We're not new to FLR- we're 6 years in and I know for a fact that we 100% function better this way. But sucky real life sometimes gets in the way. After a six month kink drought caused by a mixture of chastity related health issues and a crazy busy vanilla life, I'm delighted to have subby hubby locked up safe and sound again, as from New Years Eve, (or Hogmanay to us Scots). After a few false starts over the past few months, we sat down and talked.... really talked. New year, new Vice cage, new attitudes all round. His pledge- to be more committed to it being truly about me, my needs and my wants. My pledge - not to 'lock and leave' him. He's currently looking a little like he might regret his decision after an unlock, tease, deny, tease, deny, tease, deny, clean, calm down (with ice), lock and sent on his merry way with a plug in his cute little ass. You function best this way sweetie, better get used to it. Looking forward to what the next weeks and months will bring.
awesome @MistressLolo; it is a very difficult path for both but it is worths the efforts it requires!
What a nice resolution. I hope the best for you two in your renewed journey. I also like how it seems based on better communication. Thanks for sharing.
I know exactly what you mean @MistressLolo. We too, go through the ups and downs of kink/chastity play. Vanilla life often gets in the way of "having fun". However, I think we've settled into a similar situation as you. This year we promise to make more time for ourselves. I'm so much better off kept locked 24/7, and in turn so is my Wife/Mistress.
Gaelic consistently refers to the New Year's Eve as Oidhche na Bliadhn(a) Ùir(e) ("the Night of the New Year") I was brought up by very Scotish Grandfather and my mum. This is what my grandfather referred to it as.
We too have decided that 2020 is the year for us in the bedroom, so far so good. She loves the dynamic but still cant quite get her head around it. We have played on and off for 3 years now, more off than on. I cant wait for the day she relishes in it but what i have learnt is its only fun if she gets off on it. Happy New year and good luck.
Excellent way to handle your subby hubby! I'm sure some of us do worry that our wife would " lock and leave". But also sure many of us are turned on by your tease/deny/re lock/butt plug husband management. I think you should allow him the occasional O though. But hey...that's just me.
One of the things that made it hard on our relationship was knowing the keys were in the home. Knowing the keys were within reach I would beg more often. Keep the keys in your desk drawer at work for a few days, week whatever you choose. I know when I'm in this situation knowing the keys are not in the home I give up the thought of my pleasure and tend to focus on her.
Very nice.. I especially like the idea of not doing the "lock and leave"... that becomes very difficult in the long run if left alone for too long.. at least some teasing, etc.. to keep the fire burning.
What a great resolution. I appreciate your desire for having a locked husband but also realizing the "not lock and leave" issue that can be created. I am fully supportive of the locked person having to realize this isnt supposed to be a submissive centered activity, and is actually centered on trust that each partner builds with one another. It sounds like you are on a great path to success
Awesome and I wish you both the best. IF you don't mind me asking, what was the chastity related health issue?