Wife took the keys

[subnami]

Hello, I thought I would start a journal to share my journey. I had posted in the introduction, you can read that here:
https://www.chastitymansion.com/for.../wife-took-the-keys-for-the-first-time.55926/

But here is a quick rundown of my journey so far.

I started my interest in chastity in my late teens, getting my first chastity cage in my early twenties. No keyholder, so just locking myself for a couple days at a time. I met my wife when I was about 25, I kept my interest in chastity from her for a few years after we were married. She wasn’t very interested in keeping me locked up, but didn’t mind if I did it on my own.

I did this for a few years, locking up for a day, maybe two. I put the key on a necklace and I’d leave it on our desk when I put the cage on, hoping that one day she might take it. A few weeks ago I noticed the key was gone from the desk after my wife had been in the room, She had taken the key! She decided she wanted to give it a try for me.

After about a week of playing with the chastity cage she noticed some positive side effects in me from being locked and denied. She said I was more affectionate, attentive, and engaged. My Wife, Lady Yuna, decided she was liking the effects on me and that we should not play chastity anymore, but take it more seriously. I was very happy to hear this. So she laid down the basic rules; I am to stay locked unless she lets me out, no orgasms without her permission, no playing with myself, no porn. She says she enjoys keeping me locked up and I’m loving being locked by her.

That’s about where we are now. I’ll try to keep things updated

 

[PornAddict103]

Bravo! Happy for the both of you! Looking forward to reading your updates here.

 

[madams-sissysub]

Thanks for sharing!

 

[subnami]

It’s been 6 days since my last orgasm and was locked back up, a personal record for being locked by Lady Yuna. The past 3 days I’ve really wanted to get unlocked and have an orgasm, but I haven’t been allowed yet. Lady Yuna said she’s planning on unlocking me tonight, I’m excited for what’s to come!

Please feel free to ask any questions you might have.

 

[PornAddict103]

I gave myself a caged orgasm out of desperation about 3 weeks ago. I REALLY needed it... But just 6 days ago, I had a spontaneous (no-hands) orgasm while watching porn. I'm very sensitive and I try to go as long as I can without cumming, but my body at times takes matters in-hand (no pun intended) and overrides my will. I haven't had an orgasm out of the cage in over 2 and a half months and my body is going crazy over it.

 

[subnami]

*Update*

Last night we had a chance to play around. Lady Yuna’s new dildo had arrived, so I strapped it on over my chastity cage and we gave it a try. She said it was ok, but that she’d rather have the real thing. Then she unlocked my cage and we had sex. After we were done, I was sitting unlocked and she walks by and asks “Are you locking back up?”. I think she was just wondering, but I took it as a queue to put the cage back on.

Today I’ve been feeling really tired, kind of depressed. Lady Yuna has said she’s noticed this before in me, that the day after we have sex I get like this. It feels like such big shift in my mood this time.

 

[PornAddict103]

*Update*

Last night we had a chance to play around. Lady Yuna’s new dildo had arrived, so I strapped it on over my chastity cage and we gave it a try. She said it was ok, but that she’d rather have the real thing. Then she unlocked my cage and we had sex. After we were done, I was sitting unlocked and she walks by and asks “Are you locking back up?”. I think she was just wondering, but I took it as a queue to put the cage back on.

Today I’ve been feeling really tired, kind of depressed. Lady Yuna has said she’s noticed this before in me, that the day after we have sex I get like this. It feels like such big shift in my mood this time.

Did you orgasm during your session with her?

 

[subnami]

Yes, I did

 

[PornAddict103]

Yes, I did

You're experiencing "The Drop". That's why you have a temporary change in overall attitude after your session. It'll pass in a few days but you'll get your enthusiasm back soon enough. I understand she wants PIV sex, but maybe the both of you could discuss gradually increasing your time locked up in your cage, or perhaps not letting you cum at the end of your session and locking you back up immediately as an "experiment" to see if it makes things any better. Alot of couples have success in these methods, so it may be worth a try.

 

[subnami]

Thanks for the advice, I’ll talk to her about it. She does still want me to cum, for prostate health. We’ve also talked about getting a prostate massager, I think that would help with the health aspect without the need for a full orgasm

 

[PornAddict103]

Thanks for the advice, I’ll talk to her about it. She does still want me to cum, for prostate health. We’ve also talked about getting a prostate massager, I think that would help with the health aspect without the need for a full orgasm

Well, I don't know about the whole prostate health part, as there doesn't seem to be any "official" study linking ejaculations to prostate health in the short or long term (it's probably a mute concern imo)... But I've heard wonderful things about getting "milkings" through prostate massages to alleviate the urge the urge to cum.

 

[RCcaged2023]

I'm still in the stage of self locking, every so often she will take the key for a few days. But we haven't gotten the the " let's give this a try" for real.
I'm happy for you. Hope you both enjoy the journey .

 

[ChazTD]

I'm still in the stage of self locking, every so often she will take the key for a few days. But we haven't gotten the the " let's give this a try" for real.
I'm happy for you. Hope you both enjoy the journey .

I know this feeling. My wife has recently taken the keys and I thought this is it. After a week she has unlocked me and not relocked. Even as far as saying she doesn't want me locked at work. I have given her control of my keys, and she chooses not to lock. I am trying hard to respect her wishes however I am missing not being locked. If I make it to the weekend, I think we have to have another chat about when I can lock up again.

 

[ChazTD]

My wife put my cage and key on the bed this morning before my shower. This is a sign to lock up.
I showered and then had to force my raging boner into my little cage, so good.
She has not said anything about it, but I feel this is the progress I was hoping for.

 

[subnami]

My wife put my cage and key on the bed this morning before my shower. This is a sign to lock up.
I showered and then had to force my raging boner into my little cage, so good.
She has not said anything about it, but I feel this is the progress I was hoping for.

That’s exciting, good luck!

 

[PornAddict103]

My wife put my cage and key on the bed this morning before my shower. This is a sign to lock up.
I showered and then had to force my raging boner into my little cage, so good.
She has not said anything about it, but I feel this is the progress I was hoping for.

I know it's a dumb question, but did you give the key to her immediately after locking up?

 

[subnami]

I got a new, smaller base ring for my cage yesterday. It fits more snug and secure now. With it being smaller I was a little worried how sleeping with it would be, but I didn’t any problems through the night.

Lady Yuna has a very busy job, so between that and the kids we don’t usually have much time to play during the week. I’ve been trying at night to give Her a back or foot rub, but I don’t always remember. Lady Yuna has been so gracious taking on this chastity kink of mine that I just want to be a good chastity boy for Her.

 

[PornAddict103]

I got a new, smaller base ring for my cage yesterday. It fits more snug and secure now. With it being smaller I was a little worried how sleeping with it would be, but I didn’t any problems through the night.

Lady Yuna has a very busy job, so between that and the kids we don’t usually have much time to play during the week. I’ve been trying at night to give Her a back or foot rub, but I don’t always remember. Lady Yuna has been so gracious taking on this chastity kink of mine that I just want to be a good chastity boy for Her.

I’m sure you’ll be very good for her… Just keep that mindset that you’re her good chaste and happy to serve her at all times and she’ll be happy in return. Stick to that and great things will be in store for both of you.

 

[ChazTD]

I know it's a dumb question, but did you give the key to her immediately after locking up?

I put the key back in her bed side drawer.

 

[subnami]

Last night I told my wife that if I stayed locked until the next day it would be a new record for me. She told me congratulations. So I’m still locked up for a new personal record of 6.5 days so far! It’s also been about a month since I last masturbated. Lady Yuna said she was proud of me for that, since that was one of the things we both wanted me to stop.

 

[PornAddict103]

Last night I told my wife that if I stayed locked until the next day it would be a new record for me. She told me congratulations. So I’m still locked up for a new personal record of 6.5 days so far! It’s also been about a month since I last masturbated. Lady Yuna said she was proud of me for that, since that was one of the things we both wanted me to stop.

Bravo! Keep it up!

 

[subnami]

*Update*

I think Lady Yuna is getting more into my chastity. She kept me locked up for a new record of 8.5 days and it’s been 10 days without a full orgasm. She’s said that She feels like She’s neglecting me if I don’t orgasm and She’s working on changing that mindset.

We had some time to play this weekend. Two nights ago Lady Yuna unlocked my cock and stroked it on and off for a while until she brought me to the edge. Then She let me suck Her nipples and use a vibrator on Her to get Her off. After, She asked if I would be upset if you locked me back up without letting me cum. I told Her I wouldn’t be upset and that I was happy with whatever she wanted, so it was back into the cage for my cock.

Lastnight she unlocked me and started stroking me. Again, on and off, teasing me. As my orgasm was building I let Her know I was really close. She continued for a moment more and then let go. I looked down and watched my cock throb for a few seconds before a small stream of cum dribbled out, a perfect ruined orgasm.

Lady Yuna is really turning my fantasies into reality and I’m feeling so focused on Her.

 

[subnami]

It’s now been 16 days since my last full orgasm. Previously my record was 7 days, so it seems Lady Yuna is liking me being denied. She did tell me not to worry, she’ll let me cum soon.

We got to play around this weekend. Friday night she kept me locked up while I licked and sucked her body until I made her cum. On Saturday night I strapped on her dildo and she rode that for a while before she decided she wanted my cock inside her. So she unlocked me to ride me and I sucked on her nipples until she had a nice, satisfying orgasm. I was not allowed to cum, and got locked back up in my cage.

I love that she’s able to sit on me and get herself off and I just get teased and denied.

 

[PornAddict103]

It’s now been 16 days since my last full orgasm. Previously my record was 7 days, so it seems Lady Yuna is liking me being denied. She did tell me not to worry, she’ll let me cum soon.

We got to play around this weekend. Friday night she kept me locked up while I licked and sucked her body until I made her cum. On Saturday night I strapped on her dildo and she rode that for a while before she decided she wanted my cock inside her. So she unlocked me to ride me and I sucked on her nipples until she had a nice, satisfying orgasm. I was not allowed to cum, and got locked back up in my cage.

I love that she’s able to sit on me and get herself off and I just get teased and denied.

I admit I'm a little jealous.

 

[subnami]

After 19 days without a full orgasm, Lady Yuna unlocked me, stroked me until I was nice and hard, then slowly sat on my cock. She worked Herself up on me and soon I was close. I let Her know, She started going harder and faster. She told me to cum and it only took a few seconds before I obeyed Her command and we both came.

She commented on how much came out of me. I cleaned up the mess then locked back in chastity. Lady Yuna asked how long I think I should go this next round, also telling me that She will still make it as long as She wants to.

So, it looks like I’m getting what I asked for. To be locked up except for when She wants it to play with it and only having an orgasm when she decides I can and not knowing when that is going to be. I love it!