As I described in https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/snowbirds.40788/ my wife and I are renting a condo for a couple months to escape the snowy north. We are using this change of environment as an opportunity to experiment with a wife led marriage. Chastity was not one of the objectives we discussed when we set things up. She is aware that I masturbate regularly, but has never been concerned about that. A few times since we have been here, she has asked to be orally serviced and then given me permission to "take care of myself" after she came. Today, as she left to go out with a friend for a few hours, she told me I have permission to jack off while she is gone. I wasn't sure whether to interpret this as a signal that I now need permission. Anyway, I decided to take her up on her offer. First, I sat down with our computer to get a little inspiration. I realized that I had forgotten to use the private feature on the browser, so I went to the history to clean up a bit. There was an entry in the history about taking control of a husbands masturbation. I clicked on it. Apparently, my wife has been reading a blog about husband training. The author of this blog advocates giving a husband frequent permission when first taking control as a way to reduce a man's resistance to giving up control. She says men don't mind only doing it when they are told if they are told to often. Then, the author says the wife can gradually reduce the frequency to whatever level she wants. She says a wife should not hesitate to use mechanical assistance if necessary. Is this a common approach? Have others gone about it this way?
That is an excellent example of classical conditioning. I feel it will be very effective. If she's doing that sort of research on her own, I'd count your blessings and let her take charge.
I haven’t heard of that technique but it doesn’t sound like bad advice to me. If you’re trying for an FLR and she wants to implement chastity into your relationship I think this would be a good way to approach it. It’s fun when your wife orders you to masturbate and it becomes a bit of a thrill to be told to do naughty things. Now you’re hooked on her telling you when she wants you to do it and willing/expected to wait for her command. When she starts reducing the frequency is when things might get a little more difficult. You’re turned on by the denial (at least I would be) and you’re hooked on her telling you when you can do it. I could see this working whether your wife wants to eventually use a device or the honor system.
It seems like good advice. It would have been better if you didn't know her plan, but I suggest going along with her as far as she wants to go.
if ever there were a reason and subject that needs a thread..... a read from the getgo. I'm all a quiver in anticipation
Years ago I went two years on an honour system before we got a belt we started out having sex three or four nights (and mornings) a week but after a few months 'not masturbating' had become normal so when dates varied or opportunities were missed I could manage not to cheat, and more through circumstances than planning on her part - although she certainly did it for fun on many occasions - the average interval increased to about once a week, but could be three times in a week or nothing for three weeks. The unpredictability gave me hope that my frustration would soon be relieved which took away the urge to cheat, although the belt that took away my ability to cheat was a welcome development.
I think she has plans on locking a cage on her penis. It sounds like great advice n if I were you Id start lookinging into cages that you think youd like n would fit. Might as well get ahead of the game. Make it a game n leave your sites up for her to see. Also maybe dont masturbate n tell her you didnt that you'd like for her to be there to control it. Really mind trip her!
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As said, it sounds like a method of conditioning. Congrats that she's looking for ways to take the relationship lead. You're very fortunate. Please don't blow this by trying to push things. Follow her lead. Own up when you screw up, and enjoy the ride. Too many guy top from the bottom and push women away from interest. So let her go at her own speed and you'll have things beyond your wildest fantasies.
a frog is put suddenly into boiling water, it will jump out, but if the frog is put in tepid water which is then brought to a boil slowly, it will not perceive what is happening..
Hi Astro, any links to the article she was reading? I think you ought to keep quiet and see where she goes with this...exciting
Classic conditioning. You are very lucky that she has decided to look into this herself. I too am interested in this blog.
It does sound like what happened to us, though I suspect it was because Xena discovered she could push the lockup time without consequences.
Sorry, I can't seem to find it now. I guess I am not the only one in the family that cleans up the browsing history periodically. She probably has a link somewhere, but I don't want to ask now since she doesn't know I saw it. Once this comes out in the open, I will ask her.
I think this is a very effective and subtle way to gradually gain control. It is a shame in a way that you discovered what her plan is and I would advise never to tell her that you became aware of her plans, as it would probably spoil the fun for her. I don't think it matters that you know, as it seems to be what you want anyway, so it's unlikely that you'll put up too much resistance. You are a really lucky guy to be with a woman who clearly wants to take control. Enjoy your slide into obedient oblivion !!
Works for children. Alright, you can pick whatever vegetable you want for dinner. Pick any 5 pieces of Halloween candy. Want to take a bath or a shower. Giving people choices but limiting the parameters is right up there with reverse psychology. Pretty soon she will tell you how fun painting the fence is, and if you’re good she’ll let you do it. The good news is that she is actively taking control of your submission, and it will work if you are willing to trust her.
A useful element critical in determining this theory's validity would be the personal input of Ms. Astro.