Brought up chastity again, conversation ended in tears...need advice

I have went to a baseball game, thru the detectors and not a beep. Also went to a club with detector and nothing, and recently went to the courthouse and not a blip.

Yes it's made of real steel. Worn mine almost nonstop for 9 months, active job, no issues.

 

This has been a really interesting read. I'm so glad that you managed to have a conversation after the initial poor reaction with a much better result.

My Wife was one of those who didn't mind their husband masturbating but she is super happy now that I don't. Like others have said she is now my sole source of sexual excitement and this has increased her own sexual confidence enormously. Even after 26 years of being married she feels like I am much more interested in her and this has strengthened our relationship.

Elle recently told me she now understands why I masturbated. She never realized how much I needed to. She can go without sex for long periods without any problem but she has now pushed my denial limits beyond anything we have ever done before and seen how it affects me. After four months I am putty in her hands and she loves it. I have only masturbated once in a year and that was while she watched (and she got turned on by watching me) and I was looking directly into her eyes as I did it. This means she has a better understanding of the sacrifice I have made and the effort this chastity thing takes. It makes her enjoy it even more.

I was going to say how masturbating is a completely natural male activity but the use of porn and the frequency are the issues, but that discussion seems irrelevant now.

Good luck with getting started. I hope things go well.

 

My experience as a "grower" and not a "shower" with the Birdlocked was not successful. Once my penis starts to turtle the thing would pop off in a jiffy. My balls are somewhat capable of being squished to a very thin size, and that also helped escape quite a bit. Being a stretchy person is not very conducive to male chastity I am afraid, especially for the Birdlocked. It was a shame, because my wife liked the way it looks, but she has come to accept the "serious" look of metal entrapping me.

Glad to see good progress in your situation and I hope your wife will soon enjoy the benefits of holding the key without guilt.