Do you enjoy a ruined orgasm?

If it spurts is there more of a drop? I was under the impression that to be ruined it needs to dribble, or trickle out. Maybe I'm wrong. I think the less ejaculate the less the drop. We haven't perfected the technique yet, it's a bit hit and miss.

 

You seem to understand them perfectly. I think there’s a clear limit to how enjoyable they are and I don’t think there’s anything that can make them better. That’s the point. Better is a full / real orgasm.

I also think you’ve perfectly summed up why there is little to no sub drop. The brain is still waiting.

Enjoy your dominance and may god have mercy on his soul. *wink*

 

For myself, the anticipation and buildup to it is wonderful but every one is immediately followed with guilt and disappointment. Especially if it's self induced, the lack of self control and lack acceptance of my role in chastity makes any release unenjoyable.

 

I personally still enjoy them. Not as much as a regular orgasm, but pretty close. 80%?

But for years I dated a catholic girl and got quite used to doing the "pull out" every time. Which is a pretty similar sensation.

 

I have never enjoyed a ruined orgasm.
It's like urinating, I don't feel the pleasure of a full orgasm.

 

I have a love/hate relationship with them. A ruined O always comes before lockup, and my wife warns me midway through the tease that she's going to do it. That alone is a bit terrifying, knowing what I'm in for.
They are definitely unsatisfying, leaving me with an incomplete feeling that I don't enjoy. However, the cruelty of my wife doing it to me and the humiliation of not being able to do anything about it — I can't keep myself from going over the edge, but I'm always bound so I can't apply any pressure myself — is a massive turn on (of course humiliation from mean girls is one of my top fetishes).

 

My Lady likes to give me ruined orgasms most of the time, if I'm lucky enough to get any orgasm at all.

I both love and hate them - love because I enjoy her asserting her dominance, and hate because after several weeks of tease and denial, my body is craving a pleasurable release.

I wrote this blog post a long time ago about prostate massage and how to vary the amount of pleasure the subject experiences:

http://srbdsm.blogspot.com/2013/01/different-male-milking-techniques-for.html

The basic principles are the same for ruined orgasms - if you can reduce stimulation at the right time and make the ejaculate dribble out with no orgasmic contractions, then you've achieved the most frustrating ruined orgasm possible, and it will do nothing for the male except drain the fluids from him.

How does my Lady make ruined orgasms more pleasurable? - we find that a discipline session beforehand, either OTK with a paddle, or me bent over accepting a riding crop makes it more of an occasion for both of us.

 

They suck. Plain and simple. It is an action without the pleasure (compared to a regular O vs edging). Imagine your body tensed up and shuddered like you were having an orgasm without any orgasm feeling. The only reason people accept them as tolerable is because the lead up to it is at least pleasurable and in the absence of pleasure, well anything is better...

 

So right now I am damn near begging for a ruined just to have some relief. I also have a love hate with them. I certainly have a sub drop once I have a full orgasm, which means that I am not serving my wife to my fullest for a few days. This, isnt how it should be since she just provided for me. Ultimately it is her decision, but no they are not "enjoyable" but to clean him out and keep him where he belongs it certainly is appropriate and a great tool.
To sum it up its one of the most frustrating things I have experienced.

 

If there's any enjoyment, it didn't meet my definition of a ruined orgasm. A dribble of a fluid that isn't quite ejaculate, no contractions, no refractory period, if anything urgency increases over the short term. No relief of libido, just a diminished pressure from the release of built-up fluids. A close relative to a prostate milking, which is much easier to reliably achieve. A ruin is a real tightrope walk, almost always a collaborative effort.

 

this is spot on! I feel nothing just the fluid moving in my body, no pleasure or release.

 

Yes I like a ruined orgasm. The sensation of no sensation, just a release of fluid, is powerful

 

No

 

@MsPamela if you think your sub is deriving too much pleasure from your ruined orgasm, if you want to try and keep it as utilitarian as possible, when he is cumming (and since your hands are free) give his balls a decently hard tap and by the time that pain subsides in 30 seconds the ruined orgasm will be over, he’ll be drained, but he won’t feel a hint of pleasure.

If you do it right, he’ll soon come to fear the ruined orgasms because he will associate them with a bit of pain. He probably would be willing to skip and forego them eventually and then you’ve really won

 

This had been a thing with my first girlfriend, but trying to achieve some kind of ruined orgasm the way you describemight not be that easy as it woukd seem.

If you would calll it spurting I would say that it still feels quite close to a regular orgasm. What you want to achieve is some kind of pouring out in as shallow waves as possible. To achieve that you would actually need the help of your sub as the timing for it is not that easy to achieve.
You can see that it is no easy goal to reach when you watch some videos in the internet. Almost every one I saw about this just faked the effect by putting some sort of pressure against the urethra during the orgasm.
What really might help to achieve the desired effect though is a hard flick with your finger against his glans right after you remove your hand.

As for beeing enjoyable ? Not really - I would ather describe it as a kind of small reset-button for sexual arousal and neediness.
However my wife has put quite some effort into increasing my desire for some other kind of milking and succeded with it for sure.

 

That is literally the exact opposite of her question...

 

My bad

 

Is the question: "How do you make a ruined orgasm enjoyable without making them pleasurable?" The only thing I could think of that would do both is to allow your sub to give you and orgasm simultaneous to his ruined orgasm. That would be incredibly hard to accomplish.... I assume he would be spurting under those circumstances and that would hardly be a true "ruined orgasm".

 

I have said it before- It is called a ruined orgasm for a reason. It's like medium rare chicken- no matter how you slice it, it is not a good thing...

 

not applicable here!

 

when i'm ruined she uses the squeeze technique and stops my cum leaving my cock, i find this the "worst" kind of ruined orgasm, she finds it very powerful that she's got me erect, got me to the point of no return, then squeezed my cock tight till i go flaccid ,and the cum has gone back where it came from, sometimes there is a little leaking but no sensation at this point for me.

 

No, I do not enjoy it but feel it is necessary to maintain my sanity.
Even after a ruined O, the stiffness persists, which makes it worse but great at the same time! Highs and lows make it exciting.

 

I have to admit I enjoy every type of attention my keyholder applies to me, and that includes ruined orgasms, as well as edging with no orgasm at all. For me, it's all become "sex" really, and I enjoy it all. If he's like me, the best way to make anything chastity related more enjoyable is to be comfortable and assertive in your keyholder role. Tell him something like he's getting a ruined orgasms because that's what you want him to have, or tease him all along by saying you haven't decided if it's going to be ruined or not, and let him find out at the end. Maybe even try telling him you're NOT going to ruin it, then at the last moment say you've changed your mind... It's probably more mental than physical.

But, most of the ruined orgasms I get are caged, and there is an unpleasant sensation afterwards. I think because the cage compresses everything during an attempted erection, the plumbing is probably a little squeezed, and it feels like I don't get all the cum out, that there's some still stuck inside the shaft, and that's an uncomfortable feeling.

 

You impress me.