The Emperor's New Clothes?

I find it peculiar that you will deny me my own limits. I simply must misnderundstand you somehow? Because that should be my privilege - to have my own limits, should it not? I do not try to decide what limits other people may or may not have. I simply react based on my limits. I do it with words an opinions, and not with brute force etc. I think I should be allowed to speak up , based on my beliefs, don't you think. I would never even think of trying to deprive you that privilege.

 

I do to - to some extend - but I am off to a concert. I will reply later . We are not yet complete in sync;-). Maybe we should consider to move this discussion to PM's at one point..

Have a pleasant evening

 

Hey, - it was all in all a rather tough day on CM, - Yesterday, But Somehow I asked for it myself, so...
Let me just say, that I think that I can from time to time be really really hard to flag opinions that are not in sync with the general consensus , that over time embraces even a forum like CM....

Having said that I think everybody behaved- well - maybe from different "cultural" backgrounds, - but never the less - behaved civilized - and I thank You all for that

Not more Lucy talk in this, thread. That has been sorted out elegantly. My concerns has been taken care of;-)

However this thread took some turns, and especially @Wendygirl, not to mention @yourpuppymiss and others - participated, and sometimes I really had difficulties, trying to joggle and reply, - and I took considerable time out of my workday to handle this. But well, that is life , sometimes. I don't complain
Having to struggle with my limited English vocabulary however makes it more demanding - I guess you can all imagine that....

To make my day a little more efficient - in terms of handling my assignments in my studio today, I would so much like to wrap up my saying on these twists and turns this thread took yesterday ( feel free to comment - of course!!)

1. I did not intend to impose my kink-codex onto anybody else. I expressed MY VIEWS, and my concern - out of care.

2. The raison d'être of a forum is indeed to ventilate different views, coming from different backgrounds and "cultures", to enlighten debates, inquiries and such. Of course we all advocate when we speak out, whether we like it or not. That is inherent, unavoidable and excusable, don't you think?
And one more thing to say about the nature of a forum: It is not just a billboard, where you post events and such. It is supposed to be an organism, that evolves, matures, and addresses the various postings in an enlightening fashion....

3. So when I ventilated my concerns yesterday, and addressing my limits, - announcing that kinks where not sacred I find no evidence in my postings that I was trying to impose my views on others, I was ventilating my concerns.
To speak out does not mean that I hold the eternal truth in my hands, but It shows that I care, that I have a free will to stand by my beliefs, and that my beliefs are important to me.

4. To speak out my concerns and views does not imply that I find no room for other opinions. I'm not an ignorant, nor am I - hopefully - a fool or a tyrant... I find it a bit alarming if the very fast that you speak out your opinion , immediately is labeled: "He is trying to define what is wrong and right for us!" In that texture all fruitful debate will die....... and that is indeed ignorance, not to mention tyranny.....

5. Some suggested that I might have a thing or two against male wanting to dress up in female clothing, that the whole scene of feminization to some degree was repulsive to me. Dead Wrong. I can easily understand urges and desires to present yourself as another sex. I can understand the turn on be feeling lingerie on your skin....
Makes perfectly sense. I even in an earlier post , stated that I find humans goings this extra miles in pursuit of their inner desires and feelings are more brave than the rest of us.
Only testerday morning I saluted a well know sissymaid in here with her new outfit the she/he posted in the gallery, @CorsetJane - and stated that when dresses comes in such beauty, I could easily understand why he desperately wanted his wife to embrace his choice of lifestyle. So please back off, with that, thank you all. That is not where I was coming from...

6. And to wrap it up - for now : When I stated that BDSM-play indeed was no alien to me, I would like to make it clear that I actually did leave too much blood in my pants - that it was getting too extreme, and that I found a way out, a way to share my sexlife, my kinks with my wife,- through chastity. And what a brilliant choice, a wonderful replacement of my lonely extreme pain slut kinks! I now have the most wonderful ride with my wife, and I love every second of it - and I do not miss out on the BDSM in my life.

So for the last year there has been no blood on the carpet or in my pants! Lol...
An no semen either. The very small amounts I have been allowed to release, I have all been told to lick up again....


Have a great day!

 

OK , - beware of my Danish humor, but to pick up from your explanation of the British culture one could sometimes be tempted to label your typical british conduct in here as "Sweet Nothing"....... Lol....
Your may of course feel free to label the Danish approach in return;-)

Have a great day!

 

Well @subklik , to be honest - I do regret this thread myself. It was not my intention to offend anybody, nor was it was it to condemn this particularly kink, it was a - so it presented itself - as a rather poor attempt of showing my initial concern.
If I only had started out by asking @philfred and MistressDeborah in more layed back terms of the mask, showing some interest instead of boiled over concern, it would have been another story, right?
I don't know what came over me that early morning, - but I have to say that the origin of my efforts was concern. And only concern.
A concerned that turned out to be rather misplaced. Sorry All.




Sincerly

 

Absolutely cool.-) - and thanks @subklik and @Wendygirl.
About going back to our kinks - She has ordered me to wear this device from time to time, now that I am well trained in never to touch her cock myself. She likes to be able to tease her cock whenever she feels like it, and with the tube from Steeelworxx she can only get to squeeze the balls...

I could do without the padlock - I love the integrated locks, - but we shall see. Due to the urethal insertion it is not a device for extended 24/7 play...
But for now her cock is so much more exposed...