Wife/KH Just Left for Vacation - Help with self control

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    #1 Shellysboytoy, Apr 30, 2022
    My Wife/KH just left for a 10 day girls trip to the Caribbean. We've been on a chastity journey for only three weeks. She left me three plastic disposable locks with the following conditions:

    1) I have to use them
    2) I can only be out for 10 min at a time
    3) It is only for skin care, shaving and hygiene, and NOT self pleasure

    I just returned from a short business trip and barely had the self control to follow her directions while away. Any tips for preventing arousal when I take the cage off for cleaning? Honestly, I think it would be easier to stay locked her entire trip than be let out un-supervised for three ten minute sessions

    Any thoughts or advise would be greatly appreciated. Very new and feeling a little un easy at the moment.

    -TIA
     
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    #2 maid julie, Apr 30, 2022
    Depending on the style of the cage, maybe you can stay init the whole time
     
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    #3 Disciplined Boyfriend, Apr 30, 2022
    You don't need to use all three of them surely?

    Make a conscious decision on whether to want to to do chastity or cheat. That'll will tell you what you need to do.
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    #4 Shellysboytoy, Apr 30, 2022
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    Kind of intrigued. It is a pretty standard steel cage.

    She was pretty clear that I was to take it off and do thorough hygiene. Do you think this would still be consistent with her orders?

    Thank you
     
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    #5 Shellysboytoy, Apr 30, 2022
    Yeah, pretty explicitly all three. But honestly she's probably right. My cage is a hair too big and I'm getting just enough friction that if I'm not taking care of that skin I'm getting some pretty uncomfortable rashes. I do have a smaller cage that should be delivered on Monday.

    I really like the dichotomy you set up there. I think that's going to help. Thank you.
     
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    #6 Disciplined Boyfriend, Apr 30, 2022
    Good, you know what you need to do.
     
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    #7 Chaz69, May 1, 2022
    Metal cages are good, but so is getting a good fit. You should be able to leave a good fitting metal cage on for as long as necessary as you can clean with it on. That's what I do.
     
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    #8 Xileh, May 1, 2022
    @Chaz69 is correct and you are on the right path. It can take time to toughen up the skin. Have you tried silicon gel? It lasts and can be a real improvement in comfort.
     
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    #9 Shellysboytoy, May 1, 2022
    I've not tried silicon gel. I've used standard petroleum jelly and water based lubricant. The petroleum jelly was definitely a step up from the water-based lubricant.

    A brand recommendations on silicon gel?
     
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    #10 maid julie, May 1, 2022
    I have good luck with EDEN ultra glide. A little goes a longway
     
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    #11 HusbandInTraining, May 1, 2022
    If I were in your situation, I would record a video of each hygiene session, including relocking, and present them to my Goddess when She arrived home. I do this on the rare occasion that I'm unlocked outside of Her presence. It helps mentally to stay in the state of mind as if She were in the room with me.
     
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    #12 Rectrix, May 1, 2022
    Time yourself. Try to go as quickly as possible. Think a out it like running the rain, you dont want to get wet. Your cage is your safe place, get there as soon as you can.
     
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    #13 maid julie, May 1, 2022
    Wash in the shower leave the a ring on then you can switch to cold water real quick if you need to and get back in lol
     
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    #14 bethanise, May 1, 2022
    I don't think you should just leave it on, like some said. Your K/H specifically said She wanted you to take it off for cleaning, and to use all 3 locks. The test is more of your ability to obey orders. I agree with HusbandInTraining. Take a complete video of each time you clean up, from the time you take off the cage until you put it back on. This would show your obedience, and dedication to your K/H. Just my little thoughts.
     
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    #15 Headtrip, May 1, 2022
    If the video is too much take a pic just before and after and send them to her (with permission) w timestamps showing the numbered tags. 10 minutes should keep you pretty busy and focused.
     
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    #16 Cagedandinlove, May 1, 2022
    I think you should leave it on. Try your best and she will be proud that you did not take it off and you can prove it with the other 2 disposable locks. She will more than likely be so proud and pleased you did. She probably thinks it needs to come off every day for cleaning. She will have so much respect and trust from you knowing that you were caged the whole time and did not play with her dick.
     
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    #17 Open2njoy, May 1, 2022
    His KH was specific that he remove it for regular care and cleaning. Leaving it on would go against her instructions. Could be she’s testing his resolve to not play with it while carrying out her instructions. Soap and cold water should make it possible to comply and recage quickly. Leaving the A ring on may also give you a few extra minutes before it becomes too difficult to recage. Do not give into the temptation to edge or masturbate. Somehow she’ll know and you’ll regret it.
     
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    #18 Shellysboytoy, May 1, 2022
    This has been very helpful.

    My strategy:
    1) Decide ahead of time not to cheat
    2) Take a photo before and after
    3) Cold water to wash and move fast (My ring is hinged, so I am going to need to remove it completely).

    Thank you all
     
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    #19 maid julie, May 1, 2022
    Sounds great
     
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    #20 madams-sissysub, May 1, 2022
    this is a great idea!
     
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    #21 John M, May 1, 2022
    Obey KH orders to the letter.
     
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    #22 ballsblue, May 1, 2022

    If I were you, I would send the pictures / video right after the first unlocking so the precedent is established and she will require same on the subsequent two. Once you do, you are committed and no way to back out without her knowing..
     
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    #23 John M, May 1, 2022
    That's the best.always obey your Mistress KH.
     
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    #24 Shellysboytoy, May 1, 2022
    I'll Snapchat her the evidence
     
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    #25 Shellysboytoy, May 2, 2022
    Well, the strategy work. However, I made a few tactical mistakes.

    1) Between the cold water and my rush, I re-attached the ring incorrectly. I didn't realize it until I had used the new plastic lock. Had to cut it off and lose one of my three locks. I am assuming my wife would prefer me to go get an additional lock from her cabinet, document it, and stick to the three hygiene .

    2) More troubling. The pictures I took were automatically backed up to Google Photos and broadcast to the three Nest Hubs in our house. THANKFULLY, my kids are all in bed and I found it before the morning. I do not want to expose my children to this.

    Thank you all for your help
     
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