Well it's finally happened and after years of on/off trial periods of various styles and dynamics we have found what we seem to both agree is our happy place. I being locked 24/7 has always been the mutual goal for reality, the method and frequency of orgasms took some honing however as did the degree of my level of submissive desires being a reality. After many long conversations on the matter in recent days we have decided to make my orgasms a challenge(ie numbing creams, penis sleeves, multi condoms, limited thrusts etc) but allowed any time I can manage to overcome it. The opportunities are to be solely when my lovely wife would like "traditional" ish sex and not just orgasm via the use of vibrators or oral etc. If I can manage to cum, lucky me. If not, better luck next time wherever that may be. Effectively, my denial is now indefinite but full orgasm is allowed as often if I can when allowed to try and she has expressed strong interest in working towards a fully female led marriage as well which I would love. I am both frightened and beyond excited. Am I just the luckiest man in the world to have such an amazing, beautiful and loving wife or do I need to pinch myself and wake up.
Yeah pretty much what gave her the confidence that this is not just sustainable but better we have done this a few times already prior to her decision(which definitely influenced the decision) and even with numbing cream too if she really wants to make sure. Super fun and super frustrating I love to hate it lol
Revised update, she has had a change of heart in that we will still be using sleeves and creams when she wants to, but that I should be trying not to have an orgasm myself and shed effectively like be to remain indefinitely denied for as long as I can and orgasms will be punished. Guess this is my careful what you wish for moments but I as nervous as I am about possibly not having any more traditional full orgasms I am excited for the opportunity to test my love and devotion to my beautiful wife and do my best to make her wishes a reality.
One of our big successes was her getting serious about her rule that "I must never come without permission", and her realizing it's fun to nearly never allow the orgasm. This is of course true in or out of chastity.