough. I have to have my Kali’s Teeth Chastity locked onto my penis for my spanking. She likes my totally erect penis between her her legs so she can hold it tightly between her legs as she beats my ass.

 

[this muppet]

When you actively dislike the person doing it and find them sexually unappealing. Like recently when I was having a reverse Prince Albert piercing stretched and the piercer, knowing I was into BDSM, asked if I was enjoying the intense pain and I said “no, obviously not, because you’re not Grace Kelly, you’re an obnoxious old twat”. That shut him up.

 

[Lancerexford]

Did you ask Grace Kelly? She'd have done it.

 

[Boy in chastity]

For me spanking has always been and is a real punishment. In our relationship spanking has never been fun, but it is always the first and one of the punishments that I have to accept for my misdemeanours and breaking the rules. There is no safe word in it.

I also get a reminder spanking, which is also painful, but spanking for misdemeanours is much more painful and embarrassing. Especially when I cried, asked for remission of the punishment, which nevertheless continues, in return hearing embarrassing comments from her mouth.
Now my requests are not possible, because for some time I have been gagged during punishments, but I still hear her embarrassing comments, referring to my acceptance of spanking and crying.

It is always like this, even though before spanking I always promise myself that I will accept it with dignity and humility, but every tool in her hand, and especially the cane, quickly verifies it.

 

[Jail Bird]

Same here. Gagging is a must as she does not hear anything from me

 

[boris]

An interesting question. For me, for spanking to be a punishment it has to be both non-consensual and painful. Effectively removing any element of pleasure / enjoyment from the recipient.

 

[SissyMichelleNJ]

If by spanking you mean a hand spanking that does not become punishment, it is a sensual activity for U/us. Spanking becomes a punishment when it is cold (without warmup) and using very harsh instruments such as a carpet beater. The lead up also makes it punishment. Punishment is a more formal event. There is no smiling or fun banter. The order to assume the position is harsh and followed by a plain listing of wrongs leading to the punishment, for example - this is due for repeatedly failing to complete X, Y, Z tasks, repeated disrespect and backtalk etc…