She actually took the keys...

Sorry this is a long one, but I have a tendency to be detail oriented... this is how my wife who has not wanted me in Chastity now has control of them for potentially two weeks or longer. Only time will tell.

The past 45 days have been a journey into how to change things in regard to the sex life that my wife deserves and chastity is playing a role.

I joined the forum in 2018 and initially posted how my beautiful wife dislikes the idea of chastity. Her thoughts have been that it must hurt me to be encased in the locked plastic prison. Over these years I've attempted to have her understand how beneficial chastity will be to our relationship. I did all the ideas that you read about in this forum and other places. Showed her tumblr sites, linked to articles all those things and still she just had this brush off of using chastity in our relationship, not a hard NO, but a she really wasn't interested in learning how it would improve the sexual experience between us. She is typically satisfied with the type and amount of sex we've had.

Fast forward to around October and as we've both moved into our mid 50's well the need for a generic version of the little blue pill was assessed. The pills arrived and they improved the sex, but the frequency of how often we engaged was not increasing. When we discussed the issue, she called out that the length of my penis wasn't the problem it was how quick the sex was over.

Enter my desire to be in chastity. I was poking around the internet and found Holy Trainer came out with the version 5 of their devices and with a Nub. Now my kink is tight restrictive control over my maleness without being able to see it. I of course ordered the v5 Nub. A quick review... amazing chastity device, exactly what I've been wanting. The device gets here just before Christmas and I wear it without my wife knowing, however it never fails that when I put on a device, or have a butt plug in or anything that isn't vanilla, she finds it. Like something inside her turns on her spidey sense to grab my balls, when she typically never does that... "Women's intuition maybe"?

She reaches in my pants and looks down at the pink nub and she laughs and says; "That's soooo cute, it's so small like your dick, you can't even see it anymore." Now in 30+ years of marriage she has never said that out loud. She then says; "You shouldn't be wearing that your hurting yourself and you should take it off." Of course I told her that it isn't hurting me or I wouldn't wear it."

Fast forward to 10 days ago, I put the little nub on and wear it, she finds it and says her normal comments. This time I let he know that I was going to wear it for a week to show it doesn't hurt. I had control of both keys. And each night after dinner she would ask if I still had the "prison on", and I would reply yes. We typically sit on opposite ends of the couch in the evening watching movies etc... however, each night she would be on my end with me and start teasing me, she typically doesn't do that. Over the seven days, she would find ways to grab my crotch and keep saying it needs to come off. At the end of the week, getting ready for bed, I took a generic Viagra, took off the cage and cleaned it and myself and then used Aspercream numbing lotion on my cock and we had what she called the best sex we've had in over 2 years.

Over the next week I kept the cage off, we talked about it a few times and what it meant to me and our improved sex we just had. Then this past Saturday, I wrote out a couple paragraphs of an idea that I had... She is Korean, and speaks English really well, however I wrote the idea and used Google Translate to put it in her own language. The gist of the idea was... Over the next two weeks, to improve our sex life and show that chastity doesn't hurt me, I would ask that you allow me to wear the chastity cage, and in doing so, I'll pay tribute to you of $100 for keeping the keys. You of course have the option to unlock him for sex and I ask for 5 minutes of unlock time every 3 days for cleaning. If you allow this, it will improve our sex life and show you that you can control when we have sex, and don't have to worry about me giving you bad sex.

She read the message and smiled, and then said, that the cage must hurt and she didn't want to do this. I sighed and was resigned to not have her in control of the chastity device. The tribute comes in to play because she has been wanting to save up money for her next over seas trip and we both get an "allowance" every month. The $100 would come from my allowance to pay the tribute.

Last night on 1/29 I had put the cage back on as I typically have it on over the weekend. She asked me where her $100 was. I said, you told me didn't want to do that. her response was, that cage is too tight and must hurt you, you should take it off. She then shrugged and went back to watching TV. At bed time I went to get the key which was kept in my vanity in the bathroom when I lock myself and I couldn't find the key. I thought maybe I left in my office, I looked there and couldn't find it. I searched every area I could have put the key, it was no where to be found. Thinking I lost the key, I got my spare key and used that and went to bed unlocked. My wife had reached for my crotch while we were in bed and found the cage was off, she didn't say anything, she just tugged at him and rolled back over. In the morning when I woke up the missing key was in the vanity drawer.

On leaving for work this morning, she grabbed my crotch and no cage, she said "Where's my $100?" I reached into my pocket and counted out the tribute and handed it to her and she put in her bra and slapped my ass as I left. All I could think about on the drive to work was her having the tribute and that I was currently not caged. I got home early and she wasn't home. I went up stairs got the nub on. Took both keys and put them in a small plastic box and placed them on her vanity in the bathroom. She got home came up to my office, she didn't say anything about the cage or keys. She asked about my day and went back downstairs. Knowing she had been in our bedroom, I went to the bathroom and checked the vanity, the keys in the small plastic box was gone, and now I have no idea where the keys are. Here's to hoping that she keeps them for however long she wants and that she can experience sex when and how she wants. A new order of generic Viagra is on it's way. Should be here Thursday.

 

I understand that repose and actually expected her to make a comment or be turned off by me willing to pay for this. “Money” is not an issue. We have enough that It’s more about what am I willing to do and sacrifice to make it about her and what she gets out of the situation directly. And me willing to give up a portion of my discretionary spending as a tribute is telling her that I really want to see this through. If she wanted $100 all she has to do is go to the bank and withdraw it. If she wants money to squirrel away for another trip she can do that too. Thanks for you perspective, that was thought through. She’s methodical and doesn’t want it to be about what I want, she wants commitment. It’s like putting your secondary key in an accessible place for safety. Giving up both keys and the tribute of which will most likely be others which I have no problem with, in my mind I’m showing commitment and she’s benefitting . She used the money today to buy us dinner… but it came from my Jeep upgrades, bowling with the guys or tools for my wood shop. I wrote all that because I wanted to express the situation better, not to brag. It’s the idea of a tribute in service to her, it’s not the actual money. I hope that makes sense. Chastity is not just physical play, but also psychological.

 

Follow up to day one of "She actually took the keys...", after dinner she didn't say a word about the cage, the keys or anything, just normal day to day conversation and I didn't bring it up either. Around 8:30 she sits at the end of the couch that I'm on and puts her hand over my chest and stomach, then reaches into my pants and says, "Is he still free?" she feels around and touches the cage. She pulls her hand out and says, "Why is he locked again. I told you he should be free." I sighed and looked into her gorgeous brown eyes and said that I put the cage on because that's what we discussed and the tribute was for keeping me locked. She did her typical light laugh and said "No, that was so that he would stay free and wouldn't be locked." which of course drew my response of, "But the keys are gone, you have them." A tilt of her head and a moment of thought and the next comment dropped me to a level of what ever it is when hope fades. "Keys? I don't know anything about any keys. Well I guess you are locked indefinitely now, since the keys are missing." My eyes must have went wide, but she had moved back to her end of the couch and went back to surfing the internet. I just answered. "Yes, I guess so." Not another word was said about the cage or keys. And this morning nothing, except she grabbed my crotch and then poured herself some coffee.

I'm not going to bring it up until Friday night unless she does and see what happens. In my opinion she is in control, she knows it and I know it.

The generic Viagra came in last night as well. She took the bottle and put it in the drawer that we keep every day items and said, these might not be needed anymore as she closed the drawer. I am typically a very opinionated and out spoken individual, but this time I'm not going to push my way on this situation. Patience is my goal and hopefully this will work out the way we both get something from the experience(s).

 

A quick update. She still has the keys. The being locked is frustrating as hell. A coupe days the past week, I didn’t want it on any more but kept quiet about it. I was actually feeling very alpha male. She unlocks only for cleaning. She’s been calling it the big cage, but in Korean. 2 more days will be two weeks. No discussion about keeping it on or taking it off. All I’ll say is, this is intense at some times and annoying at others.