Wife asked me to lock up again

first rule and I know its hard not to is to not go on about it all the time to her unless she asks about it. when she does ask tell her how much it makes you think about and crave her etc etc, how you love the feeling of being locked up better than having orgasms etc etc you get the idea but take it slowly. Then you can have a discussion at some point and tell her you want to try for longer.

 

I know it's fun and erotic for her to lock you, but do you need that. Can't you lock yourself up, then give her the key and ask her to keep it safe?

 

Well that sounds promising!

 

I agree, don't bug her to be locked up and one of these times you may find yourself locked up longer than you expected. She may really enjoy having total control

 

Man this has been careful what you wish for "written" all over it

 

My wife is not keen to be involved in the fitting process. She just tells me "get your cage on" and she expects that I will secure myself. To make it simple for her, we use a safe with a slot in the top so I can secure the keys myself. She does not need to do anything until she wants to let me out.

 

So, you stated that you are locked and you believe she hid the keys? Is that still the case? If so, dont look for the keys. Just stay locked until she reveals the key. See how long that goes. After she does come out with they key maybe suggest you keep it on. I dunno. Every situation is different. I do wish you luck though.

 

Well, that is more than positive. I hope she keeps you locked up. As it seems she is learning - it is more than beneficial for her. My wife enjoys it. Day 77 for me now. This is the longest I have gone so far. No end in sight for me. Best of luck on your journey.

 

oh, yes. Careful what you wish for. Being locked up for a long time comes with a lot of challenges. Trust me... I know

 

Sounds to me like you are doing fine. Just keep it going. As I am sure you have found out - being is chastity is so rewarding. Mostly to her. But rewarding none the less. I love being denied my own pleasure. I hope you come to the same conclusion.

 

People naturally gravitate toward doing things they like and avoiding things they don't like. If you desire something from her she isn't doing, you can either somehow leverage your relationship to "force" her to do it out of sacrificial love. Or you can figure out how to make it an enjoyable experience for her. If she finds it pleasurable for herself, she will naturally do it more often.

 

Sounds like you just might find out her real feelings on your participation in sex.

With us, when the guilt disappeared, and she truly accepted that I only wanted her pleasure to matter, staying locked became the norm and not the exception.

Although she enjoyed being intimate with me in that way, it had nothing to do with sexual pleasure. She still unlocks me, but it’s not for her sexual gratification, it’s because she wants to see and feel me have it. For the most part, she prefers I stay her needy pampering partner until the desire to see me like that outweighs the benefits.

 

And herein lies the "mind fuck"

 

This sounds very similar to how my wife is progressing.
I can't believe how keen she seems to be about it.
Maybe if she hides the key, you find it and then hide it somewhere nearby. After some time, she may look for it and think she has lost it. This will give you more time locked yet show her how happy you are with extended denial.
I locked and then hid the key yesterday. Gave her lots of clues to find it. She now likes the process of unlocking and locking up our penis.

 

This is very similar to our journey too.
From there the periods of denial became longer and longer. It also became the basis for exploring intimacy in other ways as well.

 

Great to hear. My wife and I are going through a similar stage, she’s just kept me locked for a week, unlocked me on Friday and we had sex where I spurted in her in about 40 seconds, had gone quiet on it since then but today out of the blue she said it’s getting close to lock up time again, so I definitely agree with all the advice on taking it slow, letting her know how appreciative you are and showing the benefits for her (nicer, more affectionate, more chores, etc), having open communication and definitely not going on about it all the time but letting it go at her pace.

good luck

 

I'm lucky that my Wife will lock the main key in an acrylic cube with a padlock I don't know the combo to. But maybe our backup solution would work for you. Buy a lockable key box like the acrylic one I mentioned and some numbered plastic padlocks. Then all you have to do is ask her to keep a picture or note of the number with her, like stored in her phone somewhere. When (if) she does want you out sometime, you can prove to her you've been locked by comparing the current number to the one on her phone.

Hiding the key (well) is pretty good, too.