Boundaries

For me and her its feminized, sissification, branding, and scat. Pain and whipping is always within long established boundaries. Cuck is a stalemate, she will only do another guy if its one we share, meaning the guy does me too. I have a line on me doing bi, so she won't do another guy but she will do other girls while I watch.

 

Our boundaries:

Chastity: she can keep me locked as long as she sees fit. She’s learned with me along the way at what actually works for us. I can trust her to manage my caged life appropriately.

Bondage: she can do whatever she wants to me when I’m tied down, I know her well enough to not worry about harm.
I cannot restrict her at all. She knows me well enough to expect an experience she wouldn’t otherwise be comfortable with.

Pain: I have no desire to make her hurt. I’m open to it and she’s happy with her techniques rather than an enjoyment of the situation.

Anal: anything goes for me. We’ve experimented and found the right balance. Size is less important than sensation. For her… on occasion.

Rimming: yes please. Either of us. She restricts how long I can do so (she knows I’ll take it further) but she enjoys the feeling.

Sharing: we’ve discussed, but right now it’s not something we desire.
I wouldn’t want to be with another woman (probably the only man on this planet). I have my wife and she is more than enough for me. She also wouldn’t want to see that.
Watching her with a man is something I’d entertain if she so wished. She likes the idea but wouldn’t feel like she would go down that route without emotion. Sex isn’t just sex to her when it comes to penetration.
Watching me with a man is something she would be interested in. She loves that idea. She always pushes for more when I tell her of my past experiences.
Being with a woman is something she is increasingly hinting towards. That could be a life changer… or just an interesting experience.
It would never be cuckholding. That’s not us at all. Consensual non-monogamy will fit with us when the timing is right and we’re both present in the same room. I will never understand the fucking someone else for your own sake as much as she won’t either.

Watersports: she will under no circumstances allow me to witness her. She is however, very comfortable in tying me up and making me drink my own. That was something I didnt expect:
“There’s still more yet. Open up”

Scat: no thank you.

Feminisation: we went through lock down and had lots of time on our hands. Turns out I’m a very attractive woman all things considered. We wouldn’t do that in a sexual setting between us. It’s just a no. I don’t particularly get aroused, she doesn’t particularly want me to be a woman. We do enjoy how good she is at that art form though.
Think I posted some pics at some point too.

I guess our real boundary is quite clear. As long as we’re both enjoying it, we’ll do it. Why not?

 

Feminisation

 

A lot of my hard lines get softer the longer the denial lasts.

That being said,

these things are hard no's.
So are fecal matter and animals.

 

I'll never wear ladies clothing or be sissified in any way... I have no keyholder (yet) but I will not be anyone's bitch, as my chastity is masculine and not submissive. I like to torture myself to a degree by watching porn and getting all worked up not allowing myself an orgasm, but I will neither inflict physical pain to myself, nor would I allow any keyholder to it to me. That's where I draw the line.

As for soft boundaries, I'm always pushing myself to go longer without release but if things get too crazy and I start going literally insane from it, then I'll end the session early and give myself release before I do something stupid to myself out of desperation.

Don't get me wrong, I love being locked up and horny all the time, but I won't change who I am and I won't risk damaging myself for it. That's my 2 cents worth.

 

Boring

 

The kink community is full of immature narcissistic rule following rule benders most of whom cannot maintain a relationship past the first bad spanking (or six months, whichever is sooner), so it is not such a great example for anything aside something to avoid.

But anyway, our hard boundaries are; No treating the other badly, no taking the other for granted, no dismissing the other's feelings or thoughts.

However, boundaries are somewhat negative, so to switch it around; Treat each other with kindness, cherish each other, and listen deeply with understanding.

With the above, you can say "I'd like to fuck you with a latex horse cock while wearing ladies knickers" and while that may not happen, it may be a conversation starter that might open more doors than it closes.

 

Very well written and I see it the same way!

 

This is the best answer yet on this question! "No treating the other badly, no taking the other for granted, no dismissing the other's feelings or thoughts." -Perfect!

 

Humiliation/Denigration: No. At least not when it comes to body appearances, level of intelligence, and bullying, insulting, and narcissistic behavior.

Scat: No.

Cuckholding: She wouldn't want it. I would not either.

Feminization/Women's clothing/Makeup: No. Unless she wanted me to.

Embarrassment: Yes. (e.g., forced to wear women's stockings under my clothes with the risk of being seen; sent to the store to by feminine products, makeup, underwear, etc.)

Public display of submissiveness: Yes.

BDSM, Water Sports, Rimming, Pain, Chastity, Bisexual: Yes

That's the short list.

 

I started thinking about the answer given above by JaySaysYes ("No treating the other badly, no taking the other for granted, no dismissing the other's feelings or thoughts.") and realized that's really all you need. I'm open to discussing anything that doesn't include one of those statements. Having said that, I think neither off us would be into pain, disfigurement , urine, or stool,

 

Jay brought up a good point about putting kindness & understanding before boundaries.

 

Nah I would totally eat my mistress scat. Why wouldn't I? She has resisted so far. I want to see if it's possible. We've done everything else.

 

I’m right there with you. Those things aren’t for me. She does use my ass in every way she wants but men are not for me. Not knocking those who enjoy men, being feminized or sissified but I’m very straight and that’s also how she wants me. Now that’s not to say we wouldn’t entertain the idea of bringing another male or female in the room with us. She has used words/dirty talk which is along those lines while pegging me which is fine. I think she feels more dominant when saying them so I don’t mind. Permanent lock up is also a no. There is nothing in the world like releasing together at the same time now and again. Tried the whole pee thing because it really turned me on thinking about being under her. After drinking it straight from her I quickly realized it was a no! Now if she told me to do it again… I wouldn’t argue lol!

 

I only wear my wife's panties, and she gave me a couple of her undertops but she stopped allowing me to wear the two dresses she gave me. She also helped me pick out a couple of bra's to wear.

I asked her to give me permanent orgasm denial and I only had 2 ruined orgasms so far this year by mistake. We have sex multiple times every day and I even get penetration when I take Viagra, and even blowjobs, I just don't cum.

She allows me to drink her pee every day and uses me as her toilet paper when she does number 2. She just says "I have to go the the bathroom" and she tries to make it messy for me. I always lick her very clean and do a better job than toilet paper.

 

I had a few hard limits when we started, mostly we discussed mine because she was going to be in charge so there would be no chance of me crossing a line without her initiating it.

Hard limit 1, No financial domination. I was recently divorced and had no intention of being in the dark about my finances again, or being helpless that way.

Hard limit 2. I have a child, and have him half the time, and my decisions with parenting and our dynamic doesn’t factor in. She might be in charge of me, but when my dad hat is on, it’s on firmly.

Hard limit 3. No service maid stuff. I had no intention of running around the house dressed like a maid doing ridiculous chores just to earn the occasional orgasm.
(This limit was dropped when she expressed interest and I agreed to try it. I surprisingly found it erotic to please someone in that way and have agreed to continue.)

Hard limit 4. No cuckolding. I had no desire to watch her get railed by some guy.
(I have since then dropped this limit, not so much because I want it to happen, but want her to be sexually free to be in charge of her own sexuality without restraints. I do admit that now that we have begun this, I find it hot and would be ok with it. She has said she would not do it unless it was the perfect scenario, and with me there.)

Hard limit 5. No extreme pain. This is still a limit, but our definition of extreme changed. Ball torture, slapping etc is fine, paddling spanking and all that. What I had a limit about was blood, cuts, mutilation, insertion of weird objects into my penis and that kind of stuff. So we are on the same page now.

Hard limit 6. Potty stuff. Self explanatory. If she wanted to pee on me I wouldn’t care but it would do nothing for me. The other potty stuff is strictly a no go. She is totally on board with this rule.

Many of our limits have either been modified, or abandoned completely. We change our viewpoints as we grow, so it makes sense that the more we experience, the more we have the opportunity to change.

 

Our agreement is that for the indefinite future and most likely for ever, my wife will completely control my every sexual experience, accepting any use she may have for me regarding her pleasure. I will never be allowed to initiate or independently experience any kind of sexual activity. She has all of the control and can use the power exclusively as she sees fit.

Within that framework, we have the following agreements about limits.

Safewords are expected, respected without reservation, and can be used by either of us to slow down any activity or stop it completely.

Scat - hard limit

I am to be allowed regular communication opportunities to tell her honest feedback about whatever activity she's had me do, how it went for me, did I enjoy it, did I dislike it, and so on. I also get the opportunity to tell her about things I'd like to do.

She can then totally disregard everything I've said if she wishes, or can consider adjusting future experiences in response to my feedback if a she so desires. She can take my expressions of dislike as a motivation to repeat the disliked activity if that would make her happy.

She can alter any aspect of my appearance, clothing, hair style, facial and body hair, clothing choice. With one expectation, she cannot change anything if there is a reasonable expectation that it could affect my career. I trust her to determine exactly what that means practically.

She may not expose publicly, details of our status and kinks where such public information could also affect my career.

She retains the freedom to expose my status to anyone she wants, without my consent, unless that person is involved in my professional life, or could be a person that we have cause to distrust.

In short, I won't eat shit, but will be expected to do absolutely anything else she chooses, so long as it can't hurt my career.

We're not FLR. We are a full time, consensual, total power exchange couple regarding sexual matters only.

 

*any else she chooses so long as the activity is legal.

 

Mine are below,
- No sissi play/ me wearing feminine clothing. Big turn off.
- No involvement of bodily fluids, like spit, urine etc
- Neither of us would involve any 3rd party into the dynamic. If our lifestyle is to be shared with anyone, it has to be with mutual consent.
- No public display of the femdom aspects of our life.

 

I dont have any boundaries, i'll try anything, but never had the chance
to.....
suck a cock
Watch my wife with another guy
but they wouldnt be a boundary