What always seems to finally defeat me when it comes to chastity (and this is self-denial) is that I get so worked up sooner or later that I can barely sleep. I end up going to work and making it through the day but I still have trouble sleeping due to the tension and eventually accept that I have to be able to function at work. I've tried ruined orgasms and that sometimes works. I've tried prostrate milking but I've never succeeded at it. I find it difficult to milk my own prostrate and I guess I finsd it hard to hit the exact target. Getting enough relief to sleep without the actual feeling of cumming or cumming fully is frustrating. Maybe if I could manage the prostrate milking, it would give a full feeling of not cumming while curing the sleeping problem. Any thoughts? Anyone else have problems with sleeping?
As far as I understand the night erections, it is a thing you will have to live with. Ruined, milking, or any other way of getting over the edge will not cure your night boner. It will still be there, and has always been, long before you started to cage yourself. Only difference is that it did not use to wake You up. It happened while you were sleeping..... Now you feel the pain, caused by the constrains and the added frustration. Some of us decided to live with it Considered it a small price to pay for living this lifestyle,... Others started to look for solutions, like special lotions to base ring area, adjusting base ring sizes, replacing devices, or going for other ways of nighttime lock ups, that would prevent you from being able to stimulate yourself. ( Cufs and chains ) Look around in here for a ton of descriptions of this very common problem, and read the variety of different solutions. Best of luck to You. What kind of device are you currently caged in?
@Gloryboy Hi, this depends on your situation and the device you are wearing. When I had a fetish felix cs100 belt - the tube was fixed to the waist so that erections never woke me up as they just pulled against the belt and not against my testicles. If you have a cb type device or even a cage - get a long bootlace - thread this through the cage and around your waist and pull it really tight and tie, lubricate your balls with some silicon lube and go to bed. The cage will now stop the erection with no pain in your balls. An alternative to this , depending on who is your key holder, is to get them to unlock you and place your hands in mitts (I have some big thick leather ones - usually used for puppy play) - and off you go to sleep, any erections etc will then have to be left alone as you cannot physically grab yourself anymore.... Or you could try a silicon cage like a bon4 which will stretch with your erections and cause no pain... Or if your key holder does not want you naked - how about mitts and a nappy - nappy is soft - but plays havoc with your mind - your body etc... I personally don't think lack of sleep is a small price to pay - I cannot function without sleep and it affects my work as well and puts me off the lifestyle and makes me grumpy - so good luck! Regards Lucy x
You boys have such a one track mind! Glory boy didn't mention night time erections in his post. He mentioned "tension" being the cause of his sleeplessness.
Just realized - Thanks to @Mascara^Snake ! TENSION it is! Well , that part You will HAVE to live with, I think , and learn to treasure.... I do. And I love every step of the way.... I would not trade release for this feeling I have inside.... Honestly! I like being horny, I love the tension, but I DO manage to do my job as well , and to serve her in every way. Keeps me occupied. That could be your problem @Gloryboy ... Perhaps You need distraction?? LOL!
Thanks, MsAmanda, for catching that. Yes, it is simply the tension from being too worked up regardless of whether I'm wearing a device or not. I usually don't wear one while sleeping. Of course, because this is self-denial, it is quite possible that the motivation for long-term denial just is not there and the tensions get to me in a way they might not if I was doing it for a Mistress.
@Gloryboy ... If you are stressed like this try some lavender on your pillow, a warm drink , a sleep mask, some relaxation counting. I am the same sleep and myself are enemies .. But I have found being a baby helps me sleep xx
Sometimes I find it helps to picture myself in a giant white room, like being in one of the bubbles from "The Prisoner". I then picture straight ahead of me, slowly flashing in and out of visibility the word "SLEEP". It sounds silly, but it helps me focus and close out the rest of the noise in my head long enough to get some rest.
I've always had problems sleeping. As I've gotten older I have balanced it out some, but it wasn't age that fixed it. I just always had 1,000 ideas in my head I needed to deal with. I started braindumping them into sheets of paper to organize later, but we also moved to the country and I put a lot of ideas to use. Accomplishment and getting the ideas out was the key to keeping my mind from running. You are having a different issue, but you have a lot of these energies built up and you've programmed yourself to disperse it this way. You need to find other ways to use up the energies. I once read an article recently talking about only one orgasm a month, no more, is essential for highly productive people (oops I mean men, women have the reverse affect) so that they have the energy to perform at their best. Yes here is the article: http://nextshark.com/this-is-why-th...nd-success-is-having-only-one-orgasm-a-month/ But they have the desire to do all these successful things but couldn't really achieve them by cumming more than once a month. The solution is not to cum but once a month at the most. It seems you are trying to accomplish the same thing by restricting your frequency, but while these people in the example of the article have businesses, and passions to throw that energy at, maybe you don't. Maybe instead you are spending the extra energy focusing on being pent up with extra energy. Of course I am just like everyone else with opinions, the content of this message should not be used as fact, truth, or otherwise. However, I hope in some way that it helps you on the journey to find YOUR fact, truth, or otherwise.
I think you are essentially correct. While I don't have any business interests, there are a lot of things that I could focus on and that's besides friends. Even if it's just cleaning the house and catching up on my Netflix and television viewing and reading stories (not FemDom stories), I think the secret to long-term orgasm denial for me (since I don't have a Mistress who I know personally and am dedicated to right now) is to focus on a lot of other interests that I set aside when I get obsessed with my Female Domination/ chastity "fantasy". I do think the secret to long-term denial is to NOT focus on porn- whether it be visual or erotic stories about chastity- and focus on other interests, letting the desire build naturally rather than constantly feeding it. Of course, the desire takes longer to build up that way but I suspect the results are more satisfying in the long run including some serious period of time without cumming and greater fulfillment by not only living ":the fantasy" but also a sense of accomplishment from it. Though, in real life, it's rather hard to boast about "not cumming."