Ultimate goal?

I think that lots of folks on here have all difrent thingys to have. some have the same but other ones have all difrent ones. and if you are in a cage it dont matter really as long as your Mistress is happy with you.

 

I agree, I want to have orgasms every day, but don't because my wife controls that. Not me anymore.

 

I wonder if your wife shares this goal...

 

It sounds like chemical castration might be useful, even if only using Chasteberry (aka Monk's Hood) to reduce the libido to nil.
Or you could look to HRT in various types and doses.
Feel free to PM if you would like more information. If it's just a desire to reduce desire, that can be done without chastity, and have the same effects, mostly.
Could do both, just so you're not tempted, but removal of DHT from your system will reduce the desire anyway.

 

In a broad sense, my goal is simply to have a meaningful sex life with my wife in a way that works for both of us.

I have more specific short term goals that are kinda subject to change based on new info. I have ideas how things might work for us, but I'm not sure what works until we try it. She has indicated interest without actually demonstrating interest, if that makes sense. We'll see if she is just talking or if her proclaimed interest is real.

 

I posed this question to my wife last night as I was curious what her reply would be. I was shocked when she said she had no goal, we were exactly where she wanted us to be. I do whatever I'm told and she gets orgasms whenever she wants without reciprocity. "What more could I want" she concluded.

I let this answer soak in and I have strong mixed feelings on this. On the one hand I'm quite proud as a submissive to be given this compliment. Her happiness is my goal and to be told I'm achieving this is quite gratifying. On the other hand I felt let down thinking, this is it? I guess while I don't have specific goals I had hopes that this was an ongoing evolution. That there were deeper levels to be explored. That her self confidence would build so that what I see as timidness or lack of conviction would fade away.

I think some of this is just how I am wired as a person. Seeing success as a ladder to be climbed. Each rung bringing you to the next level of wealth and success. Never seeing that ladder as reaching a destination, just a climb to be made. Can I accept stepping off the ladder and being at a destination? Or is that a form of surrender?

 

We've been poly since we met, and poly is an explicit part of our marriage agreement.

Now, handling the interaction between chastity and other partners is interesting. But not insuperable.

 

We started this journey with the intention of engaging in a kink that increased the eroticism between us. We certainly have achieved that however it is something that needs constant nurturing. My current goal is to become my chaste husband's only source of pleasure. Every thought, feeling, every moment of the slightest arousal to be centered around me and only me. We are getting there but our brains wander, I intend to stop his pleasure receptors to wander beyond me. I need and desire complete focus. I expect I will have it.

 

She sounds like she has plenty of conviction, and knows what she wants. So perhaps the next stage in your evolution is to change your assessment of her.

 

Oh my

 

Normally you are much more wordy, l like leaving you without words.

 

Started out as a way for ME to be a bit kinky. She didn't really like it. Over the years off and on, she has accepted it.
We are in our mid 50's, We're taking care of parents and working a lot. Even getting time for sex is hard to come by. NOW Chasity is fun and welcomed by both of us. I want to have sex and she can say no with a evil knowing look in her eye and be completely happy with it. I'm denied, teased and told I have to wait and be happy being locked. And the time we get during the week is spent with more talking and tenderness. When we do get time for some real edging I will probably stay in the cage depending on her mood. This weekend we've scheduled some US time to be unlocked and taking our time to both cum. It'll make the past three weeks of being denied worthwhile. The weeks have been fun, I've gotten hard and teased a few times, was able to talk to my wife concerning general troubles life sends to us all for extended periods and she knows I want her more than anyone.
So what is the Goal ? Started out as a way to control masturbation, be kinky and really kind of selfish on my part. Now the goal is to give my wife a way to say 'not tonight dear' that is fun for her and she has no guilt. For me, I have a way to accept NO for an answer and I'm happy.

 

I'm probably a little away from the norm on this.

My goal is to be comfortable.

At a certain level, I wish that I didn't have a penis. Putting said appendage in a steel wrapper gives a feeling of constancy, removing outside touch and influence, which allows it to be disregarded.

The challenge at the moment is to get the ancillary parts of the cage to be comfortable so they can be ignored too.

 

Life can be tedious and you nailed what can be the fundamental benefits of chastity.
Enjoy your weekend!

 

Good question!

For my part, it's a way of experiencing the feeling that my sex matters, by restricting it. No one else cares about my sexual experience but me, and no one else gives two figs about my physical appendages.

Thus the goal, for me, is to pretend that i matter. That my penis means something. By trying to remain chaste i have an aim, and being in chastity means i feel sexual more of the time.

Is that a goal?

 

My ultimate goal is to get out of this damn cage and reclaim my dominance but my wife will never let that happen.

Her ultimate goal is to continue to keep me caged permanently and continue to be her Bitch. To serve her worship her her and for her to use me as she wishes. I don’t see any chance of accomplishing my goal ever.

 

Perhaps this is true. That is why I prefaced it with "What I see". I have a fond saying that perception is reality. It is quite possible, even likely, that my perception is flawed.

 

Same here.

 

That's a good goal too.

 

That's a great goal!

 

I'm locked 24/7/365 and will continue to be, the padlock hasn't been unlocked for so long that here a few months back when we did try to unlock it to change it for a newer less worn one we discovered the inside of the lock no longer works, and as my wife doesn't have any use for my manhood then it's just going to have to stay that way. She/we don't care as we are both happier when I'm locked, it's a lifestyle not a kink for us.

 

Some people like goals eithe short or long and others do not, prefering instead to see where things, events and ever changing circumstances in their lives take them.

For me like many on here my short term goal has often been to have a relationship in which my partner is interested in being my KH and appreciative of the benefits taht could potentially arise from that..

The long term goal is to see what transpires

 

sounds good....
Makes me think of Renee Lane.