My God what a week it’s been. My wife has now totally switched this on. “I don’t want to spank you but find someone who does.” I have a session next week with a letter to take. She also told me to buy the smallest Vixskin dildo for the Meo harness. We are now a chastity anal only couple. She is wet thinking about it be careful what you wish for
You're not. I am. Cue many other members claiming the same. That aside. How did this opportunity come about? Her idea or yours? My wife is great with control of our sex lives and denying me. She's well over the guilt of not reciprocating her own pleasure. I love that. She does struggle with the more kinky aspects of dominance that I would like from her. I want to be treated like the dirtiest slut, endure BDSM activities, be humiliated, lots of bondage and more. She's taken some steps, but it's hard for her to see me as anything but equal and she wants to show me love and affection, not pain and objectification. I'm not sure I'd ever want to suggest that she might hand off that part to a professional, and can't see how she would ever go for it. That said, I wouldn't want to put it on a never gonna happen list. So how did this turn off events come to happen? Just so I can put the possibility in a long term reserve options list.
Hi it was 100% her idea. I was working away and had called when she said that she struggles with disciplining me so find someone who does if for a living. She wants me marked and we are to arrange monthly sessions. We tried the little Vixskin last night and its blown her mind with the foxy wand as well. She said I always loved anal so now I can enjoy strap on anal. Wow I cant quite believe it as I would never has suggested such things to Her.
You have a truly remarkable and strong relationship. I hope it works well for you both . I'd love to be afforded that kind of opportunity, just for the bondage and discipline element as I know my wife would struggle to get her head around hurting me in anyway but I fully understand that for most women this would fall way out of their comfort zone
To be honest I have an issue going outside the relationship, I always thought that chastity was a commitment to each other. Each to their own I guess
I think it is great when a wife is OK with her man getting disciplined from a professional. Most wives dont wish to inflict pain on their husband but once they understand that a pro-domme does not offer sex, it is a great way to satisfy our male need to submit to corporal punishment. Unfortunately I was never given a letter to take, which would have been a real turn-on but I did have monthly sessions leaving very good marks.
Each is different I only want to submit to my wife. Makes me wonder how is it submissive if you are going outside the relationship to get what you want.
He clarified that his wife initiated this of her own volition. Therefore by going to the appointments his wife has demanded, he is submitting to her. She's sending him to a specialist to have them inflict pain on him per her instruction.
My Mistress has an old tennis partner friend that is now a retired Pro Domme. Mistress does not enjoy inflicting pain on me, but wants me to be disciplined, so has, on a couple of occasions, had me drive 2 1/5 hours each way to have a discipline session with Ms Linda. The anticipation that I feel whike driving there is very intense as is the soreness I feel in sitting on my return trip. It was very effective and I often yearn for a replay.
I think that, like most sissy oriented things, I enjoy the humiliation of it. Driving along in high heels (dressed as Donna), I recall my previous experiences, thinking about the humiliation of submission to another Domme, and getting promising texts along the way from Ms Linda that feed my anticipation, by the time I get there, I am about ready to explode! But then, She brings me down to the reality of my situation pretty quickly!
My wife was trained by a professional and it was worth the time and effort. When we started BDSM, it was rough and left marks and some cuts that took time to heal before we could play again. The training showed her how to take me to the edge and redden the skin but not bruise of cut the top layer. This allowed us to continue over and over until I was broken or she was exhausted. If you have the chance for professional training, please take advantage it will be worth the time and expense.
When my wife struggles with our sex life and her relatively lower labido than my own she often says things like, “maybe we should find someone for you just for sex.” She’s not even kidding. In those moments I understand that my expectations are too high and that my wife is more important than my primal needs. That’s when I make a change. I do not take her up on her offer. I do this because I am the luckiest man alive to be with her… and I hope to make her feel that she is lucky to have me too…. Not inadequate.
So true wives are just not for sex... and if that stops . They are or should be friends companions and if you are lucky a soulmate . Men would be a lot happier if they stopped looking at them as some dominatrix sex machine