Hi all and thank you for having me. What a well made website! i am a submissive with CD tendencies and need help with my chastity training. I am married and my wife knows everything. She try's to play along but its not her cup of tea and just wanders away after time. what i am looking for is is to be a better husband. I can become lazy and inattentive sometimes around the house and with her. I start off strong but the negatives patterns come back. Im hoping chastity will change that with help from the community! please help become a better person.
Welcome. We're all here to help you become a better husband. You've got to talk to your wife and ask her to help you with that goal and explain -- if you've figured it out yourself -- how chastity can aid in that. And given her taste in tea you may want to disentangle chastity from CD initially so she can focus on helping train as a husband without at the same time trying to get her head around your CD.
thank you for responding! Yes i completely agree with you, i have kept them separate and generally only explore CD on my own. she says she enjoys teasing but when we do chastity she just kind of forgets and never thinks of it again. Maybe im being selfish and expecting to much. So now i feel like i should self train and have a positive routine that benefits her and myself. hand her the keys to a perfect husband! Set it and forget it! but how? How do i break my own stallion? Im still a bucking bronco at heart right now.
Lazy and inattentive around the house? Sounds like a bloke thing to me, maybe not the CD bit, but then what do I know! Welcome.
Sounds like O/our life in the beginning of my chastity. I think it's crucial you get her to say where she wants to see you heading. You can keep her interested if you take steps to the direction she wants. First give her your free time, always ask what she wants you to do if you doesn't have a weekly schedule set by her. If she keeps forgetting to tease or notice you, maybe you could agree upon a schedule like a session once a week during which the cb comes off or does not come off. That worked for U/us.
thanks so much for the suggestions and warm welcomes. Yes i think giving her my free time might help and bowing to the queen. I guess i have to just follow through with my own commitment and not just sit on the washing machine when it vibrates to get a kick lol
Most women can't stand the idea of their husbands masturbating, so you might suggest to her that your being locked is a way that she can help you overcome your habit. If she is getting lazy and forgetful about your chastity, it probably means that you are not sufficiently overwhelming her with service and caing for her needs while locked. Just my humble opinion. I would also put the the CD on the side burner and not confuse things with Her in the beginning. You have lots of time!