I've been chatting with a lot of members on this site and it's made me think about my ideal situation involving chastity. As much as the idea of my partner being in control of my orgasm sounds, I prefer a very different way. I want my partner to be locked in chastity as well as me with a third party Keyholder. I don't really know how release or earning it would work, but it would have hugeeee benefits. Think about date night, you feel that spark that makes you want to attack each other...and you do....but it never ends. That initial "New Couples" phase were you can't keep your hands off each other never dies. Plus the idea of having my lover in front of me and me desiring him and unable to do nothing with him in the same boat is...hot . What's your take on this dynamic? Is it doable or realistic? Toodles, Rachel
I think with the right partner, it's possible. You would both have to be somewhat of a switch. As for me I don't think it would work. A major part of chastity for me is the total surrender of my wants and needs to my Mistress. Her pleasure and her pleasure only is what comes first. I have submitted to some incredible indignities and pain just to make her smile or laugh. With my manhood locked away, I am more focused on pleasing her. If we were both locked, the desire for submission would be missing. We would both be desperate for a release that neither of us could give. Could be fun for a little while, but the end result would be a null. Hope this makes some sense. It's hard to explain what it is that triggers my submissiveness. I guess it just comes to different folks, different strokes.
Yes, this is a very sexy dynamic. I've played switch-switch with someone and it's a lot of fun. You're not likely to find much applause here for this though because this forum is mainly Femdom. In general the BDSM world is very dismissive of switches even though most new players are switches (non scientific personal study) But a dynamic like this is very possible and a lot of fun with the right people.
Very hot! I suppose it would be some kind of tantric sex than... Unless strapons are involved, but i love this creative idea.
But seriously, I find this situation very exciting. The idea of grinding locked parts against your partner is hot, assuming you were both pretty horny folks. Having to please some third party to be allowed to fuck each other could be fun, I could imagine some pretty exciting challenges. I have a slightly different fantasy, where my wife locks me long term, and her friend locks her husband. The only way either of us are allowed release is with each other, but only after our wives make us dress in lingerie and make out and dry hump each other while locked for a good long while as they watch. Once the ladies are satisfied they unlock our cocks but lock our hands so we can't jerk each other off and have to use an orifice to get each other off.
I think this is a brilliant dynamic. And plenty of potential for the third party KH as well. It could work especially well if you were both locked in matching belts, but not essential.You can have a really delicious frustration sleeoing together and being naked together, with all your desires and urges on at full blast, and nothing you can do about them. The KH is of course the crucial element. S/he (or they - could be a Dom couple) can make all the decisions about your sex life for you: if, what, where, and how. This has been something I've really been interested (as being the KH!) for years. I've come across very few though (but not none) who are into this, and I'd be interested in knowing if there are more. Do you have a partner who'd be interested in wearing on that basis?
I think that is a great idea lusting each other, and be helpless to do anything. Imagine all the new ways you'd find to make each other happy. Nice thinking. Bravo