Seattle BBW Domme as a new Key Holder

Seeking mild-tempered man local to the Puget Sound area in Seattle, Washington, ideally with his own properly fitting device, for tease & denial, BDSM and sexual play, and to provide domestic, public, and physical service.

While I’ve had some tease and denial experience before, I’ve never played or been in a relationship with a man who wore a chastity device and would like to do so. I imagine that there were be a fair amount of amusement in watching him become aroused before having that arousal get suddenly stopped for him.

Quickly:

• Clothing: outside of standard street wear, I’m willing to consider men who wear lacy or sheer panties, who dress sharply in the modern dandy styles, or who “gender bend” a bit in styles influenced by 80’s musical artists or the current goth scene.

• Distance: Although I’d prefer a man in the Seattle Metro area, I am willing to consider men who are up to two hours away so long as they’re willing to drive over regularly.

• Online: in addition to meeting in person at least twice a month - preferably weekly, if not more; I expect some form of regular contact by messenger, smartphone, or email.

• Age: Ideally within 7 years of my own age, so between 44 and 58. However, I am willing to make slight exceptions for exceptional candidates.

• More detail: to be addressed in direct message (email here) or during initial coffee dates.

If you qualify, please feel free to contact me directly.

 

Oh, hai!

 

I remain pouty that I didn't get my first chastity relationship for my recent birthday. *harrumph*

 

Yeah, if you don't have any account on that website you're not going to be able to read it.

 

odd. Someone quoted it and posted a reply in the thread last month, and I haven't changed any permissions. Then again, the person who commented is a key holder. I wonder if that has something to do with it?

 

Aha! That's where the key holder journals are there.

 

Great news: I may've found a snugglybunny!

Bad news: he's not interested in chastity.

Good news: but he is interested in tease, denial and edging!

squee!

 

Heh. Thanks!

It’s a pricy hobby so I don’t have any devices just sitting around. However, I was planning to take him to a local specialty shop - Doghouse Leathers - to see what cocking possibilities there are for men with “high and tight” balls.

Then I remembered a brand called OxBalls, looked at their website, and found that they’d expanded into silicone chastity devices. They don’t lock, but as long as I avoid the ones automatically sized huge I might’ve solved that problem.

I think the cockring is the more pressing item, though.

 

Aaaand that ended quickly.

However, I may still get that OxBalls "chastity device" as a potential temporary measure.

 

Thanks.

I will say, while it wasn’t the worst relationship experience of my life, it was the most surreal.

Maybe the people who were warning about the eclipse and Mercury Retrograde were on to something.

 

A shocking number of toxic behaviors from past relationships happened in an incredibly short period of time. It was like a worst hits collection.

I tried to be proactive and address each one as they came up. I felt like I was being trained in wax-on / wax-off by Mr. Miagi. Then the stonewalling started and the resolution process stopped and … we were done.

I was live-blogging this to my bestie and it was getting to the point where I was giving the behaviors nicknames.

“Ah, now he’s tone policing me about how I react to him injuring me. This is feeling like Brad with notes of Henry.”

“Apparently I can’t negotiate with him ahead of time in writing, because he won’t absorb it. If I explain in person ahead of time, I’m talking down to him. If I try to explain through gritted teeth right after he’s hurt me, he gets the feeling I’m disappointed in him. So he won’t learn anything at all, ala Larry.”

“And he’s pulled a Herbert and is talking about ME breaking it off rather than saying that HE wants out.”

“We’re back to the Philip Stonewalling Special.”

And there was more. In such a short period of time, too. So, yeah. Surreal is my best description of it.