Do our partners enjoy chastity?

Some psychologists make the distinction between a sexual accelerator and something that merely takes off the brakes.

My wife is mostly in the latter category. She seems to only related to me sexually when I am locked, but mostly, that's a pre-condition for erotic activity rather than a turn-on in its own right.

 

The pole allows mutiple selections, which makes no sense.

I just voted for all of them, to highlight the problem.

 

Our relationship evolved over time into charity and long term denial. Once it clicked with her that keeping control over my cock really turned her on, AND she got over the guilt of saying no, there’s been no turning back. I asked her the other day if she ever thought about “the old days” and if she’d ever want to go back - she said yes she’s thought about it, and while she did miss making me cum, that our relationship now is so much stronger and the denial of me turns her on more than she ever thought it would, and she didn’t want to ever go back to where I was unlocked most of the time.

 

Oh my gOD I forgot to include my story.

I was a student of mathematical probablistic entropic seismic bariometiic variance and she was a burger flipper in the onlty place within 75m of where I masturbated. She knew, as soon as she saw burger sauce dribbled onto my favourite knitted hair shirt that I would be hers, but I wasn't sure.

When she asked me if I wanted another coffee, as she was already pouring, she knew would be soon kneeling at the gate of her immensely tight lady garden, hands on knees salivating with a dry mouth, hers for eternity for the next semester.

Anyway, I don't wish to bore you fakes and interlopers with my sordid tale of mental corruption and violent cheescake mixes, but suffice to say I am hers and she is my.... KEYHOLDER!

 

My Wife (KH) loved it from the minute I showed her a penis cage and she researched Male Chastity. She thought it was a great idea. Loves the attention she now gets from me. Loves having orgasms when ever she wants. Loves denying me of any orgasms.
She has told me many times, that if she would have known about cages and male chastity, I would have had my penis locked a lot sooner...

 

She went from "Not too bothered, but goes along with it." to "Loves it, partner is fully into it."

Now she doesn't allow me to eat her out if I just came out of the shower during the cleaning day and I am still uncaged. Cage goes off only for cleaning.
After 8 weeks I thought she will allow orgasm, but she said 12 weeks will be my minimum duration locked and even after 12 weeks it's not sure I am getting one. I would say she is pretty much on board.

 

At first we had a plastic cage that moved to metal. I have bought two Jailbrids and three Red Shili cages. We have the perfect sissy cage. My wife says she gets bored of me going on about it and I prefer to be locked up 24/7. My cage came off for holidays in the summer. I was told to put it on a month ago and she wants more controls. She prefers me locked and said I am more dutiful and attentive. We have a strap on for her when needed, a Doxy wand and the benefits of me being locked is better than the occasional me inside her. She is talking about consequences of not following instructions and asked where the paddle is. Fun times ahead

 

I think many of us would have been locked up a long time ago had they known about male chastity.

 

i am one of the lucky ones where my Domina has absolutely embraced my chastity and orgasm denial fetish. She loves being in control and has overcome Her guilt around denying me while She gets pleasure.

 

As I have said before I’m from the minority where chastity was all my Madams doing. He loves having me locked and being in control of me.

 

We started 1 jear ago….. first a few days max… and not outside the house …. In September we dit 44 days and she put my in panties and pantyhose all the time and took my old slips away….
Now we are 5 days far and she will go for more than 6 months … and she is waring the key on a necklace ❤️❤️

 

My partner is not interested at all. She says if I want to lock my little dick up I am more than happy to. She thinks my mind is twisted.

 

When we started I would say my wife enjoyed portions of it was unsure about how it would fit into our relationship. Recently we were talking and I mentioned that it was kind of scary how strict she had become. Her reply was “you know what’s scary to me? I don’t think I’d ever be want or able to go back now.” So yeah, I’m pretty certain she enjoys it.

 

My wife said the same thing. She's never going back to being vanilla, ever.

IMHO, once women get over the guilt of orgasm denial for us and keeping us in a cock cage, it's full steam ahead for them.

 

This has been my experience as well. My GF loved the idea of a chastity cage when we got into our relationship a few years ago. Once she found out how much she enjoyed exercising control over my ability to even get an erection, she was all in and continues to be. She finds it incredibly hot to have that kind of control over a man's sexuality.

 

My wife went though all the stages, now she's on the last one.

 

My wife was on board the first time we heard about male chastity. When we first started dating, she liked the idea because I wouldn’t be able to cheat on her. Later on she found orgasm denial worked well for her as a means of making more attentive and submissive.
She wouldn’t have it any other way now, and that’s been over 20 years now.

 

When my partner has the mental space for it she likes it. As she says all the time there is no problem with US, its everyone else thats the problem lol.

 

She like the benefits of it for her just not the effort on her part it takes at times. We're semi squabbling now over this.

 

What is the last one?
Stage??

 

I would add a 6th category...."likes the benefits, not into a lifestyle, and prefers the wearer "manages" the device for their relationship benefit". I make this distinction because not all partners who like the benefits are into any kind of chastity "lifestyle".....or at least that is what I suspect applies to some couples. Maybe this is a very small proportion of participants, but I expect it to be a meaningful set of couples in their own "journey" , at least for this stage of their journey.