My husband has been in his Lori tube now for 8 months. But I have purchased a new smaller cage. He has been able to grow a bit in his current one and the inner was enough to allow a little as well. The new cage is a half inch shorter making it 1 inch and the inner diameter is now 3/4inch. It will be much tighter and not allow any growth. I have spoken with Lori extensively about it and this will be a perfect fit. He doesn't know it but tonight the old one comes off and the new one (that he doesn't know about yet) will go on. After a week trial to see how it goes, it may be be the last time he is free for the year. I am excited. I love this lifestyle. But, I am going to give him a treat tonight that I said I'd never give him, I am going to let him have an orgasm unlocked and inside me (with a condom) since we aren't pushing for kids. He has never done this before. He deserves a reward for being so good.
I can only imagine him saying ... honey what does it mean when the box says condom's enhanced with EMLA.... On the flip side, I am sure he is going to enjoy the vanilla ice cream after lots of chocolate, sprinkles, and many other flavors ...
Please excuse my skepticism if I am wrong but I am staring to think that the OP is a scam. Her posts seem so much like fantasy for oh so many of us locked guys. She also very rarely follows up on the discussions she starts. I am staring to wonder if it is a narcissistic guy that fantasizes about being kept in the way that "she" claims to keep her husband? Also, why is her own cuck husband not a member of this site that she feels comfortable enough to share her surprises to him with us before they happen to him? Sorry. After all of this person's posts, I am just not buying it.
Congratulations on your new cage! Not sure if this is the right place to ask a question, but in her post, she mentions her husband "Growing." I have read in many posts/threads about the man "Growing" being a "Grower" or not being a"Grower." What exactly is a "Grower?" Is it when the penis tries to get erect in his cock cage? Doesn't this happen to ALL dicks? So is everyone a "Grower?" The only thing I can think of is the size of a "Flacid" penis. I will use myself as an example. When I am "Flacid", my penis ususlly measures 1 1/2" - 2" in length. But when I am erect, it measures 6 1/2" in length. So am I a "Grower?" So would a "Non-grower" with a 7" erect penis (for example) have a 7" flacid penis? So would he need a 7" cage because he does not "grow" because he is ALWAYS 7" when flacid or erect? Just curious. Thanks.
Bob, All penises grow when erect, as they fill with blood. But some will extend very little and just stiffen instead. These are "showers". You are a grower. A shower might be 6" or 6 1/2" flaccid and 7" erect. A "grower" will lengthen much more, like you do. The myth that black men have larger penises then white men comes from the fact that many black men are showers, not growers. Since their penises always look larger, it's assumed they must be larger. When actually, most black men have an erect penis size similar to most white men. It's their flaccid size that looks bigger.
Billus, Thank you for clearing that up for me. I thought it might be something like that, though I've never heard of a "Shower." Guess you learn something new every day! I will keep an eye out for a picture of a guy who is a "Shower" and has a very long chastity cage. I would think it may be somewhat more difficult to hide a 7" cage in your pants versus a smaller cage like the one I have on order from Mature Metal. Thanks again for the info! Bobbie (a grower) LOL!!!
Why is it so hard to believe that a woman could have a fantasy of locking their guy and love it? I have been turned on by this for a long time now and their are many other women who are too. This is a place that I have found that I can share. I wanted to be a part of the community. As for follow up, I have a real life and a real job. I am very busy because I work in a law firm and outside of work I mostly interact with real people. I don't need to be on here to fuel a fantasy or to play with myself which is what I suspect most of you boys on here do. He is not a chastity fetishist. I am. He is submissive and we joined this relationship one because we love each other and two, we fit nicely together. He loves to please me. I am not a mistress but a wife and he is a very giving husband. I share here because I like to and that really is the only thing that matters. In any case, I have nothing to prove to you or any others that question whether or not I am authentic. I have gotten this type of message often from people surprised that a woman can be kinky too.
I just meant to say that he is a very nice size when erect and when in his old cage he had just a bit of room to grown length wise in his cage. Now he doesn't. Much more restrictive.
it's so nice to see Your posts MsKey! I'm aware of many Women who have the same strong feelings are not offended by comments to the contrary!
@thekeyholderwife it is funny how all of us fall into the stereotypes perspective of how people should think and act. I was lucky to learn very early in life at college, when I was invited with a group of women into their group because I helped one of the roommates out with her chemistry at the time, and I was a chivalrous but not wimpish guy. The stories they would share made me learn that women are in general are alot more "verbose" in communicating about sex in alot of areas and topics. Guys are very deeply focused in a single topic to a deep extreme .... it is just nice to see women communicate their thoughts alot more ... thanks! It is funny (even I fall into the trap) how guys always focus on the short-term gain instead of thinking about the total sum of fun over the longer term .... I realized it later in the semester since I was friends, I would get a "halo" effect from other women outside of the group ... Again ... thanks for sharing ... your relationship shares are fantastic!
Curious, was your husband pierced before you met him or did you make him get one so that he can't pull out of his chastity device behind your back?
I like how serious you are about this lifestyle. All the complaints I hear wives making about their husbands and marriages (infidelity, porn, masturbation, selfishness, inability to pleasure her, rudeness, disrespect or sexual objectification of women, etc) are completely solved by male chastity.
You do not have to apologize for your actions, comments or how often you can log in. Each person is travelling their own path. Just because yours and your husband's is different doesn't make it wrong. I hope tonight is everything you hope it will be. Cheers.
I too am a prime example of this. Yes I introduced the idea to her. But she absolutely hated knowing that I would sometimes masturbate alone. Keeping me caged full time, now she knows my orgasms are at her discretion, plus she loves the added attention it naturally creates from me.
This is absolutely NOT TRUE. Chastity really can't solve any of these except using your penis to cheat. But you can definitely still cheat, watch porn, be selfish, not please your wife sexually, be rude or objectify women when you are in chastity. Nothing about chastity changes what goes on in your mind other than the fact that if you are wearing a good device it makes it very difficult to pleasure yourself and possibly make it where you cannot orgasm. The other stuff can't be changed unless an effort to change your thinking occurs. When people say that chastity made him better, it was because they were motivated by desire for pleasure to do that which they should have been doing anyway. Instead, men fascinated with chastity use these things mentioned above and including housework as leverage to convince their partner that they should play the game with them. I say game because that is what it becomes the second the guy says, if you lock me up you get this... Whereas most of us women would say, um, how about you just be kind, help around the house, care about me etc without using those things as leverage to put you into chastity? In any case, if you are a good person and care about your partner you will not use these excuses to convince them to lock you up. Just my opinion.
First of all, thank you for providing such an eloquent response to what I wrote. I highly respect and value your insight, as you have substantially more experience with this lifestyle. Everything you said is absolutely correct. I suppose I just meant to say that from a man's perspective, the inability to stimulate oneself to orgasm and in many cases, the inability to achieve an erection make it extremely unpleasant for men to engage in porn viewing and masturbation, which in turn helps to channel their sexual energy to their significant other. In your husbands case, for example, I would imagine that the new smaller Lori device you've purchased for him makes any attempt to view porn a very difficult and perhaps even physically uncomfortable experience. That, along with the fact that it's attached to his PA and he can't pull out of it behind your back, should theoretically provide a humbling experience that would guide him into curtailing any previous disrespect for women. You are correct though, men should not be using any of that as leverage, rather, it should be a desire that comes about naturally and which is further facilitated by the enforced chastity. He should be doing all those things for you even if he is in permanent chastity and knows full well that you have no desire to ever let him out. As a man, I do however like the idea of earning brownie points with my wife for good behavior. Even though I desired the chastity originally, my goal is to reach a state where I want out of chastity, but I'm talked out of it by a loving, yet strict wife and out of my desire to please and not disappoint her, much like what you've done with your husband. I find your relationship with him to be truly remarkable and so full of love.