Wife now has a tracker on my phone, and control my CC what else can she do to strip my privacy?

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My wife and I have dabbled in FLR here and there in the past.
Two days ago, without being prompted to, I installed an child monitoring app on my computer and my phone. And asker to set time limits on apps and what pages I can use. She also can see my location, texts and phone calls and what websites I go to.

I also asked her to change the password to our online bank account and set a limit on my credit cards (she should decide the amount). On amazon, she has now set up a teen account for me, so I have to get amazon purchases approved by her.

For right now we are not focusing on chores and the like. What other suggestions do you have so that she can strip away my privacy and (I guess) independence. We are not looking for things like me asking for permission, etc.. for right now as its hard to do that with all the kids around (some old enough to understand things). But more things like the above.

Thank you
 
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Discrete cameras throughout the house, in your car and perhaps in your workplace (depending on the nature of your work), all of which you can’t disable without her knowledge. She doesn’t need actually to be carrying out constant surveillance, but she COULD be at any time. Also she could send you instructions to do certain things that require verification and take up your time - just to remind you that she has control.
 
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Thank you. I already have a camera in my office which she has access to. But not in my car. That is something I can add
 
Its not clear if your wife ha you locked in a cage or not?

Having an escape proof cage gives one a fair bit of control over things.

We did go through a stage of when my partner messaged me I was to send her a picture of her secured cock within a certain amount of time, even though it was impossible to get out of it....its still an intrusion on privacy....especially if your in an important meeting and have to excuse yourself to use the bathroom haha
 
cogman said:
Its not clear if your wife ha you locked in a cage or not?

Having an escape proof cage gives one a fair bit of control over things.

We did go through a stage of when my partner messaged me I was to send her a picture of her secured cock within a certain amount of time, even though it was impossible to get out of it....its still an intrusion on privacy....especially if your in an important meeting and have to excuse yourself to use the bathroom haha
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I was locked for a few months straight a few years ago, but at this time, I am not locked. But I may be in the near future again.
 
wanchin said:
I was locked for a few months straight a few years ago, but at this time, I am not locked. But I may be in the near future again.
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Cool, if you don't like the idea of a piercing then consider the tetherspout system (lots of content on here about the tetherspout), it has a lot of advantages, can take a bit of time to get it right but once right its escape proof and totally comfortable, mine has not been removed for a year of continuous wear it even stays in when we have sex (she likes it because I put a cap on it and it limits how much mess I make).

Nothing like absolutely removing the ability to have an erection.
 
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wanchin said:
I was locked for a few months straight a few years ago, but at this time, I am not locked. But I may be in the near future again.
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It would hugely increase your sense of powerlessness if she was able to recruit one or more of your female colleagues to report back on you. Especially if you didn’t know who they were. Hell, she could even just TELL you that one of them knew about your dynamic and was secretly keeping a watchful eye. You’d never know one way or the other.

oops I quoted the wrong post! Obviously this relates to the one about your wife being a partner in the business.
 
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Imagine her saying to you: “someone you know was most intrigued to learn of our arrangement and intends to keep a watchful eye on you. But don’t worry, she promises to be absolutely discreet. You won’t notice any change.”
 
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She doesn’t need actually to be carrying out constant surveillance, but she COULD be at any time.
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There were prisons that worked like that. Several storeys of cells in a circular building. No cell doors but with a guard post in the centre. The guards could see the prisoners but not the reverse, so the prisoners did not know when they were being watched. If you want to know more, search for panopticon.
 
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There were prisons that worked like that. Several storeys of cells in a circular building. No cell doors but with a guard post in the centre. The guards could see the prisoners but not the reverse, so the prisoners did not know when they were being watched. If you want to know more, search for panopticon.
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Yeah Foucault was always banging on about it
 
My wife has done several things:
We installed Salfeld child app on my phone, giving her complete control to lock out all porn and limit use as she sees fit.

I got a new google account, handing over my old accounts to her, where she promptly changed the passwords, and assigned the backup retrieval to her phone and accounts, effectively locking me out completely without her say so. She monitors my old account and I have a non-google email that she forwards any important emails to.

One of my emails I gave her was my "porn email", that had all my porn access from over the years. Thus, she can access any websites I routinely visited, see me favorites, delete, change passwords etc. I trust her to do what she feels is best.

I haven't looked at any porn or nudity since March 10, when I agreed to try giving it up. She is the only nude woman I have seen for months, and she appreciates the effect that has on me.

All my porn magazines, dvd's, thumb drives etc are locked in a metal job box in the basement, she has the key, with my chastity cage key beside her bed in a lockbox that I don't have the code to.

My new google account also was set up as an 8 year old, so I'm limited in what I can see, and Google Family was installed, so I have no access to anything adult related. I can't comment on youtube or see anything sexual at all. She unlocked this and a couple flr sites.

She took away my credit and bank cards and gave me a new one with only her name on it. All our finances are controlled by her. Any money I make goes to her. She allows me $40 in cash.

I always ask to spend any money. We own two businesses, but I still ask for permission as she handles the books.

I'm locked 24/7, she recently had me go 103 days without any orgasm or relief.

I'm required to write a daily journal so she can monitor my mood and how I am doing with all of these changes.

When we go out I leave my wallet at home, she hold my license and money/credit cards and pays for everything.

She also usually takes my phone and puts it in her purse, thus I have no distractions while we're out.

She often orders my meal for me after we've discussed what I would like to eat or drink, sometime she orders something she prefers so she can try mine, ignoring what I was interested in.

She has threatened to order me water rather than a beer or a drink, but hasn't done that yet.

I do ask permission to use the bathroom when we are together.

I always ask permission to use my phone whenever we are together.

I ask permission to look at this website, any FLR sites, and when she allows it, Literotica.

Now for those who are concerned, relax. We're a normal couple to all that know us. We are in the local fetish/fetlife community and attend munches, so a few kinky friends know our dynamic. But to all others, we appear like a regular couple.

We've been together for 30 years, and live in a place where should something ever happen, everything is jointly owned regardless of what name is on it. I have no worries about being tossed out and left destitute.

If you want to cede control and feel completely owned, here's a way to do it.

Good luck.
 
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My wife has done several things:
We installed Salfeld child app on my phone, giving her complete control to lock out all porn and limit use as she sees fit.

I got a new google account, handing over my old accounts to her, where she promptly changed the passwords, and assigned the backup retrieval to her phone and accounts, effectively locking me out completely without her say so. She monitors my old account and I have a non-google email that she forwards any important emails to.

One of my emails I gave her was my "porn email", that had all my porn access from over the years. Thus, she can access any websites I routinely visited, see me favorites, delete, change passwords etc. I trust her to do what she feels is best.

I haven't looked at any porn or nudity since March 10, when I agreed to try giving it up. She is the only nude woman I have seen for months, and she appreciates the effect that has on me.

All my porn magazines, dvd's, thumb drives etc are locked in a metal job box in the basement, she has the key, with my chastity cage key beside her bed in a lockbox that I don't have the code to.

My new google account also was set up as an 8 year old, so I'm limited in what I can see, and Google Family was installed, so I have no access to anything adult related. I can't comment on youtube or see anything sexual at all. She unlocked this and a couple flr sites.

She took away my credit and bank cards and gave me a new one with only her name on it. All our finances are controlled by her. Any money I make goes to her. She allows me $40 in cash.

I always ask to spend any money. We own two businesses, but I still ask for permission as she handles the books.

I'm locked 24/7, she recently had me go 103 days without any orgasm or relief.

I'm required to write a daily journal so she can monitor my mood and how I am doing with all of these changes.

When we go out I leave my wallet at home, she hold my license and money/credit cards and pays for everything.

She also usually takes my phone and puts it in her purse, thus I have no distractions while we're out.

She often orders my meal for me after we've discussed what I would like to eat or drink, sometime she orders something she prefers so she can try mine, ignoring what I was interested in.

She has threatened to order me water rather than a beer or a drink, but hasn't done that yet.

I do ask permission to use the bathroom when we are together.

I always ask permission to use my phone whenever we are together.

I ask permission to look at this website, any FLR sites, and when she allows it, Literotica.

Now for those who are concerned, relax. We're a normal couple to all that know us. We are in the local fetish/fetlife community and attend munches, so a few kinky friends know our dynamic. But to all others, we appear like a regular couple.

We've been together for 30 years, and live in a place where should something ever happen, everything is jointly owned regardless of what name is on it. I have no worries about being tossed out and left destitute.

If you want to cede control and feel completely owned, here's a way to do it.

Good luck.
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So the credit card we can do relatively easily. The same thing with the phone usage and bathroom permission.

While I really like the email idea, I am trying to figure out how to do it. My personal email is the primary account on my android phone. So if I set up a new email account, I would need to repurchase all the apps, etc...

Thank you
 
Must be special women to take over your life like that, in my case its almost the other way around, I know all her passwords and manage her investments and stuff. I have given her my master password but I doubt she would remember where she put it. She knows I frequent this site and look at porn (for what good that is when I am locked lol)

She would hate to do all of that, it would drive her crazy, after all my roll in life is to make her comfortable and happy, and that means taking care of all that mundane stuff.

She manages our sex life and I manage everything else.
 
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