Male chastity may be a kink, but I'm doing it to be a better husband.

What you describe is a side effect that I have always experienced, it is wonderful. Enjoy!

 

Try this thread , - it gives some insights from us long term wearers...
http://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/the-cycle-of-submissiveness.12743/
It might be exactly what you are looking for...

Cheers
BlueEyes

 

I think differently. Either you are a good husband or not. Think about if being a better husband is best when done out of love or because you are denied orgasms and are trying to get one? My wife does not want me to be a better husband out of a desire to orgasm. She wants me to be a better husband because I love her regardless of sex. Much of the better husband stuff is justification men use to try chastity and to sell it to their wives. Oh sure, they do improve, but most times they do it because that is part of the fantasy and they are horny but they can be better to their wives without chastity if they want to be.

I am just trying to say to go into chastity as sex play. I did the same thing you did and we had a few bumps in the road until we just realized that we were fulfilling my fantasy which I read online and not doing it to be a better husband. It is lots of fun in itself and does not need to be justified or have a reason to exist. Start off slow and go from there. Do not try to go longer than you are comfortable with as there are not prizes for going the longest. Do not get hung up on the device more than the chastity.

I wear my CB6000s more than not but I do not wear it 24/7 every day. I am not wearing it now to give my skin a break but will put it on tonight after my wife teases me. What we did to make it work is remove some of the fantasy elements of chastity and make it more reality based. As long as I do not have an orgasm without my wife, we are accomplishing our goal. My wife is not expecting me to be a better husband and rejects any extra attention due to being horny as anything but the result of being a cock tease. We play it by ear. I could be given an orgasm in a week or a month. We no longer keep a rigid schedule but my wife reads my body and mental state and uses that to determine when I get an orgasm. Guess what, I remain just as loving after my orgasm as before. In fact, my wife likes me better after I cum because I no longer am in orgasm seeking mode.

Just have fun with it and you will if you remember that the fantasy you have in your head is void of emotions and feelings, just sexual excitement.

 

Max51 is correct in his post, but the best explanation I have seen I found elsewhere on another site. Simple but straight to the point.

"Chastity is not magic, it is not a cure all. But it can be a powerful tool to bring two people who love each other together"

 

@Max51 I partly have to disagree:

I wanted to become a better husband, I wanted us not to drift apart, I wanted no secrets regarding sexual desires, I wanted to indulge myself in my wife, despite the fact that I also then had a busy business life, - and yes I do accept that most of the human feelings and emotions are influenced by hormones and chemistry, no matter how hard we try to talk it to a more nobel and epic level, - so yes to me chastity has been a great tool.
I AM a better husband, better than I would ever be able to be without denial.
I can live with that fact, That we are pretty simple creatures after all... And that you in fact can trick your mind, by the use of small physical restrains....

To me Chastity has not for long been a sex play. Still I have never been so horny in my life , almost daily at the brink of Orgasm, Still I have never loved to go down on my wife to the extend that it intoxicate me now, Still I have never experienced such mind-blowing O's as I do now, rare as that may come....

I feel sex at a level that you can only compare to the first sexual encounter with your lover...

So I do miss nothing in that department. I am blessed

 

The qoute is spot on - and totally in sync with what I just wrote in reply to @Max51 It is not magic, it is chemistry, and yes It can make two people connect at a higher level in what we have come to know as true love...

 

Well said @chastingfun. I tend to be too wordy. I think it is due to my consulting career where my clients expect more than a sentence and I bill by the time I spend on their account. The main benefit for us is actually more sex which translates into more orgasms for my wife and more intimate time together. It also allows us to take the D/s play out of our everyday marriage and focus it on a few hours when I am teased, two or three days a week.

 

@DMc79 , Chastity is what you make of it, so three cheers for you and your wife . If it makes you a better husband then I say its all good. I recently introduced chastity to my wife for the reasons of getting our intimacy back which was lost after having children and just busy hectic lives. I'm not even locked up yet due to my device being repaired but I already feel very happy about our future and find myself helping her out and just being nicer. Keep in touch and if you ever wanna chat about things send me a pm.

 

@ dmc79

So long as you both are happy and having fun just enjoy it.
Having a great sex life in which ever form it takes is such a bonus.
You will feel good enjoy life and each other which is the most important bit.

Xx wendy

 

I forgot to answer that part of your question and again I think the best answer is to guide you to yet another thread - that down the post gives insight on how it is achieved... - with great self control. It remains the greatest defense against any worries that she ever would crave another mans cock....
http://www.chastitymansion.com/foru...ve-you-defeated-orgasm-too.12564/#post-104617

 

My wife complains about me constantly being aroused and letting her know it by word or deed. That is why she gives me orgasm more often than I would prefer. Just like you, as soon as I put on my CB6000s, I get aroused and do so all day as it rubs against my penis. My wife thought that it would have the opposite effect and now prefers me to just use self control but does not understand how our penises take over some times.

I can force the issue and not let her make me cum but then she questions who is in charge of my penis and if I want to tell her when to make me cum, I can play by myself. Compromises and lessening of expectations goes a long way to making I work.

 

In general members in here gives the advice to wait for quite a while before penetration- to allow the cream to be absorbed. My wife enjoys my self control, so no numbing cream here...