Ultimate goal?

We don't have any actual goals, but every time we play it's for a long term, both chastity (locked) and denial (for me).

We've reached a point where it may end up becoming a permanent arrangement. Mrs Edge prefers to keep me orgasm free, although she doesn't mind an occasional ruined orgasm in my cage (she helps them along, I suspect, because we all like to see our partner enjoy themselves).

There was no planning it just sort of ended up there.

 

The only goal was to keep me from mastubating. Hence the cage. It's been 2 yrs and a little over 2 months now being locked.
Now I only get unlocked for her to use it. The last time she used it was July 2018.
Her goal has been met , no more orgasms for me. I haven't seen my penis unwrapped in steel since then.

 

For madam and I we have reached our goal, I am in chastity 24/7 for my madam, I am forbidden any type of penile stimulation, I am only allowed anal stimulation to reach an orgasm, now and forever more. My penis is forever off limits.

 

While not really a goal, this is how it has been for the last two years. Her pleasure includes keeping me teased and frustrated.

 

My personal goal is to increase the intimacy and communication with my KH. Chastity is the path leading towards that. It is going so much better and faster than I had dreamed of.

 

My goal is to be teased and denied forever, maybe a ruined orgasm every few months. My wife used to feel sorry for me and allowed a ruined orgasm if I begged her long enough...now it's always no, no mater how long I beg her. I may not even get a ruined orgasm every few months, and I'm ok with that, I just love the feeling of being horny and on the edge all the time.

 

my goal is that my dick is Hers and that She teases me to remember it
just allowed to clean it
from Her hand (the night) straight to the CB as soon as one of us wakes up.

for being Hers, it's ok
for teasing, for the fact of having caresses with the CB, that's not the rule, only from time to time (1 on 20 or 30)
She's afraid of i could be hurted, even i explain it's good

 

Is it up to us "chasted men" to have a goal?

My chastity started with my strong desire to improve the initmacy in our relationship by letting my Love control one of my "previously most pleasurable things in live" - my orgasm. As since 11 moths my Love took over full control, it is not anymore up to me to have any of such goal. My Love is now having a different goal, which I have to obey and follow.

By doing anything to serve her requirements, a previously unkown and different kind of "satisfaction" becomes reality. Of course, I would not have any problem with being locked 24/7/365 and being denialed forever. Honestly, I do not have any more a goal to release and my brain starts to think sometimes even in "permanent constraints". If, besides fullfilling my Loves requirements, I might be allowed to have a little wish, my desire is that my "next sexual life" is about serving her, T&D when my Love decides and no more releases.

 

Good question. For me chastity has just become a broader part of the FLR lifestyle my wife and I engage in. As she is the one leading I would really defer to her goals. That being said we have both struggled with consistency. So I guess the biggest goal for me would be to gain that consistency in both of us.

 

I put this question to my Keyholder Wife and She said (to my chagrin), "Two climaxes a year and no PIV." So I guess that's my ultimate goal now.

asa

 

Our goals are amongst the 3 of us.

For my keyholder/Domme her goal is that I don't need or desire my genitals as a source of pleasure or sex, and to live that way, and stay locked, and have her needs and service above all else.

For my wife, having observed the process of chastity/denial and D/s, I'd say that her goal is that I embrace the concept that my pleasure is no longer important. For her, that means that she no longer has to worry about me looking elsewhere for sexual pleasure, and she feels good and comfortable about not needing to provide me with any sexual pleasure.

For me, it's to accept that this suits the 3 of us perfectly, and that while it's harsh and restrictive, my main fetish through my sexual life, has always been denial. Accepting this, I can focus on staying chaste, serving my keyholder and focusing on my wifes pleasure. My goal is that each year it gets easier and more normal to live a chaste and denied life.

 

I don’t think there was some sort of goal or end game, but then again I don’t think we do things exactly in the norm either.

Since the first time she held the key our arrangement has been the same...she holds key, she unlocks it any damn time she feels like it, she lets me cum when she feels like it and locks me back up when she’s done. I’ve had a week or two over the last almost 4 years uncaged, but usually due to an abrasion.

She doesn’t specifically deny me orgasms, it just isn’t high on her priority list. She cums with her toys, and would be difficult with my penis so it’s not really necessary for her sexual release. If it did anything for her I might have 50 orgasms a year, it doesn’t so I’m at the whim of whenever she’s in the mood for me to cum.

I was never really into denial, I was into giving up control, and only having sex when it’s 100%their idea.

 

I don't have an ultimate goal, except to do something fun and kinky and intimate with my wife (and whomever else gets involved). If it turns out that we both enjoy having me locked up all the time, that's good. If it turns out to be an occasional thing, that's good too.

 

My goal is to become asexual, to be able to match my wife’s complete disinterest. I am aiming for true 24/7/366. If the “horror” stories some people claim are true, and chastity causes ED and shrinking, then I hope I am one that it happens to.

I know a lot of people think a sexless marriage means time to divorce, but I am committed to my vows. It is not her fault that her body and hormones are not working right. It has taken me a long time to get here, but I am ready to be over my penis being a tool for my pleasure. I am seriously contemplating becoming a eunuch. Until that can happen, the cage doesn’t need to be removed.

 

Like several people here, I don't have a goal but I'd like to restore intimacy with my husband and do so in a fun way.

 

Not sure I really have a goal either, since I came across male chastity the idea of being locked up and denied for extended periods of time just really clicks with me.

I don't know that I actually want permenant chastity but I like the idea of one day of my KH's confidence blossoming enough one day to decide she is going to keep me locked for a very long time.

 

For her to control totally my orgasms in a manner that she enjoys fully.

Kindest regards

J.

 

Our goal is my lifelong slavery to her. Chastity is merely her main means of control. And one way I submit.

 

My Wife and I have agreed that I will never ejaculate again. We are coming up (no pun intended) on the one year anniversary of my last ejaculation.

I would like to be permanently denied PIV but we have not yet had that conversation

 

Also i would like to remain locked at all times other than if medically necessary. But I have not discussed this with my Wife

 

This is a good question. My Goddess and i have both reached our short term goal of more intimacy within our marriage.

My ultimate goal would be for my Goddess to make me her permanent slave. She has already expressed that she doesn’t want that though. Not at this point in our lives anyway.

So my more realistic, shorter term goal is to completely submit to her mentally and psychologically. What l mean by that is me doing whatever she says and wants, when she wants it done, without thought, argument, or hesitation. Or in other words, never questioning her decisions. I think i have come a long way in working to achieve this goal, but i also think i have a long way to go. Afterall, i am a stubborn SOB!

 

I only use chastity to help refrain from porn and masturbating addition. That way I can give my wife all my sexual attention. As far as those of you whom never want to orgasm again, I don't get it. Why go through life without one of it's greatest pleasures? It is for both of you to enjoy together after all. I mean, I couldn't no more say I never want to eat chocolate ever again than say I don't want to cum anymore. I believe life is everything is good in moderation. Excess is the problem. But I love my cock and enjoy it tremendously!

 

I used to think the same way, until Mrs Edge and I started going for longer and longer terms. I discovered that the exciting thing for me was the constant low-level "simmer" of sexual arousal. Even now that I'm a veteran at this, it's still exciting.

The only analogy I can make is the excitement one gets before Xmas or a birthday. You know you're going to get a present, and the excitement builds... until you finally open it. Then it's over.

Or heading slowly up the first hill on a roller coaster. For me, being denied is Xmas morning, or the riding the roller coaster until it hits the crest.

I'll admit that it's not for everybody, but it works for us.

 

The possibilities are endless on the sexual spectrum. I have absolutely no judgement for any ones choices. It's just for me, I love (I really do!) the entire roller coaster ride. I love the buildup before Christmas, but I still think Christmas morning is the best part of the season. The climax you might say. But to each his (or her) own. I say enjoy! Whatever that may mean to you.