I'm recently back in chastity after about a 6 month hiatus, quite out of the blue. My wife was 100% vanilla when we started dating a few years ago. We'd been friends for 12 years, but I was married to someone else (mostly happily, just theist 4 years were hell). I introduced her to FLR and chastity fairly quickly when we started dating, mainly as the attraction between us was very strong, and I could tell it was going to be something "big"... so best spill the submissive beans sooner rather than later...
We went quite full on fairly quickly. I was always locked, although regularly let out for fun. We drew up an contract. We read guide books. We watched Femdom porn (Dana Specht, and it made her wet as hell). She took to discipline and the paddle like a pro.
Then she stopped. I got a WhatsApp saying that it was all making her anxiety flare-up and she wanted to cool it down. I agreed immediately, having always said I would rather have her and some kinky role-play occasionally than not have her at all. These days despite my early declaration of wanting a FLR, I'd happily stay married to her without any kink whatsoever. She's wonderful.
But here's the thing. The FLR never completely went away. When we were going full guns, one ritual/job we agreed on was that I would hand wash her knickers, and iron them and fold them neatly back in to her drawer. She would leave her used knicks in leather washrag that I keep in my bathroom drawer under the sink.
So everything else stopped. But the knickers continued. And I continued to hand wash and iron them dutifully. Even to the point that she joined me on a business trip for a full week, and despite is both using the hotel laundry service... I discovered 6 pairs of knickers in my leather washbag back at home on our return.
At one stage I accidentally had four pairs waiting to be washed or ironed... she'd set a rule of 3 maximum. She still pulled me up on this (despite NOT being all FLR and stuff at the time) and I got the paddle on the bare (hard!) over her knee. But still we didn't return to full FLR.
So, I was wondering what baseline jobs/rituals do others have that tend to endure despite how hot or cold an FLR is blowing at any time?
Interestingly, our return now to a more formal FLR set-up came out of the blue. She simply declared one morning while we were fooling around that I was going to be locked up again afterwards. She simply smiled and said "I'm back".
We went quite full on fairly quickly. I was always locked, although regularly let out for fun. We drew up an contract. We read guide books. We watched Femdom porn (Dana Specht, and it made her wet as hell). She took to discipline and the paddle like a pro.
Then she stopped. I got a WhatsApp saying that it was all making her anxiety flare-up and she wanted to cool it down. I agreed immediately, having always said I would rather have her and some kinky role-play occasionally than not have her at all. These days despite my early declaration of wanting a FLR, I'd happily stay married to her without any kink whatsoever. She's wonderful.
But here's the thing. The FLR never completely went away. When we were going full guns, one ritual/job we agreed on was that I would hand wash her knickers, and iron them and fold them neatly back in to her drawer. She would leave her used knicks in leather washrag that I keep in my bathroom drawer under the sink.
So everything else stopped. But the knickers continued. And I continued to hand wash and iron them dutifully. Even to the point that she joined me on a business trip for a full week, and despite is both using the hotel laundry service... I discovered 6 pairs of knickers in my leather washbag back at home on our return.
At one stage I accidentally had four pairs waiting to be washed or ironed... she'd set a rule of 3 maximum. She still pulled me up on this (despite NOT being all FLR and stuff at the time) and I got the paddle on the bare (hard!) over her knee. But still we didn't return to full FLR.
So, I was wondering what baseline jobs/rituals do others have that tend to endure despite how hot or cold an FLR is blowing at any time?
Interestingly, our return now to a more formal FLR set-up came out of the blue. She simply declared one morning while we were fooling around that I was going to be locked up again afterwards. She simply smiled and said "I'm back".
