Is a chastity cage a "sex toy"

A sex toy that can become a part of life.

 

If used for a scene only yes, if worn as a lifestyle, no.

 

but then again, Mistress says that i'm Her toy...so that makes me a sex toy, too, right?

 

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For us our first chastity cage was a sex toy used to enhance our sex life. I would put it on an hour before our play time and eventually she would unlock me after she was pleasured. Then slowly it evolved to being put on Friday of the weekend, play various times during the 2 days, and she would remove it on a Sunday for my sexual release. Over time my lock up would start on a Sunday and I would wear it all week and she would tease me several times during the week and then my sexual release on a Sunday and then re-lock after my orgasm.

So we went from my chastity cage from being a toy to becoming a lifestyle.

 

Wouldn’t it be more accurate to call it a “no sex toy”? On a serious note, when we first started it definitely was a sex toy. I’d consider it more of an accessory now, like my watch and wedding ring.

 

Technically a chastity device is a Bondage device. Which clearly falls under the BDSM acronym. While some insist BDSM is a lifestyle, I have determined for me it is a significant part of my sexual identity. I however will not quibble with anyone calling it a sex toy (as long as we can agree that a tongue stud is also). If we go down that road; is a tongue stud a device just for oral sex or is it a fashion statement? Is a collar a Bondage device or just “edgy” (does an attachment ring or padlock affect your decision)? Do all chastity wearers wear a chastity device to experience denial or do they just like the look of the bulge it makes in their Levis?

I for one am tired of being non-consensually exposed to women wearing tongue studs! Actually, I don’t care.

 

It’s more likely related to how aroused or not I am at the time, offset by my energy level and influenced by my attraction level to the tongue stud wearer.

 

Good point. It's still a sex thing but not a "toy" any more

 

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I’m going to have to ask… when did you?

 

In that case I believe our understandings of the word ‘dichotomy’ are dichotomous…

 

Probably mentioned above, but it's an 'anti-sex toy'?

 

Research the origins of the chastity cage and you’ll see the first known devices were not made for the purpose they are used now…

It wasn’t designed as a sex toy, but now it is used as one by some perverts who cannot understand that this can be the purist of lifestyles (I joke.)
But the question is, when does one thing become defined as another?

As a chastity device wasn’t intended to be sold as sexual aids…

Would my wife’s banana become a sex toy if she used it in the wrong manner? Should she hide her bananas from view as she is using them for that purpose?
At what point is her banana no longer fruit, and merely an illicit, obscene object.

How many people have to insert bananas into themselves before I am reduced to ordering one of my favourite items on shady websites and having them delivered in unmarked discreet packaging?

 

Last I checked bananas were also food. Not a specifically designed device to lock onto a specific body part as their sole purpose. Not really a great comparison here.

 

According to Dr Dingwall, the Roman chastity devices, variously known as thecas or fibulae, were intended to "preserve the voice" (!) of the wearer, but might also be imposed on male slaves. Wearing them - whatever exactly they were - to the public baths was apparently entirely normal.

Random quote from the book. ​

Much later on, in the 19th century, they were imposed on young men and the mentally ill as part of the anti-masturbation craze. There's no hint of them being used as toys.

So, a purely technical definition would be "non-surgical body modification".

Like whips and chains and other instruments of oppression and torture, their category depends on their use and the context.

A chastity device can certainly be used as a sex toy, but that doesn't make it a sex toy by definition.

 

I was deliberately being facetious. Maybe I was over-simplifying it for some in the audience (that’s a dig by the way.)

Yet, the point remains valid.
If there was a Tik-Tok craze that encouraged young women to take bananas to school for that purpose… if it became that mainstream that a banana was being used for that purpose… eventually they would be banned as indecent.
Yet, as you say they would still be a food.

If that craze was to attach an aerosol can to a vibrating implement… I don’t know, a phone. It would be frowned upon. Yet, at the heart of it you’d still just have a deodorant and a mobile phone.

They were not designed, developed or grown for that purpose, but eventually you have a sex toy. Doesn’t mean that they are anything more than their original items…

As @Giles_English points out. It’s about context.

If the chastity cage was primarily still used to prevent slaves or mentally ill patients from masturbating, you would not be starting its case as a sex toy.
Just like there is an outcry when someone suggests taking hormones without a prescription to get their rocks off.

 

You will never convince a sane person who doesn't have the intent of deluding themselves it's not a sex toy. Of course the person who identifies as chaste says that. Its specifically made to go on your on dick to stop erections and getting off. Once you hand keys over you're participating in femdom a very specific fetish. There's no two ways around this but by all means lie to yourself to feel better about wearing it.

 

No. You will not be convinced because you have this high level of ignorance that removes your ability think past the obvious.
You bought it to put it on your willy. So you decided it was for sex. So everyone else must agree with you that it’s a “sex toy”.

Yet you argue with the facts of your own arguments.
It is a sex you because it was designed to lock up a dick… was it designed as a sexual aid? No.

It is a sex toy because it can be used in the realms of femdom. Would a riding crop or wooden spoon be deemed as a sex toy to the masses? No. Yet, your logic applies.

The principle of your argument for this, (and that’s what you make almost every thread in which someone disagrees with you), is that it is a “sex toy” because you say it is so.