Additional kinks

Chastity is another form of bondage for a submissive gurl.

 

There are many different types of chastity, none are wrong regardless of what some say, find what works for you and rock on

 

Power exchange is the big picture for me, so a ton things that fall under that umbrella minus degradationand feminization. Denial kink is huge, verbal/physical teasing, hotwife/cuckold is a fantasy/discussion/role play ATM, some anal play though she won't take part except the occasional butt plug, bdsm/bondage- I'll even top her on occasion whether I'm in or out of chastity (really the only time I'll get a bj!).

 

Bondage gurl here. Discipline, punishments. etc.

 

I have always loved being tied up. Even before MC, my Wife (Now KH) would tie me up and play with me. Spanking, light CBT, nipple play and worshipping my Wife are all big turn on for me.

 

Bondage at times. CBT. Whipping (not my favorite but she wants it =). Worshiping her/ servant. Tease and denial

 

Hubby really enjoys being tied up. That predates any of our chastity or orgasm denial play. Over time we've added some foot worship and ass worship, though I'm not really sure if those are actual kinks of his. I think for hubby it's more about submission in general, and those juts happen to be how it manifests.

Pain has never been a big part of it. We've dabbled with some light spanking, etc, but I think it is more about the context and mood than the pain itself.

Pegging was a big surprise. Butt stuff wasn't even on our radar before, and I couldn't have imagined wearing a strap on. But it's surprisingly enjoyable, and I think it's safe to call that a new kink for him (and me).

I'm not sure if this counts as a kink, but I've discovered that hubby really likes it when I have him masturbate in front of me. Perhaps he just misses touching himself since he can't do that on his own any more. But I get the sense there's an extra little charge in it because I'm ordering him to do it, telling him to go faster or slower, and of course eventually telling him to stop. But maybe that just goes back to the whole submission thing.

 

This is why I am conflicted about this sub-forum on CM... There are some things mentioned here that could be considered feminization. Anyway... to answer the question.

I am most interested in any activity where I am at my partner's will for their amusement, pleasure, or to bring humility to me. Currently, my wife seems to enjoy me kissing her below her knees while rubbing her feet, playing with my nipples, and edging me. One thing we haven't done in awhile is messy play with food or body paints, that was always a lot of fun.

 

I get this and I feel the same, I’d love it for my wife to tell me when, how and to cum or not.

 

Are you referring to pegging? If so, then I think hubby has a similar conflict. I believe that in his head, being penetrated is feminine and doing the penetration is masculine. His identity is strongly masculine, and his enjoyment of pegging is perhaps a bit threatening.

I'm far from an expert in any of these labels, but to me it's not really any different from hubby being a good listener or putting a lot of thought into gifts. Those are also traits which tend to be typically associated with women and can probably be lumped under the feminine umbrella. But it's possible for a man to be masculine AND be a good listener. Wanting your spouse to be a better listener isn't "feminizing" them.

From my perspective, I'm quite feminine and I'm attracted to masculine men. I have zero interest in making hubby appear more feminine. I love his beard, I like him wearing boxers, and seeing him wearing his tool belt definitely gets me going (yea, I know, such a ridiculous stereotype). The idea of him wearing women's clothes is a huge turn off for me.

Pegging has turned out to be an incredibly intense and intimate experience. To me, it makes him no less masculine.

However, if pegging is "over the line" for this forum, then I sincerely apologize. I wasn't trying to push boundaries.

 

yeah I mean crossdressing is crossdressing, but feminization can be very subjective.

 

Bondage, humiliation, anal play, rubber/latex, spanking, and the list goes on.

 

Personally I don't think pegging is over the line, and your comment that it doesn't make him less masculine is the kicker for why I think it's fine here.

In my opinion, the best rationale for this sub-forum is that it's a place where women can see that chastity does not mean their masculine, tool-belt wearing husband that they love will turn into a panty-wearing sissy maid sending them off to have affairs with uncaged men. For whatever reason, the men who are into the feminization thing are extremely vocal (I'll hazard a guess their real fetish is exhibitionisms, and even here in this thread on the no-sissification forum there are guys calling themselves 'gurls') and tend to present an extreme picture, and given how hard it can be for a guy to get his wife on board with chastity, it's unfortunate that so much on-line discussion of it focuses on trans-forming him, so to speak.

So the fact that you can say pegging doesn't change your perception of his masculinity is great - it should be a reassuring note for wives that their masculine husbands won't trade their tool belts for frilly aprons just because they locked their cocks up.

 

Agreed!

 

And just for clarity, if someone is into the sissy stuff, I'm not - as they say - judging you. Well, at least not your kink. You enjoy it - that's great, but it's not for everyone, and sometimes we all need a reminder we shouldn't assume everybody else is into the same things we are.

 

And now having said we shouldn't assume everybody else is into the same things we are.... I'll answer the OPs question about my own kinks With the full caveat that nobody else or especially their keyholders need to do these things for chastity!

The idea that I must obey my keyholder and that she might push my limits is the biggest thrill. I've always been a risk-taker, but as I'm getting older, a lot of the physical risk taking is getting a bit more dangerous or impractical. Moving some of that to the bedroom is great as far as I'm concerned. Occasionally getting more than I bargained for but having to endure it is a huge turn-on. Maybe not in the moment, but later and in anticipation of the next round.

As far as specific kinks, my favorites are:
- bondage (she indulges me, but it's a lot of work for her)
- CBT (she's quite happy to do this, and getting more enthusiastic, meaning I'm starting to get that "more than I bargained for....")
- Spanking (she's comfortable doing it, but not yet assertive about it)
- Position/Pose Training (e.g. being ordered into various poses that I have to hold. Just starting to incorporate this into things).

 

All of the above

One of my current priorities I guess is orgasm denial, showing my partner that sex is for her, my orgasms are hers to give or to withhold although admittedly I still get off on getting her off, indeed I could not go without orgasms if I wasn't getting her off. I love having her in my mouth and giving her pleasure.

For the most part it is just chastity and the above but....here goes:

Strap on sex for her with me in the cage aka cock substitution is something probably in my future and a scary turn on, not sure id like that permanently but I am prepared to go down that rabbit hole. My partner is very generous to me, even if she liked our larger dildo better than me, she does like to humiliate me by saying "is it in yet", I doubt she would ban me from her vagina forever (might get slops tho lol).

Pegging I dont see as feminisation, hey it just feels good, my partner would not do it if she saw it that way. Haven't done that for a long time, but never know what is just around the corner. She does like to control what happens int he bedroom, and pegging definitely gives her control and I remember she can become quite aggressive with it which was a turn on for me.

Tease and denial/edge I love, then maybe combine it with some CBT with bands, tho the bands are more for her amusement hence a turn on for me, she likes seeing me flop around when they come off. We have discussed but never done a session of banding where she cuts it off as I am going the edge into orgasm, that would be pretty intense. We also have a pulley in the bed room roof, admittedly yet to be used, but a rope goes through the pulley linked to my wrist, Partner can lay on the bed and watch me stroke then pull on the rope when she wants my hand off it. Lots of games to be had with that eyelet in the roof beam.

Recently been playing with estim using the metal cage as an electrode, Partner likes to zap me with a remote cheap Chinese unit which just hurts in a fun way which we have had for ages but very recently purchased a real tens unit, ultimately she will be able to make me cum with it if she wants too, ill probably end up locking that control unit in the tool box with her wand, so far I have taken myself to were I can see an orgasm, but since I am currently being denied I have not let myself go there, it would take some mental focus, the good thing about Estim the off button really is off lol Thinking of buying a real remote E-stim from e-stim systems so it would give her the ability to force me to cum which I now know is possible, not sure if she wants that or not, but fun to think about.

Something I have never done which I would like to try is to be wrapped in cling wrap, hence be completely restrained then have some CBT via estim or else, or even edging where I have absolutely no control.

Paddle has its place, its not something that I fantasize about because it hurts, but it certainly helps our relationship, id probably prefer it if my partner just decided to do it more regularly, although the other night she spontaniously put me over her lap and took to me with a wooden spoon, thinking about that gives me a twinge just now. Not because I had done anything wrong she just felt like it which was cool.

I could go on

 

Additional kinks outside of feminization/sissification (which is my 4th favorite kink):

Bondage - my first and favorite kink, I consider chastity to be the ultimate form of bondage/submission.

Femdom - second fav kink, I very much lean towards more of a sensual, psychological, bratty, heavy tease and denial, gentle femdom.

Psychological/verbal control/manipulation - Intelligence, humor, playfulness, devilishness, and all other spectrums of mental control are very enticing to me. I love watching femdom OI/POV-style videos.

Pegging - I've only been pegged a few times but I really enjoy it and would love to experience more of it.

Tickling - I really love being touched, grouped, and fondled. I liked tickling before but when I actually had it happen to me, I enjoyed it so much to make me consider it high on my kink list.

Denial - anything from chastity denial, tease and denial, orgasm denial, and porn denial. I consider denial and frustration my greatest pleasure/sin.

 

Bondage and CBT are things that I really like. My wife sometimes prefers vanilla sex but she plays along sometimes. Nipple play/clamps is a big one for me as well.

 

I feel like this is a moving target. For me, at least. Don't really have persistent kinks. Everything can get boring. Whatever is new, interesting, taboo, I guess.

Is that not the typical experience?

 

Lol… I’m not ‘straight edge’ at all. I was into all forms of BDSM as a switch long before I discovered chastity. When I bottom, I love pegging and fisting, plugs, very heavy corporal ( I’ve been caned until my ass was raw and bleeding), all sorts of CBT including ball kicking, electric prods, toilet play and foot worship.

 

BDSM (esp. nipple torture, CBT, impact play, bondage and gagging, wax play)

Anal play (I don't see this as feminization -- *everyone* has an anus! -- but then, I'm nonbinary, so probably not the best judge

Foxing (i.e., reverse pegging: me wearing strap-on while caged)

 

I had a girlfriend nearly 40 years ago who liked me to spank her and tell her what a naughty girl she was…. That was quite horny especially when I helped her after with some cold cream to sooth her sore butt… I found it totally wonderful to accidentally touch her butthole with it and made some ‘pretence’ of having to scoop it out - my first contact with a girlfriends actual butt!! Bliss!!
She seemed to enjoy it but she wouldn’t go anywhere near mine and went cold at the thought of even kissing my cock, let alone giving me a BJ - so that relationship didn’t last long! Wise move actually, she was madder than a box of frogs!
Always loved having my butt played with as my wife knows - I used to have an aneros which a previous girlfriend found too weird! So we split up…. Current wife is way more open… so currently bringing the subject of pegging into the bedroom… been practicing on my own and FINALLY got the purple strapon in - took some time, some pain and a lot of KY, but have finally succeeded… the purple strapon is in my photos and is quite a thing to get into ones butt but I was very proud of myself… now to convince my wife it will fit!! Lol!!

 

I've been into other kinks for much longer than I've been into chastity.

I have a lot of kinks but the main one is domination/submission and they all sort of spin off from that.