What does Chastity actually mean nowadays?

For me, when I'm with my wife I make sure she gets there and gets to explode. With another man I prefer chastity so they don't spend time my penis and they get to enjoy and explore my enjoyment of their cock inside of me.

 

Taking this question at face value...you are on a chastity site (likely not accidental) and I'd think you've encountered the context of chastity, orgasm denial, etc.

(Written by a recipient of ruined orgasms) Imagine being denied for days, weeks, months and built up tremendous sexual tension and sensitivity. The combination of physical and mental/emotional buildup and desire. Feeling pleasure through the energy of someone else's pleasure (e.g. wife's orgasms while you are denied). The intensity builds up, yielding a higher high. "Perfect" is subjective. Like the suspense of a fine thriller movie, the process of a ruined orgasm builds the suspense, the thrill of the endorphines and pending explosion. Only to result in no crash of pleasure or the drop from prolactin. Held in suspension, the lack of full release creates a new tension that is frustratingly delicious. Eventually the body subsides from the intensity, pleasure and frustration, but the buzz of horniness remains.

Variety, experimentation and play. Why not play around with it?

Good O's, good teases, good ruins, all are a fine art of skill and mastered technique. Used to different delicious erotic effect.

 

And then again, for some of us it’s about a true, deep and unending sacrifice of sexual pleasure for the sake of a more profound emotional goal: absolute submission to the person we love and desire. I am not looking for orgasm, delayed, ruined or otherwise. I’ve been radically de-sexed, as if neutered - the difference between this and castration being that desire remains, leading to a state of permanent aching frustration.

 

Quite clearly, no one is “wrecking” anyone else’s pleasure. Everyone who is on the receiving end of orgasm denial has signed up for it, and many (I suspect almost all) have begged for it. One of the most frequent refrains here in CM is “I wish my wife would be more strict” - and whenever someone speaks of chastity becoming long term or permanent there’s a chorus of congratulations. I don’t see any victims here… except perhaps some unfortunate women who’ve been manipulated into enacting a sadistic role that doesn’t reflect their own inclinations, in order to placate their masochistic partners.

 

Being chaste applies to more the virtue staying pure side of things. Wearing a chasity device handing keys over crosses into femdom. I don't see anyone wrecking anything if person submitted to the terms. Personally it makes when I do get off better to me. I'd never permanently give it up.

 

Ah well that’s new! Have you accepted my argument from the other thread that a person “submitting to the terms” makes it ok?

 

Nope not hijacking threads to talk in circles

 

How does one “hijack” a thread?
Wouldn’t that require a thread to have some predetermined trajectory that could be derailed?

 

Kinda how you're trying to do now mentioning another topic in this one. I'll never take away from the importance or value of consent

 

No, I get that you’re a big fan of consent. It’s clearly of central importance to you. I just took umbrage at what seemed to be an insistence on it being a self evident good. I have a thing for women in high heels, but don’t think others should be criticised for liking flats, or bare feet.

 

For us it started as a way to enhance our play time and evolved into a life style. I would get all amp'd up waiting for release, willing to please her in any way, and when she cut me loose I was at the top of the mountain. Then it became control over my cock and pleasing her more and better. Even today after many years I look for her approval to be let out and would not go back and change a thing. To me, she is the most exciting thing in the world.

 

Everyone is wired differently and experiences satisfaction in different ways.. I agree that other then the dumb ass captions on some of the memes, most are here because for them it works how ever you/they define a satisfactory solution. In think in reality chastity is sort of a joke. In a legal married relationship as well as others, the person who has the lower drive becomes the gate keeper for sex. There isn't a cage in the world that cant be removed given enough time and desire so the cage to a great degree is nothing but a symbal of the game but useless for enforcement. When I read some of the memes posted the first thing that cokmes to mind is that the bitch is just stupid and at the very least I would completly cut her off financially or just leave if I didn't like her attitude and wasn't getting anything our of it. Trust me if the chaste member wasn't getting something out of the arrangement it would over and done.

 

Absolutely - the cage just guards against impulsive masturbation or unfaithfulness. The only thing that actually keeps someone chaste is their own commitment.