How to convert a submissive lady to a dominant key holder

She has her toy - You have your cage. Surprise her !

 

Just tell her about it. I ripped the bandaid off and finally did that myself yesterday and I wish I had done it sooner. She may want to learn more about it because of her desire to satisfy you. She may even be curious yourself. Or she may not want anything to do with it. Either way, you'll know. Have you two talked about kink at all?

 

I wonder if she’s on another website asking everyone how to turn her submissive husband into a strict, whip wielding Dominant.

 

Most women are open to it or enjoy locking up their man. Either they like sex with you, in which case locking and teasing you will make it better for her, or she doesn't like sex with you, in which case it will make it better for her too. Either way, her controlling your cock is better than not. If you take it logically, it's quite straight forward

 

If that statement was even remotely true, then you wouldn’t have so many threads from men on this site asking: How do I get my (wife, girlfriend, main squeeze, etc) to… ?

Also, more women would be asking how to get their men into a chastity device. Yes, there have been a few, but the percentages are telling.

 

In my case I suggested it she said fine whatever. After a week or so she starting benefits of it for her. As weeks went into months she was a convert. You have to have the nerve to first bring it up and at same time don't pester her to death once she says ok. She knows you're in chasity don't tell her every 15 minutes. Im convinced most men sabotage themselves in these situations.

 

I think too many men are scared of rejection.

 

So I hear about all of the benefits of chastity for her. The man becomes more attentive and caring towards his wife/partner. She gets as many orgasms as she wants without worrying about him. But I already soil her to death and am a good househusband. To top it off, she doesn’t necessarily want more orgasms. I’m trying to find a good extra benefit for her. She’s currently indulging me because it’s my kink, but I wonder if she’ll ever find other benefits for herself.

 

before my GF became my Mistress and Fiancee, She was anxious, and worried if She could meet my sexual/physical needs. we discussed things, and.... i am always available to meet Her needs for intimacy and physical satisfaction: kissing, hugs, massages and pleasing when She wants it! or when i can sorta sneak it in! She's still contemplating the milking schedule.

 

NOTHING will turn a submissive woman off more than a submissive man. If she is submissive then imagine you are throwing limps lettuce leaves at her and asking her if she likes it.

A submissive woman wants a strong man to guide, nurture, support and encourage her, as well as do the things in the bedroom like grabbing her hair and fucking her hard from behind while she begs for mercy she doesn't really want.

Why not rephrase the question.

• How can I get a lady to participate in my kink?
• How can I get a lady to play the sex games I want?
• How can I get a lady to do the sex things I want her to do?
• How can I get an unwilling participant to participate?

Why do you want to be in chastity?

If you just want to be in chastity because it turns you on then tell her.

If you want to be in chastity to refocus you away from your current cock-centric thinking then tell her.

But really, just be honest with her. The worst is she will dump you for the dominant man of her dreams, and that is okay because it allows you the freedom to find the woman of your dreams.

 

This is a simple question.

Tell your submissive that you are playing a new game, you are locking your cock away from her so she cant have it, and it is up to her to get you to give her the key.

That way you can fuck her till her eyes roll with a strap on, she will tease the fuck out of you to get the key. A good submissive will try very hard to get that key lol

As time goes by I am sure the dimension can be flipped so she has control of the key, but initially the game has to be under your control even if you tell her that you wont use the key yourself unless she succeeds in seducing you to give it too her.

 

…and he can order her to get on her knees and secure him in his cage. After it’s secured and she has the key safely locked in her vault, he can grab her by the hair and tell her that EVERY TIME she lets him out she going to receive a thrashing while tied to the bed. After which she will be repeatedly ravished until he’s exhausted. Then God help her if she hasn’t got his device securely in place when he wakes from his nap.


That’s how you get a submissive wife to keep you in chastity!

 

agreed!

think of it this way, too. The feminine reflects and amplifies. If you bring her strong, sexual masculine, she will respond with the feminine equivalent. It almost doesn’t matter what your kink is. If it’s genuine, your sexual energy and your true and excited about it, it will likely arouse her.

that said, she may need to overcome her own issues about her sexuality first. Help her with that…being supportive and giving her time and space, but create a safe masculine container for her to open up.

then have fun!

 

I'd agree with alot of this its human nature for a woman to want a dominant, take control man in most cases. At least in my experience. That said I think part of it too is taming the dominant man is an appeal to women. You start off meek or submissive it won't work 9 out of 10 times.

 

My ex was swtich. She had a lot of submissive wants. It is natural for a submissive woman to lock her partner she can get her domination from elsewhere... ie cuckolding.

 

Dude, Just be honest with her, Explain some perks for her. Explain some perks for you, But Just talk and be honest with each other.

 

What did you tell her?

 

I hope the customized cage we ordered will give my misses a bit more of a thrill in taking control.

 

Wonderful update.