KH is really starting to figure out the benefits.

Congratulations!

 

Hehe. I said this to my wife before and talk of chastity. I guess I was destined for chastity and didn't know it.

Great post.

 

That was a quick turn of events. Congrats to you both for reaching permanent chastity in one night, that would only happen in my wildest fantasies.

 

I'm at that stage bro. She doesn't read up on chastity like I do and telling her what to do with her fingers would feel wweird. So ATM I don't get prostate massage although I might mention it.

 

I asked for chastity and that's what I get. She's on holiday with friends and said I'm a good submissive for sending a lock up video as I need to lock up as soon as I'm in from work. This is all I asked for and she rules it with an iron fist. Everything else is a bonus. It doesn't affect her whether I'm prostate massaged or not. She doesn't care about my male sexual desires it's not her problem.

 

Lovely, i whish you they best!

 

Sounds great and please keep us informed!

My wife and I have had some similar "Chastity start ups" that were exciting and she seemed to really want it. I think in my case it often doesn't last more than a few days due to:
> I get hornier and hornier and have too many ideas about fun things to try.
> she gets distracted when she's extremely sexually satisfied and I can feel abandoned.
> She really likes a penis being available for spontaneous fun.

But recently she really likes some maid play games in chastity, so I'm in and out of chastity quite often, but keeping my in feels like "Something to manage" to her, and she worries it can "go wrong" pretty easily. (Again, likely mostly my fault?)

 

A great post. Considering this, other posts on this site and my own experience I wonder if a doubtful or reluctant keyholder turns into strict and confident one by a mechanism something like this. What do others think?

A loving wife or girlfriend really wants to do what her man wants but, in the chastity context she probably does not understand what he really wants. Surely being locked into a physical restraint to limit his freedom is associated with prisons and horrible things like torture. Obviously she won’t want to do that to him.

Well, the firstly she needs to be assured that the chastity device is at least reasonably comfortable and practical for him to wear.

Next, she needs to know that, for a man, being turned on is not unpleasant, in fact it’s rather nice (well I find it so anyway). Logically he does not want it to stop but instinct, over which he has little control, will drive him to to resolve it through an orgasm somehow. A secure chastity device will prevent him from giving in to the instinct to masturbate and the anxiety associated with trying to resist temptation is removed. Phew.

But he is still turned on. She has the key, quite literally, to the relief he is driven to seek. His instinct now drives him to try to please her in any way he can. That might be a sex act, a massage or a mundane household core. He is forced by instinct to be attentive to anything she wants. He might beg, but he will actually want a "no".

Having her happy makes him happy. She will now perhaps believe that what he really wants is for his instinct to be exploited for the benefit of them both and their relationship. Once she realises that, she will understand that she need feel no guilt about keeping him locked up even if he looks desperate to be unlocked. At this point both realise this is a good thing and there is no going back.

There are a couple of practical points that need to be resolved as well. In order to be resolute about keeping him locked she needs to be confident that she understands when and why his belt really needs to be unlocked and that she can pick up on the difference between instinct driven desperation and real distress.

She also needs to be happy that there are at least reasonable precautions to deal with emergencies and that either there is a reasonably low risk that his chastity will be detected by family and friends, or that it doesn’t matter if it is.