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    #101 Joroincharge, Jul 26, 2015
    I'd not decided. But in general terms I think it's not a good thing for only the sub and not the Domme/KH to be a member of sites like this. You're not the only one.

    There are also quite a number of 'pretend' lockees who aren't actually ;ocked at all and are just acting out a fantasy.
     
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    #102 Kontraband, Jul 26, 2015
    Yes so I've heard; shame about the fantasists. But if I say I'm locked then I am. So is it just for verification you think the Domme/KH should be a member of this site? Or are there other reasons?
     
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    #103 Joroincharge, Jul 26, 2015
    Yes there are. The main one being that a situation where a subbie where a sub is substantially more aware of and active in sites like this is prone to and/or indicative of a "topping from the bottom" type arrangement which can blur the roles. It can cause problems. This is especially the case where the sub switches. I noticed a while ago that you thought you had found a Dominant third to whom both you and your gf were to be subs, but it fell through. It fits the pattern.
     
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    #104 Kontraband, Jul 26, 2015
    I never had a dominant third for both my girlfirend and myself. I did have an arrangement with a dominant last Summer but she disappeared without a trace just after things got going. Now I have a friend as a keyholder whose role is more to help me get the most out of being locked up. I may be a bit bratty on occasion (which is just who I am rather than because I'm a switch) but I don't try to top from the bottom.
     
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    #105 Joroincharge, Jul 26, 2015
    It was the arrangement which disappeared to which I was referring. And brattiness can be cured.
     
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    #106 Kontraband, Jul 26, 2015
    Yes that was unfortunate but she just disappeared off the internet. Anyway I've got a three week lockup to enjoy now and see what happens after that. (And I will enjoy knowing that I'm making 2 other boys spend some real time in chastity and not just a week.)
     
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    #107 Joroincharge, Jul 26, 2015
    Good start.
     
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    #108 Kontraband, Jul 26, 2015
    Given the longest I've done so far is 4 weeks its a little more than just a start. I'm not exactly at the point of 24/7/365 as your profile suggest I should be.
     
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    #109 Joroincharge, Jul 27, 2015
    There's time yet.
     
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    #110 Kontraband, Jul 27, 2015
    Oh I'm curious to try it for a year with a keyholder that I lived with but that doesn't look likely at the moment.
     
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    #111 Joroincharge, Jul 27, 2015
    Is this someone other than your current KH?
     
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    #112 Kontraband, Jul 27, 2015
    No just something I'd like to try in the future. No one in particular in mind.
     
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    #113 Joroincharge, Jul 27, 2015
    Ah. From post I'd thought it was someone specific. Still, nice idea.
     
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    #114 Kontraband, Jul 27, 2015
    No that idea is unfortunately just a fantasy for now. Maybe a reality one day to do a year without orgasm but not now.
     
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    #115 Joroincharge, Jul 27, 2015
    Ah. But who knows? Sometimes fantasies can become real What's the arrangement with your current KH?
     
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    #116 Kontraband, Jul 27, 2015
    It's long distance. We agreed a time frame of at least three weeks and release at her discretion after that. The main point is to try and help me be more productive ie exercise, work and get in more job applications. She has the option to instruct me to put on the KTB if needed. She occasionally likes to tease about having orgasms for herself. The other thing is I'm allowed out to see my girlfriend, but obviously no cumming, my KH and GF being best friends.
     
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    #117 Joroincharge, Jul 27, 2015
    Good for starters, especially if even after three weeks it's her discretion. But letting you out to see GF is not good idea IMO
     
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    #118 Kontraband, Jul 27, 2015
    Well everyone has their ways of doing things. My girlfriend isn't so into chastity but she wants me to be able to explore it for myself because I like it. She's never liked receiving oral because she doesn't like being the focus of attention like that, its very annoying personally because I love giving oral but there you go.
     
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    #119 Joroincharge, Jul 27, 2015
    Yes I see that. But still better if KH and KH alone could release and would be able to enforce it. Especially being long-distance. But just for a 3 wk period, best maybe just to see how it goes. I don't see how your gf not wanting oral matters. Unless she does want PIV which could be a problem.
     
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    #120 Kontraband, Jul 27, 2015
    That is exactly the point Joro; she loves PIV and oral isn't her thing.
     
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    #121 Joroincharge, Jul 27, 2015
    Ah.Then this could be a big problem as you need a solution which will meet her needs without getting PIV from you.
     
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    #122 Kontraband, Jul 27, 2015
    Well this is how we are doing things; please remember she is a submissive. Cuckolding is absolutely out of the question it holds no appeal to either of us and she isn't comfortable with the idea of making me use a strapon on her (again she is submissive).
     
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    #123 Joroincharge, Jul 27, 2015
    In which case it WILL be a problem because where you each need to be is not compatible with the other. The dynamic is wrong.
     
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    #124 Kontraband, Jul 27, 2015
    I am aware of that Joro we're more compatible in our kink when I am the dominant but I like to experience both sides.
     
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    #125 Joroincharge, Jul 27, 2015
    I still don't see it resolving unless on the basis that she goes without PIV sex with you. If you're dominant with her then that surely has to be the basis, and is what your KH needs to require of you.
     
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