Why are you in chasity?

I’m in chastity mainly as a way for my wife to control me and make me into the man she wants and deserves. I have an extremely high libido and when I’m caged the effects are instant and dramatic.

My wife is not interested in feminization of any kind. I’m 6’2”, 210 and very athletic / alpha presenting. She likes me strong in the real world and her little beta boy sub at home.

I’ve always been submissive. Mostly because I have a tiny penis I think. But being submissive and obeying my domme feels the most natural to me.

This (3rd) attempt at chastity is different from the first two because now she is in total control of me and everything and she loves it.

Chastity also makes me feel amazing physically. I feel ten years younger. Knee and shoulder pain was gone within 24 hours of being caged. Fluid retention seems to do wonders for my body. Of course she also requires me to work out and eat better now that she’s in control. I’ve probably lost 5-7 pounds since 1/1/26 when we started.

My wife is much happier with my little cock locked up so that’s that. I have no say. Overall it’s definitely better for our family.
 
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The reason i started with chastity was at first during/for sex, as a gay guy i liked the kink of not being able to touch my dick while getting a dick inside me, so i used it only for the day of sex, and afterwards took it off, to be honest i'm more of a dom, but like to be a sub so now and then.

A little later on with my current bf, we still used it occasionally for sex, but i also spend weeks on the road as a truck driver, and had the habbit of masturbating each day, so i started to use the cage also when away when feeling the urge to stop me from masturbating, at first in a cage that was only suitable for sex, as it was to large and not comfortable for long wear,

We tryed some different cages over the last few years, so have been on and off in cages to find the correct one for me, and mostly used it for few days because it wasn't fitting correctly, recently and we have found the one that fits the best.

In the bed room even when in a cage i tend to be the dom, but with out the penetration, only use of toys, and afterwards my bf decides is i deserve to be released and if i'm allowed to cum, if that happens i'm always tied to bed, if i'm not locked i decide how i cum,

I've only been officially been locked since this valentines day, with my bf as my key holder, i'm looking forwards to being locked up for longer than a week or 2, and having my bf to decide when i can come.

So what started out as a kink and masturbating prevention turned out as much more.
I'm totally not into the feminine side of it, as a 2 meter tall guy and being 100 kg.
 
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I agreed to abstain from sex and alcohol during a near-divorce to keep my marriage and especially access to my children.
The cock cage was a requiremnt.
Struggled at first, then fully surrendered.
Turns out that being submissive&sexless fits me like a glove, and my wife is a natural leader/dom.
Was it was meant to be?
 
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EZboy said:
I agreed to abstain from sex and alcohol during a near-divorce to keep my marriage and especially access to my children.
The cock cage was a requiremnt.
Struggled at first, then fully surrendered.
Turns out that being submissive&sexless fits me like a glove, and my wife is a natural leader/dom.
Was it was meant to be?
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Was being submissive, sexless and in a cage permanently on the cards when you agreed to get married? If not, then it probably was not meant to be. Sorry if that bursts your bubble.
 
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AndyWearing said:
Was being submissive, sexless and in a cage permanently on the cards when you agreed to get married? If not, then it probably was not meant to be. Sorry if that bursts your bubble.
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LOL! I’m sure that wasn’t on the cards for pretty much anyone at the time of marriage, (I don’t doubt there were exceptions) but that certainly did not stop them from giving it a try.
 
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(That was a bit of a throw-away line.)
To answer your question: No, being dickless was never on my card.
Lots of sex, including with my wife's best friend was on my card, unfortunately..

We all grow and change (and appreciate a chance at redemption) , though,

Note that I said I had to surrender. That process changes anyone.
I came out that tunnel submissive, dickless and more at peace with myself, my wife and my family.
I changed.
 
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I am in chastity because since I am a gay bottom, my dick is pretty useless so might as well keep it locked right. I dream about permanent chastity. I hope my future partner likes the idea of me locked.
 
Like some other guys on here, I was into bondage and came across chastity on a couple forums, so tried it out because of curiosity. After a short time experimenting I was hooked. I mainly wear it because I like the feeling of it squeezing my cock and balls, especially when I am aroused, but also just love how it looks.
 
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EZboy said:
(That was a bit of a throw-away line.)
To answer your question: No, being dickless was never on my card.
Lots of sex, including with my wife's best friend was on my card, unfortunately..

We all grow and change (and appreciate a chance at redemption) , though,

Note that I said I had to surrender. That process changes anyone.
I came out that tunnel submissive, dickless and more at peace with myself, my wife and my family.
I changed.
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This is the kind of thing that a younger me would have read as a fantasy, the absolute definition of not being able to get off even if I wanted out, but that older me sees as a potential concern for your safety. What you're describing would not be seen favorably by most courts, and certainly no modern courts.

I understand that you're retelling the story as part of a nonsexual sexual awakening, but I want you to know that as a human being, you are entitled to certain amounts of respect and dignity.

I might be misreading what you described and it's a bit more consensually non-consensual, but any judge would think "she told me to lock up or lose my kids" is a step beyond "she said I had to stop drinking" or "she demanded we get therapy". And for those that don't, the question is "would your opinion change if it was a man telling a woman to lock up or lose her children?"

I'm hoping things aren't as dark as what you described though, and I hope you're happy and healthy now.
 
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I'm hoping things aren't as dark as what you described though, and I hope you're happy and healthy now.
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Thank you JJ. I appreciate your concern. A judge would never have given me more than limited supervised custody. I needed (and need) structure, discipline.Tools like Antabuse, monthly hair tests and AA - and the cock cage - were all part of it.

But honestly tho, I confess I do like being dominated by a woman. with the chastity and submission
I suppose that is why I am here, really.
 
I’m in chastity because I like experimenting and I’ve been curious about it for years. I fantasize about being a sub but that’s a bit difficult for me to have an Domme IRL. I decided to try solo chastity play. I like how it feels wearing a metal cage.
 
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I am in chastity because I enjoy the feeling of being chaste and horny. Being a 31 year old virgin also makes me feel like being chaste suits me. Maybe a potential partner will keep me chaste until our wedding night ❤️
 
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i am in chastity under instruction from One whom i hope to serve. my vapours come alive when i am under a Domina's control.

i abhor the perpetual harms of patriarchy and see no more fitting amends-making, than following a Domina's will.

Before encountering this Domina, i had fallen into chronic femdom-porn-masturbation - unable to sit with my actual self for any time.

i do really want to have my actual emotions, feelings, responses, reactions to my life, the universe and everything but i was too much of a beta to stop interfering with myself.

i am locked now for 23-days, today and while there is a stated end date - i have no actual idea what will happen on that date = my Domina will decide.

Fearfully, while 23-days has elapsed and the internet says differently - my cage is a 1" nub - no erection blood flows for those 23-days and my penis has shrunk from around a smidge under 4" limp to what looks like around 2.5" limp today - i am relying on the internet saying this is temporary ???

This post has been so very helpful...thanks to all who have shared here - much appreciated.
 
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It started with me watching caged pegging porn and one morning I woke up with a huge erection that my wife noticed, I admitted to having a dream about being caged. She looked into it and to my suprise ordered my first cage as the idea really turned on.
Since that point things have evolved, my wife prefers my attitude caged and I love the constant feelings of being horny and focused on her. Chastity has turned me off porn and made me a better husband.
 
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ThelockedGardener said:
It started with me watching caged pegging porn and one morning I woke up with a huge erection that my wife noticed, I admitted to having a dream about being caged. She looked into it and to my suprise ordered my first cage as the idea really turned on.
Since that point things have evolved, my wife prefers my attitude caged and I love the constant feelings of being horny and focused on her. Chastity has turned me off porn and made me a better husband.
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I have answered on this thread before - love that your wife was wondering about why you had such an erection. Mine didn't but knows I self lock, I do wish she would get into it more - but can't force it. She's cool with me locking and appreciates that I'm not off masturbating and only cumming when we are together playing - but would just like that further step.

One question though - she knows you had a cage kink - did she know about the strapon pegging part?
 
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I have answered on this thread before - love that your wife was wondering about why you had such an erection. Mine didn't but knows I self lock, I do wish she would get into it more - but can't force it. She's cool with me locking and appreciates that I'm not off masturbating and only cumming when we are together playing - but would just like that further step.

One question though - she knows you had a cage kink - did she know about the strapon pegging part?
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Yes she had pegged me before that. Tbf I didn't even know about my chastity kink until that dream.
 
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