Looking Back to the Start of Your Chastity

What did this turn into?

 

Wish I read how to measure properly for length before buying my first cage. My first cage the cb6000 I bought was way too long. Expensive mistake

 

Somewhere along the way you are going to realize that this is real when there is something you'd like try that involves your penis and you can't and never will because you don't have access to the key.

A little Chamois Butt'r under the base ring beneath the scrotum after every shower will eliminate chafing for good.

You don't need to orgasm ever no matter how much you want to.

 

I sometimes wish I had at least looked into circumcision and piercing when I was a lot younger. Of course I don't know whether those things would have been good or a complete disaster.

 

As far as the cage vs. belt question goes, it is purely an individual decision. Everyone's anatomy is slightly different, and as such, will be most comfortable with different devices. There's no right or wrong to it. Personally, I am in an Evotion Bijou, anchored to a frenum piercing. I've been in it 24/7 for over 6 years. I went thru a number of different cage styles, as well a couple of belts before concluding that the Bijou was the way to go. My sac is very small, therefore base rings fit very poorly. They are either so tight that the blood supply is cut off, and it becomes painful quickly, or it slips off easily. I tried a cheap Chinese belt, but couldn't get comfortable with that either. I had a leather belt for awhile (see in my photos) that looked great, but didn't really prevent access. So, I decided on a shaft-only device. For security, I decided on the piercing. In retrospect, I would probably recommend a PA. But I was nervous about harming the urethra, so I got a frenum. Unfortunately, my 1st frenum tore thru, and I had to start over. I eventually figured out that the key to a frenum is to get an adequate amount of tissue. Make sure that the piercing is deep (and wide) enough so that only the balls at the ends of the bar are visible at rest. I've had no more tearing issues, and it now holds my cage very stable. In fact, I just ordered a new Bijou because the old one was getting harder to keep free of odors, and a piece of the shaft broke recently. I may video the whole ceremony of placing the new cage and going "permanent" with a rivet when it comes in.

 

I wish I knew how little

I wish I knew beforehand how much wife would embrace this lifestyle. I really just thought it would be another toy in our sexual repertoire. Its slowly becoming more and more permanent. I write this as I sit here with my dick locked in a stainless steel cage and I dont have any clue when it will come off.

 

Great idea for a thread

Regarding cages I would say start off cheap on eBay with Chinese cages to get a rough idea of what you like. Metal/plastic/silicone, padlock or stealth lock, hinged ring or non hinged ring there's so many variations it's a bit of a minefield.

Regarding partners be patient, put yourself in their position and try to communicate as best as you can. Be brave and have those embarrassing conversations l. Make it fun and don't pressure your partner.

Be kind to yourself and don't stress about not being where you want to be straight away.
I'm in a good place at the moment but it's taken 5 years. There will be setbacks and days when u feel like giving up. It's ok to take a break when life gets in the way.

 

I am like you were. I really don’t want to pierce my urethra. She’s gotten to the point where she’ll consent to a frenum piercing, but she doesn’t love the idea of it. Do you know anything about a glans loop that Evotion does to keep the penis secured. I swore I read something on here like that.

 

My suggestion is to contact Evotion. They are very responsive to customer questions. Use the contact email on the website. Yvonne usually answers and is very nice.

 

Hello submissedtoher.
Thank you for your posts, they are informative and very nice to read. Am I reading this correctly, that you haven't had a PIV or penile O. for about 2 years?
Since you both have already achieved so much, wouldn't it be worth considering the introduction of regular chastisement so that you always know who you owe loyalty and obedience to?
Whether yes or no: I wish you long-lasting enthusiasm in your lifestyle and for you continued successful, permanent chastity (sorry for my faulty English, it is automatically translated from German).

 

Thanks for the cool thread

I would say to aspiring chastity players: don't rush it; take the time to find your proper measurements for a proper cage, if chastity is something that you're serious about pursuing long-term.

 

Exactly this!
I was talking to my wife about my current freedom and explaining that without the cage (or should I say denial) my life feels a bit like an evening after a tiring day at work; it’s good, but the enjoyment is muted.
The sex feels a bit like if I took away her vibrators; still good but it could be better.

 

Great thread. A lot has already been said.

Start slow. Slower than you think.
Don’t ignore the smaller sore spot or issue. Once addicted, and it will become an addiction, you will always come back to wanting the cage. And each time back, it will progress quicker and easier and be a longer duration until / if there’s another break.
Life will get in the way of the fantasy, and that’s ok.

 

No, we’ve had PIV in the last 2 years, I’ve just now been in a My-Steel full belt on and off for 2 years. We continue to just learn and explore living this type of relationship/ doing what works for us.

 

Shut up and let your keyholder decide (what, when, where, how, ... yes, all of it!)

 

I didn’t understand it at the time, but waiting beats wanking.

 

#2 - ball gap matters

#3 - a smaller device will be more comfortable in the long-run, and your first measurements will be too big

#4 - she doesn’t ever want to talk about it as much as you do

#5 - be patient above all else; her enthusiasm is inversely proportional to yours, less is more, go at the pace she’s happy with & not yours

 

That I would end up owning so many cages...

It must be 12 or so.

 

Go into this with the right frame of mind, or it won't work out...

 

Keep an open mind and keep it fun for both of you.